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August 19, 2014

Parents, Kids, Conflict…OH MY [Podcast]

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We are talking about conflict in the family on todays show. More specifically – How do I get my children to get along?

We naturally think ” my kids should just get along.” But we have to remember that with kids it’s no different than the people you work with.

The reason why kids (or anybody else) are in conflict is because they don’t understand each other.

Translating that into business and for your team, when we have two people that are in conflict, almost every time it comes down to the simplicity of not understanding each others personality styles.

So first off, you have to know what personality style your kids are. You do know what your kids personality styles are…don’t you?

Next you have to explain to the kids what the other siblings personality styles are. Explain to them what matters most to each sibling, why that’s important to them, where they struggle, etc.

When you do that you change the communication inside the family.

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Question: So…pop quiz – What personality styles do you have in your family?

 

 

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August 18, 2014

5 Ways To A Closer Relationship With God

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Finding your purpose in life is one of the greatest things you will ever experience. In LifePlan, it’s one of the highlights for every attendee; that and putting together what is most likely their first vision for their life.

But there’s a major key to discover the purpose that God has for you and that is…God. Yep, it’s a crazy thing, but the big guy upstairs has known what He’s wanted for you for a really long time.

5 Ways to a closer relationship with god

In the last episode of The Chris LoCurto Show – “Seeking God First”, we talked about our team devotional where we discussed Matthew 6:33: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

That’s when I shared how important it is to seek God, and I asked how many of you were “All in”, and a ton of you responded! So I thought I would take this opportunity to challenge you by giving you some practical steps to seeking God.

I don’t know if you’ve ever realized this, but every week you have 168 hours to use. If you work 40 hours a week, and spent 68 hours sleeping and eating, that would give you a total of 60 hours left to live the rest of your life.

Studies show that the average person spends 34 hours watching TV. If you add any family time and personal activity in there, how much does that leave for God?

Considering He’s your Father, and He loves you and knows you better than anyone, AND He actually has a plan and a future for you that’s better than anything you have on the table, don’t you think you should be spending more time with Him?

Start your morning off strong – As best as I can tell, Jesus spent every morning talking with God before He did anything else. If that was best for Him, shouldn’t it be for us? Every morning Jesus received blessing, and guidance, and love, and self-worth from God. Make sure you are as well!

Become a student – Every person needs a mentor or two. What greater area of your life to give focus to? Find someone who has a great relationship with God and ask for them to teach you how to do the same. Notice that I didn’t say find someone who attends church a lot, or does a lot of religious stuff, or talks Christianese well. Doing “church” or “religion” doesn’t mean you have a great relationship with your Father in Heaven. Believe me, I see a ton of people who are confused with that concept. Your relationship with God directly is paramount! Now, with that said, understand that I absolutely believe you should not forsake the gathering of the saints. Just don’t turn the gathering into a false belief of daily relations with God.

Set healthy boundaries – In 7 Signs You Self-Sabotage I shared that when you don’t have healthy boundaries, you allow people to manipulate you, take advantage of you, and abuse you. The very lack of healthy boundaries also keeps you from an intimate relationship with God. How? It’s actually quite simple – people without boundaries aren’t getting their strength, self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, etc. from God. Start by reading the book Boundaries! This is a great first step in taking care of YOU.

Worship Him like never before– I shared that the Jewish people believe, as well as I, that worshiping God is what you do during the week with his Children through your mode of work. In other words, if I do a great job during the week taking care of my clients and my followers, then I’m worshiping God. That in itself should absolutely change the way you look at your work. Focus everyday on what you can do to take care of God’s children, and I truly believe He will delight in it.

Keep the relationship open – Prayer is not something you just do in the morning, or when you eat, it should be continuous. As 1 Thes 5:17 says, “Pray without ceasing”. Saying Amen doesn’t mean that your communication with God is now done until the next meal. You grow your relationships with people by open communication, you should focus that even more when growing your relationship with God. Talk to him in all things.

If you will put these few things in place regularly in your life, I promise you will notice a phenomenal difference with your life!

Question: What ways are you inviting God in daily?

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August 12, 2014

Rules for Internet Business Success [Podcast]

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On today’s show we have author Matt Paulson, author of the new book,  40 Rules for Internet Business Success: Escape the 9 to 5, Do Work You Love, and Build a Profitable Online Business.

 

40 Rules for Internet Business Success

Over 40% of the Chris LoCurto Show listeners are entrepreneurs and another 40% plan on being entrepreneurs in the next year so this is a great topic for our folks to hear.

In this show we cover the first 5 of Matt’s rules in more depth and he shares his reason for writing such a timely book.

The Headlines

  • “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields folly.” (Proverbs 14:23-24)

  • Rule 1: Know Your Why

  • Rule 2: Excuses are the Fuel of Failure

  • Rule 3: Relationships Trump Knowledge

  • Rule 4: Become a Voracious Consumer of Content

  • Rule 5: Don’t Leave Your Family Behind

  • Matt’s top book recommendation: Business Brilliant: Surprising Lessons from the Greatest Self-Made Business Icons

 

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August 5, 2014

Seeking God First [Podcast]

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Today we are talking about seeking God. Seeking God first.

This topic came up during one of our team devotions. The theme of our devo was Matthew 6:33: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

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What does this mean? How does it apply to you?

That’s the topic of todays show.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Team Devotionals
  • Matthew 6:33
  • Chris is old
  • Do the diligent really prosper?
  • What is worship?
  • “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
  • You have to set aside time to spend with God
  • God doesn’t want fancy words…He wants your heart.
  • The more you seek God, the more your desires become His desires.

