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January 24, 2017

The 3 Skills Successful Entrepreneurs Share

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“The three skills entrepreneurs and leader need to master: productivity, discipline, and focus.”

Serving entrepreneurs with free, valuable and consistent content. When I hear these words, I think of my friend John Lee Dumas, host of the EOFire podcast. John is on the podcast and today we’re talking about what makes entrepreneurs and leaders successful… what sets them apart.

In this episode we walk through how to get to success through mastering productivity, discipline, and focus. Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • The Pomodoro technique
  • “How to win tomorrow, today”
  • The importance of having a vision for your time to utilize it
  • What’s in the Mastery Journal for you
  • A framework for new habits that WILL work
  • How to get an accountability partner that won’t let you fail
  • Masters in Training

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January 17, 2017

3 Lies Leaders Believe

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“Today we are talking about 3 lies leaders tell themselves daily…”

If you’re anything like me, these are things I’ve struggled with in the past…so many leaders get caught up in these lies. We’ll cover three of the biggest lies many leaders tell themselves, why, and what you can do about it TODAY in your leadership.

     1. “Leading people is like leading me”

Do you tend to hire people with personality styles that match up to you?

If you’re hiring just like you, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Each personality style brings incredible strengths to a team, and you’re missing out if everyone on your team is just like you!

On the other hand, if you have different personality styles on the team then I am going to guess that you may struggle with leading them according to their personality styles.

As a leader, it can be so frustrating to not understand why your team isn’t doing what you’re asking of them…or continually falling short in an area or role. If you find yourself in this place as a leader, stop and ask, “how am I leading them to success? Am I leading them based on their personality style? Is what I’m asking them going against their personality style?”

Asking the right questions is crucial, and I’ll dive into all the specifics of this lesson at the Next-Level Leadership Live Event.

Leading well, is leading your team in the way they receive information. If you need a crash course on Personality Styles, get the tools you need here.

If you want a successful team, you must lead them based on their personality style, not how you want to be led.

     2. “How I act and react, is how my team acts and reacts”

Many leaders believe everyone should respond to a situation the way they do. In leading, you must act and react in a way that is beneficial to them. Communication looks very different for high D’s than it does for high S’s. Your team needs to hear information in a way that will move them forward…sometimes for high D’s, it’s a two-by-four over the head.

You can’t just sit back and ask, “why are they not where I need them to be?” You have to be asking the question, “is this exactly the role they need to be in?” Put a plan together to make your team member successful, and they will get to where you need them to be.

     3. “How I hear and understand things as a leader, is how my team hears things.”

Years ago, I had an event coordinator working for me that was fantastic. Why? Because she thought the way I did. I just knew if I gave her information, she would make it happen. So I promoted her, and brought in another person to fill her role. I would say to my new hire, “hey, go do this thing.” She would leave and come back asking, “What exactly is it you wanted me to do?” She would go out again and then come back…”So, what did you want me to do?”

I could not understand why it was such a challenge. To figure out what was going on, I decided to go with this team member and see where the issue was happening.

I quickly found out, I was the problem.

I kept trying to lead her the same way as I did her predecessor. I kept assuming she would be able to do exactly as I was asking without giving any information…and that was my mistake. I went back and poured through her DISC profile, and saw everything I was doing to set her up for failure. I was expecting her to be the same, and not leading her in her strengths. She needed far more details. I also quickly figured out that her predecessor would always get it done, but with a trail of destruction in her wake. Highly detailed personalities need to be led in a completely different way.

The keys are understanding how each individual hears things, understands concepts, acts, reacts, and how they need to be led in their personality style. There are no hacks to this. You need to learn how to lead each person individually. It will make you a better leader.

To take this content a step further and apply it to your leadership and business everyday…learn the tools you need to lead your team confidently, scale your business the right way, and get out from under your daily tasks to become the strongest leader for you team, register for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event.

Here’s something you can do today, RIGHT now

Think about someone on your team that you’re struggling to lead…

  1. Sit down with their personality profile.
  2. Read through all the information and see if it leans in the direction of the role you have them in.
  3. See how they see leaders, projects, how they approach you.

And lastly…ask yourself, “what have I not led them well in?”

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If you need a crash course on Personality Styles, get the tools you need here.

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January 10, 2017

How To Lead Yourself, Starting with Mindset

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“Your personal life and your business life are intertwined..who you are directly impacts what you do in business.”

