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October 29, 2014

Unleash the Power of Hustle with Steve Sims [Podcast]

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Unleash the Power of Hustle with Steve Sims

 

Ever wanted to get blessed by the Pope?
Maybe have a private concert with your favorite artist?
Ok…Ok…I get it, perhaps a private dinner at the foot of Michelangelo’s David while being serenaded by Andre Bocelli is more your thing.
(Here’s the pic)

Well today’s guest, Steve Sims, creates those kind of experiences for his clients. You will absolutely LOVE this episode!
It’s all about hustle and dreams.

Steve is truly the “Most Interesting Man in the World”.
He is the Founder & CEO of The Bluefish which provides “the highest level of personalized travel, transportation and entertainment-related services to corporate executives, celebrities, professional athletes and other discerning individuals interested in living life to its fullest.”

And…if you haven’t gotten started with the new lessons series, The Core – GET TO IT!
Theses foundational lessons have the power to transform your business and leadership. You’ll get lesson 1 immediately with lesson 2 dropping in the next few days. Sign up now – or after the podcast :-)

Click Here to Get Started

 

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why no one wants what they bought
  • The Entrepreneurial Two-Step
  • If it all comes down to passion
  • Why you have to stay true to yourself
  • Why you need to “Go Ugly” with your marketing
  • Steve’s awesome way of staying in touch with his network
  • How to make your clients smile…and call you!
  • The Hustle Keeps You Alive
  • Passion needs to be your drug of choice.
  • BE PASSIONATE – If you’re not passionate about it…why would anyone else be?

 

How to connect with Steve:

twitter.com/Bluefishgroup
www.youtube.com/user/BluefishGroup
www.facebook.com/BluefishGroup

How to be more interesting this weekend – http://tasteofblue.com

Do good while doing something awesome – http://www.bluecause.com/why-bluecause

 

Question: What is your dream experience? Be specific!

 

 

 

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October 28, 2014

How To Control Your Emotions – The Emotional Bell Curve [Podcast]

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Control Your Emotions

 

On todays show we are talking about the Emotional Bell Curve and controlling your emotions.
This topic was sparked by a recent temper tantrum I witnessed on the race track which resulted in a driver being kicked out of the championship race.  He lost his cool. He didn’t control his emotions.

He’s not alone! Many of us have a hard time controlling our emotional response in negative situations.  Well..the Emotional Bell Curve will soon become your best friend when you need to control your emotions.

Also, we started the new lesson series, The Core, yesterday. Theses are the foundational lessons I teach my exclusive coaching clients. The response has been awesome! If you haven’t gotten started…why?
Dive in and let me know what you think.

Click Here to Get Started

 

In this episode you will learn:

  • How to use the Bell Curve to control your emotions
  • Why poor performers turn to Facebook to “vent”
  • Why you need to reset your expectations
  • How to get to the High Performing side of the Bell Curve
  • Whether controlling your emotions determines your success
  • How to dissect the moment

Question: Where are you on the Emotional BellCurve?

 

 

 

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October 27, 2014

The Core – Free Video Series

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I am crazy excited to share with you my new FREE video series called “The Core”! It’s the core, foundational lessons I teach my exclusive coaching clients when they come onboard.

These are the lessons that successful leaders and entrepreneurs know to do everyday. In fact, they’re so ingrained in many, they don’t have to think about doing them. They just do it!

On the flip side, these lessons also happen to be the things that unsuccessful people aren’t willing to do. So many wantrepreneurs are looking for a magic pill, not the work it takes to be successful. Oh well.

But for those of you who are ready to take your leadership and business to the next level, you’ve got to watch these videos!!

Click Here to Get Started

Why did I create them? Because as our company has grown, we’ve discovered my time is becoming more and more unavailable. And since I have coaching clients that have literally been with me for years, I tasked the team to inventory my time, devote a portion of it to our current clients, open some space for new clients, and then put together these videos to help everyone else.

