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Chris LoCurto


July 15, 2014

10 Signs You’re Not Emotionally Strong – Part 1 [Podcast]

It doesn’t matter what position you have in a business, if you’re a team member, leader or entrepreneur there are so many of us struggling in the area of being strong emotionally.

What does it mean to be emotionally strong? Other people’s actions can’t tear you down or affect you or stress you out. You don’t have problems making decisions and you’re content with life. You’re happy and everything in your world is going well. Even if there are struggles or problems, you’re able to get through decision-making processes and be strong.

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Signs That You Might Not Be Emotionally Strong

  • If you’re believing the lies people tell you or have told you. If you’re acknowledging the voices that tell you you’re not good enough, whether internal or external, your emotional strength is being attacked. This is self-sabotage. God loves you exactly where you are, He just doesn’t want to keep you there, he wants to make you better. If you’re in the worst time of your life, God loves you and you’re good enough. Check out this past podcast that dives into the lies we believe –
  • If you’re codependent. Codependency happens when you’re relying on another relationship and that relationship becomes more important than you as an individual. If you’re focusing on taking care of someone in a way that puts you second, you’re codependent. Low self-esteem makes you believe you’re not good enough so you focus on someone else to make them great. They may not even want that attention. In some instances, it becomes manipulation from the person receiving your attention.
  • If stress is destroying you emotionally, physically or spiritually. If you’re down or not creative or not wanting to move forward, you’ve got to get to the root of the stress. What’s causing you to not sleep or feel overwhelmed?
  • If you’re not living life and doing what you want. When you’re struggling with emotional strength, your life is not your own. You don’t take trips or take risks. You’re not living life to the fullest. What’s holding you back? What’s keeping you from living your life?

These are just some of the areas that keep you from becoming emotionally strong. We’ll dig into Part 2 of this topic on the next Chris LoCurto Show. Be sure to check out LifePlan and contact us today to get more information about this life changing process.

Question: What do you think of this type of content?

Please share your thoughts and share this podcast with family, team members and friends that need this information.

  • Jana Botkin

    Catching up on the podcasts, I saw these 2 about emotional strength (or lack thereof). I’m always evaluating why my art business is or isn’t doing well, so thank you for adding another aspect to think about. It’s a lot to digest (but stress might be interfering with my digestion!)

  • RJ

    Chris – This content is amazing and invaluable! I personally did not realize some of the issues going on behind the scenes of life and how they affected my attitude and interactions. You have a gift and I thank God that you are sharing this stuff with us. Blessings upon you and keep up the good work!

  • Michelle

    This type of content is the bomb! Just what I needed as a leader. This is perfect for where I am at currently! Love you and your team keep it coming!!!!!

    • Chris LoCurto

      Yes!! Thanks for putting a smile on my face Michelle!

  • Nathaniel Holzmann

    Thanks for this great podcast, Chris. Love the content. I’m definitely looking foward to hearing Part 2.

    I’d also love to hear a podcast on “How to develop your Emotional Strength” or, even more relevant, “How to Strengthen Others”. As a leader and parent, I see many times where I’m interacting with people who need a ‘nudge’ in the right direction. I’d love to hear thoughts/tips/tricks and encouragement from your many years of experience.

    • Chris LoCurto

      Great input Nathaniel! We will get to work on that.

  • Jon Stallings

    Very important topic Chris – Probably the majority of us have dealt with one or more these issues. Sadly many never find a way to break out.

    • Chris LoCurto

      Thanks Jon! I will bring out more like it.

  • Joshua Rivers

    I definitely love the content you bring. You help to bring a balanced look at life. Like with the wheel of life, things get bumpy and out of control if we’re not bringing attention to it.

    • Chris LoCurto

      Very well put brother! I needed to hear it that way.

  • Wes G

    I agree with your whole picture approach to growth in that personal development is equally important as the traditional business leadership teaching. It’s all good stuff and I like a good mix.

    What do I want to hear? We’ll since you asked…..I get the most out of conversations with real business leaders, not necessarly the glorified Gary V’s and Seth G’s but the ones one the ground busting it every day that are facing the same challenges all business leaders face. I find the Q & A conversations with them or success stories from them to be very helpful and encouraging.

    One of my favorite podcasts from the past has got to be the one you did with David Morris of Dillanos a few years ago. Then again I may be biased, their coffee is pretty freak’n awesome.

    • Chris LoCurto

      HAHAHA!!! To quote one of my favorite comedies So I Married An Axe Murderer, “They put an addictive chemical in it that makes you crave it fortnightly!”

      Thanks for sharing this Wes. I believe a lot of folks feel the same way.

