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October 5, 2015

Life After LifePlan – Part 2

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If you listened to part 1 of our Life After LifePlan podcast episode, then you are in for a treat on today’s podcast! Don’t worry if you haven’t had a chance to listen to it. You can always go back and listen to it here.

Also, be sure to grab today’s download and find out if your relationships are toxic or healthy. download-buttonIf you have listened to me long enough, then you have probably heard me talk about Marybeth a gajillion times. For those of you who don’t know, Marybeth was my personal assistant for six years. And when I say personal assistant, I mean she pretty much ran my life!

Marybeth recently went through her LifePlan, and had some amazing revelations that we wanted to share with you guys.

It’s taken a while to get in here for the LifePlan. Why did it take so long to come in?

Well, there were a couple reasons. First was just baby land, which is where I lived.I have been busy. Our youngest is now  almost 18 months. 

The other reason really kind of went away, because I was getting to the point where I’m like I just really want to come in and do this. After Joel did his LifePlan, and we talked so much about some of the stuff.

I was just, I don’t know if intimidated is the right word, but it’s you, we have this relationship. We’ve had this great relationship, great friendship for 11 years now. You are an incredibly safe person for me to be around, and I can share anything with you, but there are still these things about me and those deep dark places…

To have a really good LifePlan, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and open up and share things. That’s still hard to do, or at least I imagined it was going to be hard to do.

Amazingly when life plan came around, it was not nearly so, but I was ready for the tears, ready for the, “this is going to be so dramatic”. It wasn’t. I was hesitant because I had these things inside that I just didn’t want to talk about and I didn’t want to be vulnerable about.

This is the toughest thing for me because I’ve had close friends that have come through. It’s tough because of two things: one, I know you so well. There’s very little hiding, because I know a person so well, but the great thing about that is there is no judgment, it’s a free place to be.

It’s all about how great do I want my life to be on the other side of this as opposed to what can I hold back on. I’ve had a lot of close friends that have come through that it’s been tough, because I know more about them.

I’m able to get to those places that are a little bit more painful that also turn out to be insanely freeing. I also have to shift into I can’t be friend mode. I have to be here to walk you through this process and guide you through it. It’s difficult.

Going into it, like you just shared, probably the thing that held you back, other than the schedule was having to be vulnerable. Once you got in here, what was that like? What did that turn into?

It was easy. It really was. You ease into it, and so even though I think I was coming in with my guard up a little bit, I was like, “I really do want to do this, and I just need to just put my guard down”.

At the same time there’s this discomfort. Then we’re just talking and we ease into LifePlan. It’s not a big deal, and as long as I’m willing to be honest with you, we are able to talk about some things that were challenging.

Let’s dig into a little bit of that if you’re ready to get vulnerable again, for all the people that are listening. There are so many people going through what you’ve gone through and experiencing this and thinking, “Gosh, I want to change my life, I need change in my life but I’m afraid to go get change.”

As you’ve gone through the process, obviously we always say the first day is the emotional day. We’re not going to lay you down on the couch and talk to you like a psychiatrist. We do go through very intense, emotional stuff, but our goal is not to sit there and live in it.

Our goal is to get to the information, pull it forward and not show the “what”. That’s where so many people focus is they focus on is the “what”. We blow past the what to the why.

We go heavy into the root system and find out the “why”. Why did that happen. Why did these people do this. Why did I experience this in life. Why have I felt this way forever?

Let me ask you, what was the greatest revelation that you’ve received going through LifePlan?

Without a doubt, it was the truths and the lies, and really I would say the lies. I had a belief system filled with a lot of lies. I would say probably my biggest one that overarched everything was that perfection, or at least very near perfection, was where I needed to be.

If I didn’t make it then I was a complete failure. There was no middle ground. There was no grace. It was just I’m either perfect or I’m a failure, and if I’m a failure, I’m therefore not lovable, I’m not valuable, I’m not worthy.

I filtered so much information through those lies and it ended up taking over my life in a sense.

Did that lead to freedom by knowing that?

Yeah, it’s crazy! I’m not a failure.