So here they are! Well, at least the first one. Jump in and watch, and let us know below the video what you think about what you learned!

>> Click Here to Get Started with Lesson 1

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October 23, 2014

Why You Are Not Ready for a Mastermind [Podcast]

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So I get this question all the time, “You don’t do the mastermind thing…do you?”
My response: “Well, YEAH…I do!”
Mastermind groups are powerful. They are a game changer for next level thinking.

Most folks talk about being successful but rarely ever do the things necessary to be successful.
Since masterminds are all about action, accountability, perspective, and community, some people just aren’t ready.
It’s easier to talk about it than it is to commit.

In this episode you will learn:

  • What it takes to be in a mastermind
  • Why next level thinking is crucial to success
  • Signs you’re not ready for a mastermind
  • The importance of gaining outside perspective
  • Why you can’t hide in a mastermind
  • The importance of community

Question: Are you in a mastermind?  Why? or Why not?

 

 

 

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October 22, 2014

How to Transform Your Health [Podcast]

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How to transform your health

Today’s special edition of The Chris LoCurto Show is crazy inspiring!

You know that I don’t just want you to learn about leadership. Leadership is not enough.
You have to be well rounded in your life. That’s why we talk about how to take care of your business, your team, your family, and you!

That’s why I’m pumped to have THE PALEOCHEF – Mary Shenouda, on the show today.
You may remember us talking about the incredible Unicorn Fuel coffee a few episodes back.
Well, Mary is the creator of that gem! Her instagram will make your mouth water.

In this incredible episode you will learn:

  • How to get started towards a healthier you
  • Why you can’t always trust the doctors
  • Paleo vs. PaleoYou
  • The truth about gluten & sugar
  • Why Mary doesn’t believe in cheat days
  • What you need to know about leaky gut
  • Why Good Fat makes you PHAT!
  • And a TON more!

Here are some of the links Mary references on the show:

Go sign up for Mary’s newsletter and give her a shout out on instagram!
Mary Shenouda – http://paleochef.com
Her awesome instragram: @paleochef

 

Question: What was your biggest take away from Mary?

 

 

 

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October 20, 2014

The Power of a Great Coach [Podcast]

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This is a special episode of the Chris LoCurto Show.
We are live at Barber Motor Sports Park in Birmingham, AL. (You may hear the cars and announcers in the background.)

We decided to take a break from the office where we have been working on something special for ya! More on that next week.

But in this episode we have a special guest on the show – my racing coach Duane Neyer.
This guy took me from average to grabbing the track record! Did I mention I got the track record? :-)

I learned early on in my career that if I’m the smartest person in the room…I’m in the wrong room.
I need to be in the room with people much smarter and faster than me and that’s why I have coaches.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Tips on becoming a better coach
  • Why coaching is so important
  • The importance of finding your baseline in racing and business
  • Knowing when to take baby steps
  • How to get to success
  • Why all coaches are not created equal
  • Who the worst clients are
  • And if winning is everything

Question: How have you been influenced by a great coach?

 

 

 

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October 14, 2014

Finding Purpose in Failure [Podcast]

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Finding Purpose in Failure

There are countless numbers of people who have a fear of failure.
We’ve talked about it a lot here on the podcast and blog.
We talk about it so much because we tend to forget that FEAR CAN CONTROL YOU if you don’t watch out.

So how do we find purpose in failure?
That’s what we dive into today on The Chris LoCurto Show.

If fear of failure is crippling you, if it’s controlling you, please look into LifePlan.
Your life does not have to be that way.
You can change. You can have freedom.
That’s what LifePlan is all about!

Question: Do you have a fear of failure? How are you overcoming it?

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October 7, 2014

The Bucket List [Podcast]

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What do baby sea turtles and Christmas shopping in New York have in common?

They are both on my bucket list. (It’ll make sense after you listen)

I’m amazed that most people still don’t have a bucket list or goals!
Today we find out why they are so vital and why you need them to get unstuck.