  • Jennifer

    You say you can read people well. Chris, you just read me like an open book and we have never met! Hard to say this in such a public way, but I shed a few tears today at work when you said so assuredly that I am enough, that God loves me just where I am. I knew that but to hear it just broke through all that self doubt. I needed that and the information you shared in the podcast. I wish you, your family, and your staff the very best in everything. Please keep up the great work you are doing.

    • Chris LoCurto

      Thank you so much for telling me this Jennifer!! This is exactly why I do what I do. I KNOW God wanted me to share this message so He could reach your heart and tell you that you’ve always been good enough.

  • Scott


    I think the biggest factor that plays into a lot of these is “fear”. Given the nature of the current economy, people are afraid to step out and pursue their dreams. I know I was for a while. From personal experience, I can say that I was scared of the unknown. Obviously I should’ve trusted God more in this situation. I was in a job that payed twice what I’m making now and loving my time living in Europe but I hated my surroundings at the work place, I was stressed out all the time, and something needed to change.

    Luckily I prayed through it and stepped out in faith and God opened up an amazing door to a dream job I never thought I would get, so praise the Lord for that.

    Getting others over that fear is hard to do. However, there are so many stories of Dads and Moms being happy at their vocation which carries over into the home that hopefully we can encourage others to do the same and step out in faith.

    Specifically pertaining to your post, this could be leaving their current working situation to pursue a dream (believing the lies), finding a mentor that will build you up but also force you to make your own wise decisions (ridding yourself of co-dependency), maybe talking to a pastor or therapist to find out what the root issues are (stress, I know talking to a pastor helped me), or really creating boundaries at work and home to create a great balance (not living your life).

    • Chris LoCurto

      Scott, this is great stuff!! Thanks for your input. It’s amazing how much faith crushes fear!

  • Teresa O’Kelley

    Chris: this smacked me in the face! And I appreciate it! I recently learned about emotional intelligence, but didn’t think about emotional strength. You put a name to something I recognized earlier this year. Thank you putting this out.

    I appreciate that the content was separated into two sessions because it gives me an opportunity to marinate on the information and identify my areas of opportunity. Thanks for being real and honest. Keep it up!!

    • Chris LoCurto

      This is awesome to hear Teresa! Thanks for the comment, and I can’t wait to see how you like part two!

  • Cody Alley

    This is good stuff, Chris. It’s given me a lot to think about…especially the “are you not living life” part.

    Thanks! :)

    • Chris LoCurto

      I’m so glad to hear it Cody! Let me know what you think about part deux

  • TroyD

    Man, I have some catching up to do with the podcasts. Reading this introduction sounds like a personal letter to me. Thanks Chris!

    • Chris LoCurto

      Haha…I hope that’s a good thing Troy. :)

  • Lily Kreitinger

    Great episode! I need to rewind and listen again. The shocking part for me going through LifePlan is that I could have checked all of the above. I didn’t know why I was so stuck and now I do. Working through eliminating the lies, changing my thinking and getting stronger has been really challenging, but totally worth it. My husband said to a group of friends “I got my wife back” :)

    • Chris LoCurto

      I love that!! That’s is so fantastic to hear Lily!! I’m so proud of you!

  • Chris

    I honestly really enjoyed and appreciated this podcast topic, and it’s timing was impeccable.

    I have always been a top performer in school and on the job, but when relocated to be closer to my girlfriend I had a boss that didn’t support me. Many of the things she told me unfortunately stuck with me. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t carrying at least parts of them with me still. I recently had an conflict at work (Yay office gossip machine), that completely stressed me out and made me question my value on the job (yay two-for-one!) – in large part to the lies I’m carrying. While it will probably be easier said than done, I am working to let the lies go and not stressing over potential consequences.

    Thanks for the message, and I look forward to next week’s!

    • Chris LoCurto

      HAHA…so glad you still have a sense of humor through the crap Chris! I’m so glad this episode hit home.

  • Bruce R. Cross

    Please keep beating the drum; the content is highly valuable and speaks directly to the inner man and to me personally. Thank you!

    • Chris LoCurto

      My pleasure Bruce! Thanks

  • Zechariah Newman

    I love it Chris! I think this type of content is very important. Keep it up:)

    • Chris LoCurto

      Thanks Zechariah!

  • William Reed

    Chris – I really appreciate this type of content. I need someone to kick me in the pants every once in a while to make sure that I am consistently growing in my character. As a leader, I’m out front and I’ve tried to keep my lines of communication open with my direct reports but it is difficult for them to approach me on “smaller” character issues (it would be for me). Your message today helped me get that the feedback / counsel / rebuke and keep small things small before they conflagurate into something huge. Thanks

    • Chris LoCurto

      Thanks William for the fantastic input! You also get the award for most interesting word of the day!