Your success in leadership starts with growing you, and it starts with what you’re telling yourself right now.

Our guest on the show today is a best-selling author, speaker, life coach, marathon runner, and host of the fantastic podcast, “Life Is A Marathon.” Bruce Van Horn is not only an inspiring coach, he is also a friend of mine.

Today Bruce and I dive into what it he calls, “ReStorying,” for individuals and leaders.

We’re constantly narrating a story in our lives.

                  E         +         R        =         O

             [Event]        [Response]     [Outcomes]

It’s not the events of our lives that determine the outcomes, it’s the responses to those events. We tell ourselves stories around these events.

It’s so easy to play the victim. It takes strength and courage to look at the same event and tells the truth, in a way that moves us forward.

In this episode we walk through ReStorying. Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • How story shows up in business, leadership, and decision-making
  • What ReStorying has to do with casting vision
  • How to inspire others
  • How to train your mind against negativity and criticism
  • How to build positive experiences into your life
  • The steps to overcoming the hardships you’ve experience
  • How ReStorying helps our focus as leaders

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January 3, 2017

The Game-Changing Power of Good To Great

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We were in a “life is good, but life isn’t great place.”

“Like everyone walking around we have stuff we’ve been through. We’ve had counselors over the years and learned and healed from it but not completely….”

Next-Level Life was the thing between us being 75% healed, and getting to a full understanding, clarity, and a rock-solid foundation for our family.

Before Next-Level Life, we were in a “life is good, but life isn’t great place.” We navigated through a lot of wounds but we were in a season of our life and marriage that I knew there was more. There was more freedom God desired for us, and things we didn’t want to pass on to our children.

Listen to Brent and Sarah’s full story here:

Q: What are some things you discovered prior to your Next-Level Life Event that were holding you back?

Sarah: I was a very big people pleaser, I would apologize for any little thing in my life. Very quickly you helped me to realize that it wasn’t my responsibility to make others happy, and that I wasn’t the problem. Next-Level Life has given me so much freedom to be more. I’m much more confident in our marriage, in sharing my opinion without worry it will offend or inconvenience him.

I can stand up and speak for myself in a confident way now, and it has brought a lot of health to our marriage and my family….Now I’m free to be me. Now I’m finally able to embrace who God has created me to be and really love who he’s created. and think, “Wow, I”m glad I get to be me today.”

Before my event, I didn’t really know me or love me because i was trying to be somebody else for someone else.

Brent: There are many things I struggle with… and Next-Level Life highlighted the bottom of the pool and why those things occurred… why I would self sabotage. I need context and the why before I can understand something – getting that was game-changing.

Next-Level Life is a start to a journey, and a reset, truth being unleashed in your life. I can now move forward with some really awesome intentionality.

You don’t just come to Next-Level Life and take a magic pill and everything’s fixed, you now have the tools to walk forward and fix it.

Listen to the full episode here:

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December 15, 2016

The 3 Keys to Scaling Your Business with Excellence

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Almost every single leader that comes in to this office, asks the question, “how do I scale?” 

You need to be growing! If you’re not growing you’re dying. If you want to grow, you need to know the how, and the why. You need more than, “I want to grow this thing.”

Learn the full lesson on how to scale your business at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event

Successfully growing a business means looking beyond the opportunity…Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

  • The three keys to successfully scaling your business
  • Where to put your energy during a strategy shift
  • Why so many scaling efforts or new service lines fails
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September 6, 2016

When “Going with Your Gut” is Holding You Back

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“The fear is not going to do anything for you. That surface level response needs to take a hike.”

On today’s show we have four phenomenal questions from our podcast listeners! We hit social media and creating a greater tribe, social anxiety and networking, surface level responses, distance communication with your team, how to bring perspective to leadership, and when having a remote team is detrimental to your business. WOW. We have a jam packed episode today. Let’s dive in!

Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • Strategies for video advertising on social media
  • Tactics to create loyal customers
  • Social anxiety and what it has to do with your Root System
  • Why networking does not come naturally for some
  • What TO do and what NOT to do in distance communication at work
  • Bringing new perspective to your leadership team
  • When a remote team is detrimental to the business

On some of these questions, we blow past the surface level response the listener is focused on and get to the core of the issue. Here’s taste of our conversation on social anxiety:

“As long as you keep seeking human beings for that affirmation you will never solve the issue that you’re feeling right now. Man can’t do anything for you in that area. It will only happen if you put God first, if you make him more important. Is there one person on earth that can impact eternity? No man can impact your soul.