We revisit Zig’s Wheel of Life, and discuss how it helps us focus and distribute our time so that we don’t have major gaps in our life.

Life is more than one week of vacation a year!

If you’ve been putting off your Bucket List maybe it’s time to GET AFTER IT.

The Bucket List

 

Our Featured Dillanos Coffee for this episode:

  • Finca Potosi – Columbia
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  • Medium-Light Roast

 

Question: What’s one thing on your Bucket List? When are you going to do it?

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September 30, 2014

The Quarter Life Crisis [Podcast]

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We’ve got a hot topic on today’s show – The Quarter Life Crisis.

I see this issue come up a lot in LifePlan and it’s serious. You’ve got younger folks, maybe right out of college or even in their thirties, asking questions like:

“Why am I not happy with my life?”
“Why don’t I have the dream job?”
“Why am I not making the money I thought I would make?”
“Why am I so lonely?”
“Am I going to have to sit in this cubicle for the rest of my life?”

the quarter life crisis

In this episode we cover:

  • The causes of a Quarter Life Crisis
  • How to solve it if you’re going through it
  • How to know if you’re the cause of a Quarter Life Crisis in your kids (I may step on some toes!)
  • How to help someone who’s going through a Quarter Life Crisis.

This is a reality check episode…so let’s dive in!

 

Question: Have you had an experience with someone going through a Quarter Life Crisis?

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September 23, 2014

Q&A – Your Questions Answered [Podcast]

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On today’s show we have a special guest – YOU!

We receive a lot of questions each week and I thought it was about time we answered some of them.
The questions in todays show are amazing!
Here’s some of the topics we address:

  • How to find people to grow your business and where to start
  • How to incorporate your skills and passion into a business
  • How to overcome people’s negative opinions of you (especially when they are justified)
  • How to repair your reputation

Your Questions Answered

Here’s how to get your questions answered:

Find the “Send Voicemail” tab on the right hand side of ChrisLoCurto.com. (See screenshot below)
Do it now!
Leave us a message

 

 

If you heard Jamie’s question at the end and are wondering, “…so what’s the deal with this LifePlan thing?”, you owe it to yourself to check it out.
When you understand what’s blocking you from moving forward in life you can finally start living the life you were meant to live.
That’s what LifePlan is all about.

Click here to find out more.

Question: What question jumped out at you? What advice do you have?

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September 16, 2014

How To Get the Job You Want [Podcast]

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Today we are talking about how to get the job you want.
And to all the entrepreneurs listening…this applies to you too!
You’ll discover how I handle the interview process. Here’s a hint, it has little to do with a resume.

how to get the job you want

 

 

Show Notes:

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How To Get the Job You Want

When it comes to getting your dream job most people focus on the resume. A lot of career advice is geared towards resume tips and tricks.
I can tell you, that as an entrepreneur, a resume is not the thing that gets you the job.
It may get you in the door but it won’t seal the deal.

I’m looking deeper than a piece of paper.
I’m looking for you to show me that you can solve a problem that I have.
I’m looking for you to show me how you can make me money.
Do this…and you’ve got a job!

So let’s play a little entrepreneurial game:
In the comments section, I want you to sell me on how you could make me money. How could you be the solution to a problem we have?

The team and I will pick the best comment and The WINNER will get the PERSONALITY STYLES VIDEO – In-depth personality style training for FREE. That’s a $99 value if we choose your comment as the best one.
And you may just get a job offer too!
So leave your comment below.

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September 9, 2014

Starting a Business and Team Building with William Vanderbloemen [Podcast]

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Today we are talking about Entrepreneurship and Team Building with William Vanderbloemen, the founder and CEO  of Vanderbloemen Search Group and the author of the new book, Next: Pastoral Succession That Works

starting a business and team building

William VanderbloemenWilliam has an impressive story. He was a Senior Pastor for 15 years before making the jump to entrepreneurship.

Here’s a link to his full bio.

In this episode William talks about how he got the inspiration to start a business… to churches…in a down economy.