So…who’s all in? Leave your comment and let’s do this together.

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August 4, 2014

7 Signs You Self-Sabotage

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Self-sabotage is one of the greatest limiting factors to how successful you can be in business and life! And the crazy thing is, most people have absolutely no clue that they self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is one of the most destructive patterns I see in LifePlan no matter who the person is, where they come from, what their background is, or what their work position is.

Self Sabotage

While so many people define self-sabotage as alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and over-eating, there are a bunch of other ways we self-sabotage. Some are socially recognizable and judged according to a social scale, and others aren’t as easily understood.

This weekend I will be racing at Daytona for the first time. Daytona I tell you! And while that’s incredibly exciting, I can tell you that I started to self-sabotage myself with some pretty cruddy thinking. You see, this is only my second time back in the car this year. While you would think the old adage, “It’s like riding a bike…” would work here, it doesn’t. So let me update the adage for you – “It’s like riding a bike really crazy fast while fighting off other riders with 3 g-force turns and braking at 140 miles an hour…” yeah, that sounds about right.
So where did the self-sabotage come in? Well, I’m just a little competitive, and I know that everyone else has been to Daytona before, and they’ve all had a ton more seat time than me this year. Thus, I started in on myself with the, “You need to prepare yourself because these guys are all gonna be faster than you.”
I let that junk go on for about 15 minutes until I yelled at myself, “STOP IT!! You will do the best you can, and if you don’t place well, so what?! There will be many more after this.” And that folks, is what goes on inside so many of us day after day.

So here are a few ways that we tend to hurt ourselves by self-sabotage:

  • Procrastination – It is quite common for so many people to procrastinate when it comes to hard or difficult decisions. The thinking behind it usually comes down to two ways of thinking. First, if I don’t make a decision, maybe the whole problem/situation/scary opportunity will just go away. Obviously this is a false belief. Instead, what tends to happen is more problems stack up on top of the one we’re currently avoiding, and make it even tougher to handle. Second, We believe that it might just work itself out on its own. While there is a small chance that will happen, it’s definitely not the likely one.
  • Believing the lies – One of the greatest breakthrough tools I use in LifePlan is discovering the lies people have believed, that they’ve been told by family, friends, and even themselves. “You’re not good enough!” You’ll never succeed!” “You are a failure!” You don’t deserve…!” “You’re never right!” “You’re not worthy!” “It’s all your fault!” These are just a few lies that we believe. Unfortunately, so many horrible decisions can absolutely be traced back to the lies that we’ve been told, and told ourselves, that we chose to believe.
  • Blame shifting – Many times instead of taking responsibility for our own actions, we tried like crazy to shift the blame to other people or situations. For example, it’s not uncommon for people who are terrible at relationships, (Due to a lack of quality leading in relationships) to not take responsibility themselves no matter how much information shows them how they are struggling. Instead, they find every possible reason, no matter how untrue, to blame someone else for the reason they are struggling. This only results in an unrealistic view of one’s self, which hurts any attempt at personal growth.
  • Lack of HEALTHY boundaries – Notice I didn’t just say boundaries. Many people have boundaries, but since they aren’t healthy, they tend to be destructive. Today I am kicking off my 29th LifePlan already this year! WHEW! And I can tell you that in almost every LifePlan I’ve done period, I have suggested that the participant read the book Boundaries. It is by far one of the biggest issues we have in our lives, and again, it’s from a lack of proper leading in this area. When you don’t have healthy boundaries, you allow people to manipulate you, take advantage of you, and abuse you.
  • Feelings of not being “Good enough” – Lack of self-worth and self-esteem destroy us when we don’t have a strong sense that we ARE good enough. This belief system is usually passed on to us by parents who struggled with the same feelings, or by controlling and abusive parents. There is one thing you must must MUST know and that is you are good enough for God!!! You should NEVER try to get your self-worth or self-esteem from ANY person on this planet! Find it in the Father who knit you together. As I said in 10 Signs You’re Not Emotionally Strong, God loves you EXACTLY where you are, He just doesn’t want to keep you there. He has a much greater plan for your life!
  • Taking care of you last – One of the fastest ways for us to be destructive is to think that we have to put everyone else first. If you aren’t taking care of you first, then you will certainly become no good to anyone else. If you’re not finding ways to replenish you, then you’re going to wear yourself down. If you’re not finding ways to make yourself strong, then you’re going to cave in weak moments. Putting you last will only lead to greater weakness and bad decision-making.
  • Isolation – If you ask me what the greatest self-sabotage is, it’s isolation. In my mind, there is no greater destroyer to one’s self than to isolate with one’s own thoughts! If you have a good portion of your life filled with bad influence, lack of healthy boundaries, low self-esteem, then I can promise you that being alone with your own thoughts, which happen to be greatly effected by all of that crap, is a sure fire way to cause some serious damage to you! In isolation is where some of your worst decisions are made and beliefs are created. We weren’t made for isolation, we were created to commune. First with God, then with others. That order done continuously keeps us safe-er from self-sabotage in our own thoughts.

These are just a few ways we can be destructive to ourselves. And being free from the self-sabotaging behavior is one of the greatest testimonies we receive from our LifePlan attendees. If you relate to any of these, it’s time for your OWN LifePlan! Click here now and get started on your way to the greatest freedom and strength that you’ve known!

 

Question: How do you self-sabotage?