The fear is not going to do anything for you. That surface level response needs to take a hike. Discover what’s in your Root System that has caused you to feel unworthy and not good enough…”

Listen to our full discussion here:

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August 2, 2016

5 Steps to Become The Strongest Leader for Your Team

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“If people don’t know where they’re going, they only give you half of their productivity. When they don’t know what the business is doing, they come in and do their “j-o-b” with no desire to grow or learn more.”

We have two incredible interviews on the show today!

These leaders have called in with questions every entrepreneur and leader should be asking…

“I think my meetings suck.” We tackle this statement and what to do about it….

Here’s a taste of what we talk about:

  • Where your time must be focused as an entrepreneur
  • How to increase your team’s productivity
  • The 5 steps to becoming a stronger leader
  • What your meetings should look like
  • How to re-energize your business
  • How to increase the loyalty of your team
  • Keeping momentum in your business

Our second guest asks,

“How do I re-invest myself after working for a leader who tarnished my reputation and then was eventually let go?”

We dive into:

  • The best mindset in business
  • What’s holding you back from being a stronger leader
  • Recovering from setting unreasonable goals for the team, micromanaging
  • How to turn a conflict situation into a growth experience
  • How to set expectations for your team

One of THE most important things you can do for your business is to serve the daylights out of your team, and set them up for success.

I want to hear from you on this! Comment below with your questions, challenges, solutions, or stories.

 

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If you have questions that you want answered, solutions you need, things that are holding you back… Let’s talk! I will give you the best solution I possibly can. It’s really easy. Get on the schedule here.

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July 26, 2016

Why Entrepreneurs Plateau in Their Business – Part 2

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Welcome to the show, Nevin! He was our first podcast live call in Q&A guest! We brought Nevin back on to dive even deeper and get really practical…

If you have questions that you want answered, solutions you need, things that are holding you back… Let’s talk! I will give you the best solution I possibly can. It’s really easy. Get on the schedule here.

TODAY we are diving deeper into why entrepreneurs plateau in their business, why Nevin plateaued. 

While there are common generational and external influences for many folks…this is truly a personal discovery process. Nevin and I unpack what this process looks like, here’s what we walk through together:

  • Recovering from the endless cycle of people pleasing
  • The universal “empty” feeling, and where it comes from
  • How to get self-worth from God
  • The right and wrong places to gain self-worth

This is so important…

Worth from people lasts about five minutes. Trying to make yourself feel good by making others happy also lasts about five minutes. How do you get that happiness from somewhere else? We’ve been trained. We’re programmed to think,

“If I don’t take care of them in their struggles, I’m not a caring person, I’m a bad person. Or…it’s the right thing to do.”

We have this unhealthy mindset:

My worth tanks if I’m not constantly making someone else feel better or better about themselves.

You have got to get yourself out of this place! Where should self-worth come from?

I believe your greatest worth, period, is the act of love that happened with the cross.

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I want to hear from you on this! Comment below with your questions, challenges, solutions, or stories.

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July 19, 2016

How to Deal with Unproductive Criticism


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We have so much crappy culture in our country. No one is standing up and teaching, “quit your complaining, do something about it.”

Folks, it’s not easy to create incredible culture in your business.

It can be exhausting dealing with critics and naysayers in your business when you’re trying to create positive culture. Sometimes it’s unproductive criticism…

 

Here’s what we cover on today’s episode:

  • How to create a culture of positivity
  • How to deal with unproductive, critical “suggestions”
  • Most beneficial way to reason with your critics
  • Understanding artistic personalities in the decision making process
  • How to manage your business when you move across the globe
  • How to find a trusted leader to fill your shoes as you transition to owner
  • My advice on “leasing” clients and switchbacks

If you want to be on the show and have your question answered by me, it’s easy to do now. Get on the schedule here.

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July 5, 2016

4 Low Cost Marketing Ideas for Entrepreneurs


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“It’s not a matter of how big your marketing budget is…”

If you have questions that you want answered, solutions you need, things that are holding you back…Let’s talk! I will give you the best solution I possibly can. It’s really easy to sign up. Get on the schedule here.