He also shares his definition of a dream job (it’s awesome!) and what he looks for when hiring.

His website is vanderbloemen.com and you can check him out on twitter and let him know you were listening: @wvanderbloemen

His new book, Next: Pastoral Succession that Works has a 5 Star rating on Amazon and some pretty impressive reviews. If you are in ministry I highly recommend you check it out.

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September 2, 2014

How To Hire Rock Star Sales People [Podcast]

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how to hire rock star sales people

Today we are talking about how to hire rock star sales people.

These are the folks that you need to build and explode your business.

You’ll find out the number one mistake when hiring sales people and the secret to finding the rock stars.

I also cover the two types of sales, inbound and outbound, and how to make sure you have a rock star in both roles.

Here’s the overview:

What’s the secret to hiring a rock star sales person?

Before we can get to the secret, the number one mistake is not understanding if the person that’s going into the sales role has the right personality style for the job they’re doing.

If you’ve got the wrong personality style in a sales role, it won’t matter how much money you spend educating them, incentivizing them, etc. No amount of motivation, tricks or treats will work.

If you take a High S or C personality style and put them in an outbound sales calling process, they’re never going to be rock stars in that role. To them it’s conflict. If you have someone that’s more High D or I, then they will enjoy the challenge. The more D, the less it’s conflict.

“But Chris, this person has been in sales for five years!”

They may have five (or more) years in sales. Do they have five successful years in sales? If so, what was their process before? Does it make the role they’re currently in? If they’re struggling, probably not. Where does a High S or C personality style flourish in sales, inbound calls. If the calls are coming to them and they get to serve the client as opposed to make a call or sale, the conflict drops considerably. Now, it’s a different story. It’s also not a role you’d want to put a High D or I personality style in. They’ll make it for a little while but eventually they’ll get bored.

Classic Example: I had a guy come up to me at an event and talk about how he’d been very successful in his sales role but the owner of the company was transitioning him to a different position – outbound calls. He was a High S with a decent amount of C. Of course he didn’t want to do outbound calls because it felt like major conflict. I told him to go back to the owner and explain why he was doing so well in his current sales role and make sure the owner understood why he was killing it in the inbound sales role.

Next, if you’re going to have a rock star sales person, they’ve got to understand who they’re selling to. Yes, they need to understand not only their personality style but the personality style of the customer too. You’ve got to make sure the personality style of the sales person fits the industry they’re selling to. If it’s a High D selling to a High S (ex. ministry), it’s not going to happen. Understanding who you’re selling to matters immensely.

If you haven’t walked through DISC with your team, do it today. Get personality profiles for your entire team here: http://chrislocurto.com/shop/

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Question: Do you have any Rock Stars on your team?
Who are they?
Give them a shout out and they may win a
FREE DISC Personality Style test!

 

 

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August 26, 2014

5 Unconventional Ways to Inspire Your Team [Podcast]

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You have to have an inspired team. That’s a no-brainer. If your team is not inspired they are not productive.

What do you get when you have an inspired team? What happens when you spend time focusing on inspiring your team?

That’s the subject of today’s show: 5 Unconventional Ways to Inspire Your Team

For me personally, when I understand that I have a purpose and am part of a mission then I tend to pour myself into that job. I bring my all. I bring energy and loyalty.

And if you’ve done a good job leading me, you will have my buy in…which leads to my ownership.

That’s what I want for my team. I don’t want somebody who doesn’t  feel like what they are doing isn’t bigger than them or doesn’t have ownership in their job.

I don’t hire a person who “can” do the job. I want somebody who wants to do the job. I want someone who says, “Chris – I want to be a part of this!”.

So here are the 5 Unconventional Ways to Inspire Your Team.
(If they don’t make sense just listen to the podcast.)

