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Chris LoCurto


May 9, 2011

Be Quiet


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There are so many times in this life that the hardest thing in the world to do is to be quiet. Even when we’re all by ourselves, the super highway of thoughts never seem to stop. When I get away from the chatter of people, all I hear is the chatter of my own mind going a thousand miles an hour.

Being a high D, that’s just how my mind works. Did I make the right decisions today? Was I rude to the cashier at lunch? Why does my dog love me so much? I really need to call my parents! I need to call my Uncle Benito in Italy! I so wish I had a new pair of jeans that fit!! Anyone else feel that way? Especially about the jeans? (I know, it’s a weight thing.)

It’s during these times that I also have a tendency to doubt that everything in my life is going the way I think it should. That I’m doing exactly what I should be doing. I allow things to creep into to my brain that tell me I should be worried, I should panic, I should make some drastic changes. And although I am so not the kind of guy who normally asks God why something is the way it is, but I have done it…once. :-)

I still don’t have the much-needed answer on that one thing, but it’s not always for me to know God’s ways. No matter how frustrating, no matter how painful, sometimes He just doesn’t clue me in. Or perhaps, I just don’t get quiet enough to hear the answer. As a dear friend of mine Ron Cook reminded me, God never stops talking to us, we just have to learn what His voice sounds like! The problem, I believe, is sometimes we’re not actually listening.

There is one scripture I have…clung to in times like this. Psalms 62:5, “My soul, wait silently on God alone, for my expectation is from Him.” It took me a long time to figure out what that actually meant, and I’m sure I still only understand part of it. What I have learned is that I have to quiet the craziness that is inside of my head. I need to calm my soul down and allow God to do His thing. Sometimes, in those moments, I’m actually able to hear what He’s trying to say.

The things I couldn’t hear over me! If I will trust what Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”, then I can trust that He will show me the answers that I need. That He will make a way for the things that He wants in my life. What’s the worst that could happen? I spend some time focused on Him instead of me, and at least it should be calming to the super highway in my head. And who knows, maybe someday I’ll even get that pair of jeans I want so badly.

Start this week out right and spend some time waiting to hear from God. If you do, I’m sure He will tell you to spread the word with this post. ;-)

  • lance cashion

    Yes, devotional time consisting of reading the Bible and praying will make or break my day. If I can start my day by engaging in a conversation with God, that conversation often continues throughout the day. 30-45 mins before the rest of the house is awake is pure gold.

    Learning the Entre stuff was a brain-crusher (for me), I can only imagine the intensity of teaching it properly. Good stuff.

  • Jana Botkin

    When you have found a way to still the inner chatter, please share it with us. Please?? The thing that works best for me is writing down whatever pops into my head so that I’m not worried about forgetting it. Then, the struggle is to not immediately begin planning how/when to tackle the items on the list. And, the most helpful information I’ve ever read about learning to hear God is John Eldredge’s book Walking With God

    • lance cashion

      Jana, checking out Eldredge’s book on Amazon now. Thanks for the info.

      I’ve shared this before somewhere else (a bit off topic, but that’s how I roll). I found a good way to get rid of stress and endless ‘chatter’ that occurs between my ears.

      Stand up and balance on one leg with the other extended straight out with your foot raised about knee height. Rest both arms by your side. Stare at one point on the wall in front of you or the toe of your raised foot. Count to 60 as you breath slowly and balance.

      Your brain is consumed in preventing your from toppling over that there is little room for stress or chatter. After completing this silly looking exercise twice, I’ve forgotten whatever non-sense was going on.

      over and out!

      • Chris LoCurto

        Sounds promising. :-) I can also tell you that when I get done teaching 3 intense days of EntreLeadership, I have no thoughts left.

      • Jana Botkin

        Hope you enjoy the book, Lance. Thank you for the interesting exercise and for not addressing me as “Dude”!

    • Chris LoCurto

      The only thing I’ve found is finding finding a time, usually early in the morning, to spend time without anyone or anything around. Then I spend most of the time fighting back all of the thoughts that want to invade my brain. It won’t happen the first time, but after awhile, you can do it.

      I do have a great friend who gets up every morning and writes a “brain dump” for 15 minutes. No matter what enters her brain, it goes into the dump. That helps her to free up her mind.

  • Anonymous

    Great post, CLo!! I needed to hear that today.

    • Chris LoCurto

      My pleasure! Thanks for the comment!

  • Kim Little

    Now I’m wondering if one of the voices I’ve had in my head lately is yours…or God’s….telling me to shut up and listen. This was creepily totally what I needed to hear today. Thanks CLo.

    • Chris LoCurto

      HAHAHA…uhhhhh, sure. :-)

  • lance cashion

    I’m a high D as well. Add ADHD to the mix and we have a recipe for… How ’bout those Mavs? (Sorry)

    I deal with a constant struggle of pride vs doubt. It’s endless. In any event, I recently learned to focus thoughts on God’s greatness, providence and grace. When we see our trials and problems in light of God’s supreme power and grace, our trials and problems shrink. It’s like he’s saying; “Dude, I sent my prize possession to die for YOU. How does your problem compare to the experience of my Son on the cross?” (Note: I’m sure, God does not use the word ‘dude’, but I respond to the word ‘dude’ better than my own name). The truth is, while God cares very deeply about me, my problems are insignificant in light of God’s power. There is no room for anything else when we are glorifying God. (Easier said than done as every moment is a chance to erect an idol that steals His glory).

    When it comes to patience, that’s simple. All one must do is read the Bible. The entire book is about God’s patience with man. God has been EXTREMELY patient with us. I run into the most trouble when I attempt to run in front of God.

    Great post man!

    • Chris LoCurto

      Dude, I think you need to do a guest post! Great response. Oh, I’m sure He uses dude! :-)

  • misty

    Be Still and Know that I am God!

    • Chris LoCurto

      Amen sister! Amen!

  • Joel Fortner

    It seems you’ve been thoughtful as of late, Chris! When I read this, I thought it connected well to my recent blog post called ‘Look Up.’ At times, we just need to, as you said, be quiet or change our view. I think there’s much to be gained from changing our routines and daily thought patterns that tend to contrain us.

    • Chris LoCurto

      Dude, I love that post! Great job.

      For those reading these comments, be sure to click on Joel’s post for another look at listening to God!