TODAY we are talking about how to get more sales with a limited marketing budget.

Business owners miss the mark on marketing everyday. It’s not a matter of how big your marketing budget is…One of the most important questions you can ask in your marketing process is:

How do I serve you with my product?

That’s the first step…Here’s what we cover on the show:

  • How to get more sales and get more people coming to you
  • Guerrilla Marketing
  • Advertising on a limited budget
  • Segmenting to get paying customers
  • Video Marketing for Your Business
  • How to get people to “purchase like crazy”

 

If you want to be on the show and have your question answered by me, it’s easy to do now. Get on the schedule here.

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October 5, 2015

Life After LifePlan – Part 2

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If you listened to part 1 of our Life After LifePlan podcast episode, then you are in for a treat on today’s podcast! Don’t worry if you haven’t had a chance to listen to it. You can always go back and listen to it here.

Also, be sure to grab today’s download and find out if your relationships are toxic or healthy. download-buttonIf you have listened to me long enough, then you have probably heard me talk about Marybeth a gajillion times. For those of you who don’t know, Marybeth was my personal assistant for six years. And when I say personal assistant, I mean she pretty much ran my life!

Marybeth recently went through her LifePlan, and had some amazing revelations that we wanted to share with you guys.

It’s taken a while to get in here for the LifePlan. Why did it take so long to come in?

Well, there were a couple reasons. First was just baby land, which is where I lived.I have been busy. Our youngest is now  almost 18 months. 

The other reason really kind of went away, because I was getting to the point where I’m like I just really want to come in and do this. After Joel did his LifePlan, and we talked so much about some of the stuff.

I was just, I don’t know if intimidated is the right word, but it’s you, we have this relationship. We’ve had this great relationship, great friendship for 11 years now. You are an incredibly safe person for me to be around, and I can share anything with you, but there are still these things about me and those deep dark places…

To have a really good LifePlan, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and open up and share things. That’s still hard to do, or at least I imagined it was going to be hard to do.

Amazingly when life plan came around, it was not nearly so, but I was ready for the tears, ready for the, “this is going to be so dramatic”. It wasn’t. I was hesitant because I had these things inside that I just didn’t want to talk about and I didn’t want to be vulnerable about.

This is the toughest thing for me because I’ve had close friends that have come through. It’s tough because of two things: one, I know you so well. There’s very little hiding, because I know a person so well, but the great thing about that is there is no judgment, it’s a free place to be.

It’s all about how great do I want my life to be on the other side of this as opposed to what can I hold back on. I’ve had a lot of close friends that have come through that it’s been tough, because I know more about them.

I’m able to get to those places that are a little bit more painful that also turn out to be insanely freeing. I also have to shift into I can’t be friend mode. I have to be here to walk you through this process and guide you through it. It’s difficult.

Going into it, like you just shared, probably the thing that held you back, other than the schedule was having to be vulnerable. Once you got in here, what was that like? What did that turn into?

It was easy. It really was. You ease into it, and so even though I think I was coming in with my guard up a little bit, I was like, “I really do want to do this, and I just need to just put my guard down”.

At the same time there’s this discomfort. Then we’re just talking and we ease into LifePlan. It’s not a big deal, and as long as I’m willing to be honest with you, we are able to talk about some things that were challenging.

Let’s dig into a little bit of that if you’re ready to get vulnerable again, for all the people that are listening. There are so many people going through what you’ve gone through and experiencing this and thinking, “Gosh, I want to change my life, I need change in my life but I’m afraid to go get change.”

As you’ve gone through the process, obviously we always say the first day is the emotional day. We’re not going to lay you down on the couch and talk to you like a psychiatrist. We do go through very intense, emotional stuff, but our goal is not to sit there and live in it.

Our goal is to get to the information, pull it forward and not show the “what”. That’s where so many people focus is they focus on is the “what”. We blow past the what to the why.

We go heavy into the root system and find out the “why”. Why did that happen. Why did these people do this. Why did I experience this in life. Why have I felt this way forever?

Let me ask you, what was the greatest revelation that you’ve received going through LifePlan?

Without a doubt, it was the truths and the lies, and really I would say the lies. I had a belief system filled with a lot of lies. I would say probably my biggest one that overarched everything was that perfection, or at least very near perfection, was where I needed to be.