1. Take A Lap – Get up and get out. (It’s become a ritual for the Chris LoCurto team. )

2. Intentional Gelato – a great chance to teach culture.  Click her to find Gelato in your area. : )

3. Team Potluck – It’s not what you think…wink wink.

4. One on One Meetings – “It’s not you, it’s me.”

5. The Teachable Moment – cue Lightbulb.

Remember,  as a leader it’s your job to make your team successful, not the other way around.

Tell me below the 2 ways you are going to inspire your team in an unconventional way.

 

 

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August 25, 2014

Quick Tip on Managing Vendors

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Vendors aren’t always taught exactly what they need to do in order to be successful in their role. That’s why you can’t always assume that a vendor will do their job.
When you assume…you get in trouble.

This is especially true with vendors and deadlines. Without communicating clear guidelines and expectations, you may end up having to do their job.

When you set up vendors or your team for success, you get success.

Question: Do you have any war stories about dealing with vendors?

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August 19, 2014

Parents, Kids, Conflict…OH MY [Podcast]

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We are talking about conflict in the family on todays show. More specifically – How do I get my children to get along?

We naturally think ” my kids should just get along.” But we have to remember that with kids it’s no different than the people you work with.

The reason why kids (or anybody else) are in conflict is because they don’t understand each other.

Translating that into business and for your team, when we have two people that are in conflict, almost every time it comes down to the simplicity of not understanding each others personality styles.

So first off, you have to know what personality style your kids are. You do know what your kids personality styles are…don’t you?

Next you have to explain to the kids what the other siblings personality styles are. Explain to them what matters most to each sibling, why that’s important to them, where they struggle, etc.

When you do that you change the communication inside the family.

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Question: So…pop quiz – What personality styles do you have in your family?

 

 

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August 18, 2014

5 Ways To A Closer Relationship With God

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Finding your purpose in life is one of the greatest things you will ever experience. In LifePlan, it’s one of the highlights for every attendee; that and putting together what is most likely their first vision for their life.

But there’s a major key to discover the purpose that God has for you and that is…God. Yep, it’s a crazy thing, but the big guy upstairs has known what He’s wanted for you for a really long time.

5 Ways to a closer relationship with god

In the last episode of The Chris LoCurto Show – “Seeking God First”, we talked about our team devotional where we discussed Matthew 6:33: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

That’s when I shared how important it is to seek God, and I asked how many of you were “All in”, and a ton of you responded! So I thought I would take this opportunity to challenge you by giving you some practical steps to seeking God.

I don’t know if you’ve ever realized this, but every week you have 168 hours to use. If you work 40 hours a week, and spent 68 hours sleeping and eating, that would give you a total of 60 hours left to live the rest of your life.

Studies show that the average person spends 34 hours watching TV. If you add any family time and personal activity in there, how much does that leave for God?

Considering He’s your Father, and He loves you and knows you better than anyone, AND He actually has a plan and a future for you that’s better than anything you have on the table, don’t you think you should be spending more time with Him?

Start your morning off strong – As best as I can tell, Jesus spent every morning talking with God before He did anything else. If that was best for Him, shouldn’t it be for us? Every morning Jesus received blessing, and guidance, and love, and self-worth from God. Make sure you are as well!

Become a student – Every person needs a mentor or two. What greater area of your life to give focus to? Find someone who has a great relationship with God and ask for them to teach you how to do the same. Notice that I didn’t say find someone who attends church a lot, or does a lot of religious stuff, or talks Christianese well. Doing “church” or “religion” doesn’t mean you have a great relationship with your Father in Heaven. Believe me, I see a ton of people who are confused with that concept. Your relationship with God directly is paramount! Now, with that said, understand that I absolutely believe you should not forsake the gathering of the saints. Just don’t turn the gathering into a false belief of daily relations with God.

Set healthy boundaries – In 7 Signs You Self-Sabotage I shared that when you don’t have healthy boundaries, you allow people to manipulate you, take advantage of you, and abuse you. The very lack of healthy boundaries also keeps you from an intimate relationship with God. How? It’s actually quite simple – people without boundaries aren’t getting their strength, self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, etc. from God. Start by reading the book Boundaries! This is a great first step in taking care of YOU.

Worship Him like never before– I shared that the Jewish people believe, as well as I, that worshiping God is what you do during the week with his Children through your mode of work. In other words, if I do a great job during the week taking care of my clients and my followers, then I’m worshiping God. That in itself should absolutely change the way you look at your work. Focus everyday on what you can do to take care of God’s children, and I truly believe He will delight in it.

Keep the relationship open – Prayer is not something you just do in the morning, or when you eat, it should be continuous. As 1 Thes 5:17 says, “Pray without ceasing”. Saying Amen doesn’t mean that your communication with God is now done until the next meal. You grow your relationships with people by open communication, you should focus that even more when growing your relationship with God. Talk to him in all things.

If you will put these few things in place regularly in your life, I promise you will notice a phenomenal difference with your life!

Question: What ways are you inviting God in daily?

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August 12, 2014

Rules for Internet Business Success [Podcast]

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On today’s show we have author Matt Paulson, author of the new book,  40 Rules for Internet Business Success: Escape the 9 to 5, Do Work You Love, and Build a Profitable Online Business.

40 Rules for Internet Business Success

Over 40% of the Chris LoCurto Show listeners are entrepreneurs and another 40% plan on being entrepreneurs in the next year so this is a great topic for our folks to hear.

In this show we cover the first 5 of Matt’s rules in more depth and he shares his reason for writing such a timely book.

The Headlines

  • “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields folly.” (Proverbs 14:23-24)

  • Rule 1: Know Your Why

  • Rule 2: Excuses are the Fuel of Failure

  • Rule 3: Relationships Trump Knowledge

  • Rule 4: Become a Voracious Consumer of Content

  • Rule 5: Don’t Leave Your Family Behind

  • Matt’s top book recommendation: Business Brilliant: Surprising Lessons from the Greatest Self-Made Business Icons

 

How to stay in touch with Matt:

 

iTunes Shout Outs:

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August 5, 2014

Seeking God First [Podcast]

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Today we are talking about seeking God. Seeking God first.

This topic came up during one of our team devotions. The theme of our devo was Matthew 6:33: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

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What does this mean? How does it apply to you?

That’s the topic of todays show.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Team Devotionals
  • Matthew 6:33
  • Chris is old
  • Do the diligent really prosper?
  • What is worship?
  • “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
  • You have to set aside time to spend with God
  • God doesn’t want fancy words…He wants your heart.
  • The more you seek God, the more your desires become His desires.

So…who’s all in? Leave your comment and let’s do this together.

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August 4, 2014

7 Signs You Self-Sabotage

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Self-sabotage is one of the greatest limiting factors to how successful you can be in business and life! And the crazy thing is, most people have absolutely no clue that they self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is one of the most destructive patterns I see in LifePlan no matter who the person is, where they come from, what their background is, or what their work position is.

Self Sabotage

While so many people define self-sabotage as alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and over-eating, there are a bunch of other ways we self-sabotage. Some are socially recognizable and judged according to a social scale, and others aren’t as easily understood.

This weekend I will be racing at Daytona for the first time. Daytona I tell you! And while that’s incredibly exciting, I can tell you that I started to self-sabotage myself with some pretty cruddy thinking. You see, this is only my second time back in the car this year. While you would think the old adage, “It’s like riding a bike…” would work here, it doesn’t. So let me update the adage for you – “It’s like riding a bike really crazy fast while fighting off other riders with 3 g-force turns and braking at 140 miles an hour…” yeah, that sounds about right.
So where did the self-sabotage come in? Well, I’m just a little competitive, and I know that everyone else has been to Daytona before, and they’ve all had a ton more seat time than me this year. Thus, I started in on myself with the, “You need to prepare yourself because these guys are all gonna be faster than you.”
I let that junk go on for about 15 minutes until I yelled at myself, “STOP IT!! You will do the best you can, and if you don’t place well, so what?! There will be many more after this.” And that folks, is what goes on inside so many of us day after day.