If I didn’t make it then I was a complete failure. There was no middle ground. There was no grace. It was just I’m either perfect or I’m a failure, and if I’m a failure, I’m therefore not lovable, I’m not valuable, I’m not worthy.

I filtered so much information through those lies and it ended up taking over my life in a sense.

Did that lead to freedom by knowing that?

Yeah, it’s crazy! I’m not a failure.

There were certain aspects that you looked at and said, “This is happening, I’m a failure,” or, “Because I’m feeling this, I’m a failure.”

I would say overall that was just how I viewed anything. In things with my relationship with Joel, it would be like if I did something or said something, or I didn’t meet these expectations I had in my head of like, “Well, Joel’s coming home and dinner should be ready and the house should be clean,” like I’m a ’50s housewife or something.

Seriously, I had these expectations in my head, and I would feel frustrated and then it would turn from frustration into failure pretty quickly.

Especially if it was like okay, that was the day that some business stuff didn’t go well with piano, and that was the day that the kids were just crazy, but they were probably kind of crazy because I was trying to focus on some piano stuff.

Then the house didn’t get done, and it’s like everything would compound, and then at the end of the day I would be like, “Oh for the love of all that is good and right.” I would just become such a frustrated person, and it was all because my perspective was just jacked up.

I think the craziest thing, now, is I think I judged myself more than anybody else judged me, but I would just assume other people were judging me.

It’s funny, we were actually talking earlier, Joel would make these comments from time to time. For example, and I can share this, I know, but we were having breakfast the other morning and he chose not to have a waffle because he just didn’t want the calories, so he says.

Meanwhile, I had just eaten a waffle, and so pre‐LifePlan, when he would make a comment like that, I would be like, “My husband thinks I’m fat. He thinks I make bad choices about food, he thinks he’s so much better.” All Joel was thinking is, “I think I’d rather have eggs this morning.”

It has nothing to do with me, but because I have all these lies that I’m filtering what is said through these lies. I would take it completely different than how it was meant.

Is it also possible because somewhere back in your past is somebody who would judge you or somebody who would tell you things about yourself? You line that up, you get this training in your brain and these things that are lies from somebody else, it becomes a broken belief system, and you’re stuck with it.

How freeing is that on the other side to realize, and what’s the process? When you hear that now, what’s the process that you go through in your brain?

It’s funny, because it came up because he made a comment like that after LifePlan, and I just started laughing. I think he was confused for a minute maybe, but I was like, “Okay, so pre-­‐LifePlan,” and I love that he’s gone through this and that the facilitates this, because he totally understands.

I’m like, “Pre-­‐LifePlan, when you would say things like this, and this is what I would hear. You, I did not like in those moments.” It was so funny, because he’s like, “Wow, I was just talking about this about me,” he’s like, “I had no idea.”

It’s so difficult until you know, and Joel is phenomenal at doing this, and he does an incredible job of walking people through this, but until you pull that out, even a guy who lives and breathes this stuff, until you know it doesn’t matter.

I tell spouses all the time when they come through, like if a spouse sits in on somebody else’s LifePlan. I say, “I don’t care how many times you tell them,” because they’ll say to me, “I told them that a thousand times,” I’m like, “Did it work?” No, of course not, because you’re telling them the what.

It doesn’t matter how many times you tell them the what, if they still don’t understand the why, it doesn’t matter. It’s so difficult to go, “How come I can’t guide this person to freedom”? It’s because we’re only focusing on the what.

Now that you’ve dug down and you discovered the why, it changes everything. With that, let me ask you this, what is the most empowering thing that you learned through LifePlan?

Gaining perspective on what has caused me to become this way and what influences have been in my life and how I’ve gotten to this point of believing the things that I do.

With that perspective, I can say, “okay, well I’m not this horrible person for believing these things; this is just how I was trained to be.” Now going forward, I know this and I can choose to view things differently. You can’t just choose to see things differently when you don’t know. 

I needed LifePlan; I needed to really dig down to the why, to my root system to get that perspective.

The important thing to understand is, people say, “Well why can’t you just change?” I hear that all the time. “Why do you need to understand your root system, why can’t you just change your decision? You can make any decision you want.” You literally make your decisions based on what you know.

Based on training, based on information, based on influence. Here’s what I see almost every single time. I see people, and since you’re a music teacher, I see people grow up one way, have influence one way, and do a pendulum swing to the other side and say I am not going to be that way, and go all the way to the other side and do the same exact thing from a different direction.