So here are a few ways that we tend to hurt ourselves by self-sabotage:

  • Procrastination – It is quite common for so many people to procrastinate when it comes to hard or difficult decisions. The thinking behind it usually comes down to two ways of thinking. First, if I don’t make a decision, maybe the whole problem/situation/scary opportunity will just go away. Obviously this is a false belief. Instead, what tends to happen is more problems stack up on top of the one we’re currently avoiding, and make it even tougher to handle. Second, We believe that it might just work itself out on its own. While there is a small chance that will happen, it’s definitely not the likely one.
  • Believing the lies – One of the greatest breakthrough tools I use in LifePlan is discovering the lies people have believed, that they’ve been told by family, friends, and even themselves. “You’re not good enough!” You’ll never succeed!” “You are a failure!” You don’t deserve…!” “You’re never right!” “You’re not worthy!” “It’s all your fault!” These are just a few lies that we believe. Unfortunately, so many horrible decisions can absolutely be traced back to the lies that we’ve been told, and told ourselves, that we chose to believe.
  • Blame shifting – Many times instead of taking responsibility for our own actions, we tried like crazy to shift the blame to other people or situations. For example, it’s not uncommon for people who are terrible at relationships, (Due to a lack of quality leading in relationships) to not take responsibility themselves no matter how much information shows them how they are struggling. Instead, they find every possible reason, no matter how untrue, to blame someone else for the reason they are struggling. This only results in an unrealistic view of one’s self, which hurts any attempt at personal growth.
  • Lack of HEALTHY boundaries – Notice I didn’t just say boundaries. Many people have boundaries, but since they aren’t healthy, they tend to be destructive. Today I am kicking off my 29th LifePlan already this year! WHEW! And I can tell you that in almost every LifePlan I’ve done period, I have suggested that the participant read the book Boundaries. It is by far one of the biggest issues we have in our lives, and again, it’s from a lack of proper leading in this area. When you don’t have healthy boundaries, you allow people to manipulate you, take advantage of you, and abuse you.
  • Feelings of not being “Good enough” – Lack of self-worth and self-esteem destroy us when we don’t have a strong sense that we ARE good enough. This belief system is usually passed on to us by parents who struggled with the same feelings, or by controlling and abusive parents. There is one thing you must must MUST know and that is you are good enough for God!!! You should NEVER try to get your self-worth or self-esteem from ANY person on this planet! Find it in the Father who knit you together. As I said in 10 Signs You’re Not Emotionally Strong, God loves you EXACTLY where you are, He just doesn’t want to keep you there. He has a much greater plan for your life!
  • Taking care of you last – One of the fastest ways for us to be destructive is to think that we have to put everyone else first. If you aren’t taking care of you first, then you will certainly become no good to anyone else. If you’re not finding ways to replenish you, then you’re going to wear yourself down. If you’re not finding ways to make yourself strong, then you’re going to cave in weak moments. Putting you last will only lead to greater weakness and bad decision-making.
  • Isolation – If you ask me what the greatest self-sabotage is, it’s isolation. In my mind, there is no greater destroyer to one’s self than to isolate with one’s own thoughts! If you have a good portion of your life filled with bad influence, lack of healthy boundaries, low self-esteem, then I can promise you that being alone with your own thoughts, which happen to be greatly effected by all of that crap, is a sure fire way to cause some serious damage to you! In isolation is where some of your worst decisions are made and beliefs are created. We weren’t made for isolation, we were created to commune. First with God, then with others. That order done continuously keeps us safe-er from self-sabotage in our own thoughts.

These are just a few ways we can be destructive to ourselves. And being free from the self-sabotaging behavior is one of the greatest testimonies we receive from our LifePlan attendees. If you relate to any of these, it’s time for your OWN LifePlan! Click here now and get started on your way to the greatest freedom and strength that you’ve known!

 

Question: How do you self-sabotage?