If they have a controlling parent they become incredibly lenient, if they have a submissive parent, they become incredibly controlling. Those are just examples, there’s a ton of stuff, a ton of decision-­‐making processes, but it basically still comes down to the same thing.

As long as you don’t understand why those things happen in your life, why those influencers did what they did, why they taught you, why they said, why they lied to you, whatever, it still is virtually impossible to make great decisions on things in your life.

Now that you’ve been through this process, you’ve discovered a lot, you discovered perspective, you discovered the influences in your life, you discovered how to make greater decisions with greater perspective, and you’ve unlocked all of these pieces.

How does it change the way, you’re a mom of two tiny kids, how does it change your perspective, how does it change the way you view your kids, motherhood, all of that?

Freeing, oh my word. I love my kids, I wanted them to feel loved, and it stressed me out to ever feel like what if I’m doing something and they don’t feel loved? That controlled my parenting. Now, I’m just like okay, I do love my kids and I show them that I love them, but it helps me to not be controlled by them.

My darling Josiah, he was already learning how to manipulate mom, but, and it was frustrating because I wanted to make sure that he felt loved but when he would get fussy then it was challenging for me.

I was like, he’s whining, he’s fussy, this isn’t acceptable, but at the same time, I don’t know how to respond to him in a loving, kind way and resolve the situation. Whereas now, I’m just like, bust it out baby.

If that’s the choice you want to make, that’s the choice you can make, but you’re not getting away with what you’re fussing about. Now I’m like okay, you can make your choices and those are your choices and here are those consequences. You can’t control mom any more.

Instead now, you give him options. There are consequences for good, and there are consequences for bad. You can choose, but instead of getting your self worth from parenting, your confidence from parenting, instead you’re looking at more of I need to raise adults instead of kids.

We’ve had a lot of women that have come through the process. Some still had reservations about sharing this information with a guy? What is it going to be like to talk in front of a guy about some of these things?

First of all, there’s no judgment, so I think that’s a huge thing. I think that also I think when you’re willing to be vulnerable and open up and know that you’re not going to be judged, it really, I don’t want to say it doesn’t matter.

I know that hearing that, somebody’s going to be like, yes it does, but in seriousness, it’s going to be so freeing. It’s going to be so worth it to just talk about that, open up, be vulnerable and get through that. There is freedom on the other side.

That, for me, I have been through so much crap in my life, and I’ve experienced so much in life, which is obviously why I do what I do, that judgment is pointless for me in these situations. I always tell people coming in, if I’m getting my needs met by you, I shouldn’t be doing this.

My goal is to help you get all of your needs met and discovery and perspective and all that. I think that’s the thing that I do want everybody to know is that there is no judgment in this process.

There isn’t anything that I’ve heard, and the funny thing is I’ve had people that have tried to, it’s not that they tried to shock me, it’s that they thought, “Okay, I’m going to share this right now, and you’re going to be shocked.” I’ve even had people say that, and it’s like nope, no shock here.

The reason why is every single person has gone through something, some level of something. Some have just gone through so much more, so that there’s no point in judging. The judging is what people do, I say focusing on that surface level, the what. You focus on the what, you judge on the what.

The what is not the problem, the what is the outward expression or inward expression of the struggles from not knowing the why.

What would you say to anyone out there who is sitting there, thinking, “Is this something I should do? Is this something I should experience? Can I feel safe going and doing this and can I trust in the outcome?”

Yes, you can do it. Yes, you should do it! The freedom on the other side of it is so worth it. Not everybody’s going to have the same experiences that I’ve had, and so for me, my freedom was huge and freedom from judgment and a lot of that was even just self-­‐judgment.

That was probably one of the biggest things in my life plan that I gained freedom, and I’m able to go forward and have a better life and make better decisions. I think other people are going to have other things that they’re going to have freedom from, but it is worth it.

Do it!


Folks, hopefully that helps. That is something that we want you to hear, we want you to understand that our goal is to change your life, our goal is to help you find freedom, our goal is to help you live without the lies, live without the judgment.

Stop telling yourself so many lies, and that I think is something that we discover in so many people’s LifePlans, and Marybeth’s as well, is that so many of the lies are ones that come from you. Living without that, living, not telling yourself that junk, is complete freedom.

If you would like more information on  LifePlan, click here and signup today to get more information. All you have to do is fill out the information and Joel Fortner will be the one contacting you.

He will contact you, he will tell you anything you need to hear, give you all the information you need to make a decision to come and do this right now, but make the choice to do it now.

Chris LoCurto

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August 4, 2015

18 Habits of Mentally Strong People

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Have you ever noticed that highly successful people have a distinct mindset? Do you wonder what they do to stay mentally strong?

I’ve unpacked 18 Habits of Mentally Strong People…this is the stuff that so many people avoid doing, or have no clue that they should be doing them.

We have created a FREE DOWNLOAD for you containing ALL 18 habits! (CLICK THE LINK BELOW TO RECEIVE)

Click Here to Download

DON’T just stop at the Download…There are so many nuggets of wisdom in this content that I unpack the full explanation of the 18 Habits here:

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July 21, 2015

Breaking Bad Myths

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In day-to-day life it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing a myth or a lie about yourself.

Broken belief systems can cripple you if you don’t watch out. On the show today I wanted to focus on 8 core myths that I see often during our LifePlan events.

Now these 8 lies are not the only myths there are! There’s a ton more we didn’t have time for.
But I wanted to dive into these 8 and unpack them for you so you can be on guard against these myths creeping into your life.

Here’s a preview of what we cover on the episode:

  • Is other peoples happiness more important than yours?
  • Why happiness isn’t the end game
  • Codependency and self sabotage
  • Can you truly earn someone’s love?
  • Why “building walls” is killing your relationships
  • Is all conflict bad?
  • Unless it’s easy…it’s wrong!
  • Do you really have to be right?
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July 16, 2015

82% of Customers Leave Because of This

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How well do you know your customers? Do you know what they want and need from you as a company? On today’s podcast, we are going to talk about how to better know and serve your customer base.

What we will cover:

  • How to gain perspective
  • Common mistakes that are made about your customers
  • How to gain great information from your customers
  • Why we want your opinion (Take 90 seconds and fill out the survey below)

Knowing your customers and their needs is vital for the direction and vision of a successful business. 82% of customers have stopped doing business with a company because of poor customer experience. (…and come to find out it’s actually 89% * based on a survey commissioned by RightNow and conducted by Harris Interactive.)

Don’t forget to take our survey!

 

Chris LoCurto

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July 14, 2015

7 Questions To Ask Before Launching A Business

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Are you thinking about launching a new start up?
Maybe you recently launched a new business and are still in the early phases.

Todays show will help you ask 7 fundamental questions of your new venture so you can set yourself up for success. (These questions even apply to new product lines.)

We’ve all heard the scary stat for small business failure. Quite a few never make it past year one.
In the early stages of your business it’s crucial for you to have answers to these 7 questions.

 

Question: Are you thinking about starting a business this year? 

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July 9, 2015

7 Reasons Successful People Have Mentors

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Successful people have mentors. Why?
Because mentors are one of the best ways to fast track your success and performance.

That’s the reason I have mentors in every area of my life.

If I can learn from the wisdom of someone who’s “been there”…I literally can shave years off the learning curve.

You’ve heard me talk about my racing coach and how he coached me to setting a track record.
I did mention I set a track record…right?
Well, it would have taken a lot longer to reach that goal had he not been coaching me.

Now you don’t have to have a mentor…
You can keep doing life without one but when you’re limited to just “your” knowledge, you are extremely limited with your options.

Successful people understand the value of input.Successful leaders understand that one persons experience is another persons revelation.

They understand that the best thing is not always the right thing.
And they don’t have to be the head of the class.

You see, NO ONE reaches success alone. And successful leaders know this.

Question: Who was your first mentor?

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July 7, 2015

How To Define Your Core Values

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Today we’re talking about how to define your core values.
Now I’m sure for some of you you’re thinking of “corporate core values”.

Well… that’s not what we’re talking about today.

We’re talking about your personal core values, your personal culture.

Let me start off by defining what core values are.
These are the things that you value so much that you filter your life through them. These are things that are so important to you, that are such a high value to you, that you should be filtering your life through them.
You should be making decisions based off of them.
This seems like a no-brainer, but the problem is when we don’t understand what our core values really are and we end up filtering life through things  that are not healthy.

Here’s some of the benefits of listening to the show today:

  • Why you should have personal core values
  • How to have guard rails for your life
  • The difference between healthy and unhealthy values
  • How to have more directions and energy in your life
  • How your values are vital in making decisions every day
  • Your decision-making process
  • What your leadership has to do with values
  • Why God should be your number one value
  • How to come up with your core values
  • How to filter your life through your values

 

Question: What’s your top core value? Why?

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June 30, 2015

Walking with God Through the Storm

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In November of 2010, Michele Cushatt’s world was turned upside down.

She was 39 years old, had three boys, and on a Tuesday morning right before Thanksgiving her doctor told her she had a very rare kind of cancer.

She said, “The word cancer dropped into my life like a bomb…Everything changed after that point. The only thing I could think to do in that moment was run to my knees…and that’s where I found myself.”

Today’s interview with Michele is powerful. She is amazing!

Here’s a few of the things we cover on the show:

• How to deal with devastating news
• Learning to walk with God in tragedy
• What having faith really looks like
• Coming face to face with your beliefs
• Dealing with misguided expectations
• Discerning God’s presence
• What to do when a piece of your story doesn’t go according to plan
• How to cope with fear and uncertainty
• A healthy perspective on perfection
• The tragedy of poor work/life balance
• Loving the dark parts of your story
• How to plan life and business when plans fail
• Finding value in yourself
• Determining healthy motivation and drive

If you are going through a storm right now be encouraged. God has not abandoned you.

In fact he is more near to you now than ever before.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from Michele: 

“What we believe about God in those moments [when our story doesn’t go according to plan] ends up dictating what the future looks like.”

“I can choose to be very bitter and angry and be a victim…or I can choose to weave it into my story [and find the good.]”

“It’s so easy to get caught in the temporal, and miss out on the things that truly last and matter.”

“All of our attempts to be so polished all the time are actually minimizing our opportunities for connection with others.”

“We think it’s all about being polished and perfect but there’s no one out there that can really connect with someone who is perfect”

“…believe in what you have to say, that’s what being really successful looks like.”

“It’s not all about crossing off my to-do list, sometimes there’s a more worthy pursuit”

“I don’t have to work 70 hours a week to be worthy of my skin.”

“It’s only in the struggle that we develop perseverance and endurance.”

“we get caught up into thinking the world is dependent on us.”

“You can do everything right, and everything can change in a moment.”

“Is a 70 hour work week really the notch in your belt you want to leave behind? Is having 20,000 twitter followers really the legacy you want to leave?”

“We are so desperate to make an impression and to leave a mark on this world and yet the ways we’re going about it seem so contrary to what we say really matters.”

You can find out more about Michele by visiting her site: http://michelecushatt.com.

You’ll also want to read her book:  Undone: A Story of Making Peace With an Unexpected Life.
I read it and was incredible moved by Michele’s transparency and her perspective on life.

Chris LoCurto

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June 25, 2015

10 Warning Signs of Toxic People

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10 Warning Signs of Toxic People

I see it everyday…great people that are allowing a toxic person to control them, abuse them,  and manipulate them.
This is serious folks.
Reality is that quite a few people listening to the podcast and reading this are either in a toxic relationship or are actually toxic themselves.
So while we’re on the subject of toxic people… be aware that you “may” be one of them.
Here’s a few of the warning signs we cover on the show:
  • They have a big need for control.
  • They tend to be dishonest.
  • They are abusive.
  • Typically they are disrespectful.
  • Beware of their manipulation.
  • They try to intimidate with power or money.
  • Victim Mentality
  • Hostility

Remember that I want you to be the healthiest person possible.

Use this episode to gauge toxicity in yourself and your relationships.

Toxic people are always looking for someone to control. Beware!

What has been your experience in dealing with toxic people?

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June 23, 2015

Leadership, Org Charts, and Expanding Your Business | AskChris

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Today we have a couple of AskChris questions from Brian and Jay.

If you have a question you want me to answer on the show go to /askChris.

Leadership is often misunderstood. A title doesn’t make you a leader and “title-leadership” can destroy a company.

Brian called in to tell us about a big leadership win he recently had. He built trust and loyalty…that’s huge! That’s a leader. You rock Brian!

Jay asked a great question about when to expand his business into departments and when to create an official org chart.

I’ve got some specific opinions on the classic org chart that I cover on the show.  Would love to know your thoughts.

P.S. It all starts with vision.