There were certain aspects that you looked at and said, “This is happening, I’m a failure,” or, “Because I’m feeling this, I’m a failure.”

I would say overall that was just how I viewed anything. In things with my relationship with Joel, it would be like if I did something or said something, or I didn’t meet these expectations I had in my head of like, “Well, Joel’s coming home and dinner should be ready and the house should be clean,” like I’m a ’50s housewife or something.

Seriously, I had these expectations in my head, and I would feel frustrated and then it would turn from frustration into failure pretty quickly.

Especially if it was like okay, that was the day that some business stuff didn’t go well with piano, and that was the day that the kids were just crazy, but they were probably kind of crazy because I was trying to focus on some piano stuff.

Then the house didn’t get done, and it’s like everything would compound, and then at the end of the day I would be like, “Oh for the love of all that is good and right.” I would just become such a frustrated person, and it was all because my perspective was just jacked up.

I think the craziest thing, now, is I think I judged myself more than anybody else judged me, but I would just assume other people were judging me.

It’s funny, we were actually talking earlier, Joel would make these comments from time to time. For example, and I can share this, I know, but we were having breakfast the other morning and he chose not to have a waffle because he just didn’t want the calories, so he says.

Meanwhile, I had just eaten a waffle, and so pre‐LifePlan, when he would make a comment like that, I would be like, “My husband thinks I’m fat. He thinks I make bad choices about food, he thinks he’s so much better.” All Joel was thinking is, “I think I’d rather have eggs this morning.”

It has nothing to do with me, but because I have all these lies that I’m filtering what is said through these lies. I would take it completely different than how it was meant.

Is it also possible because somewhere back in your past is somebody who would judge you or somebody who would tell you things about yourself? You line that up, you get this training in your brain and these things that are lies from somebody else, it becomes a broken belief system, and you’re stuck with it.

How freeing is that on the other side to realize, and what’s the process? When you hear that now, what’s the process that you go through in your brain?

It’s funny, because it came up because he made a comment like that after LifePlan, and I just started laughing. I think he was confused for a minute maybe, but I was like, “Okay, so pre-­‐LifePlan,” and I love that he’s gone through this and that the facilitates this, because he totally understands.

I’m like, “Pre-­‐LifePlan, when you would say things like this, and this is what I would hear. You, I did not like in those moments.” It was so funny, because he’s like, “Wow, I was just talking about this about me,” he’s like, “I had no idea.”

It’s so difficult until you know, and Joel is phenomenal at doing this, and he does an incredible job of walking people through this, but until you pull that out, even a guy who lives and breathes this stuff, until you know it doesn’t matter.

I tell spouses all the time when they come through, like if a spouse sits in on somebody else’s LifePlan. I say, “I don’t care how many times you tell them,” because they’ll say to me, “I told them that a thousand times,” I’m like, “Did it work?” No, of course not, because you’re telling them the what.

It doesn’t matter how many times you tell them the what, if they still don’t understand the why, it doesn’t matter. It’s so difficult to go, “How come I can’t guide this person to freedom”? It’s because we’re only focusing on the what.

Now that you’ve dug down and you discovered the why, it changes everything. With that, let me ask you this, what is the most empowering thing that you learned through LifePlan?

Gaining perspective on what has caused me to become this way and what influences have been in my life and how I’ve gotten to this point of believing the things that I do.

With that perspective, I can say, “okay, well I’m not this horrible person for believing these things; this is just how I was trained to be.” Now going forward, I know this and I can choose to view things differently. You can’t just choose to see things differently when you don’t know. 

I needed LifePlan; I needed to really dig down to the why, to my root system to get that perspective.

The important thing to understand is, people say, “Well why can’t you just change?” I hear that all the time. “Why do you need to understand your root system, why can’t you just change your decision? You can make any decision you want.” You literally make your decisions based on what you know.

Based on training, based on information, based on influence. Here’s what I see almost every single time. I see people, and since you’re a music teacher, I see people grow up one way, have influence one way, and do a pendulum swing to the other side and say I am not going to be that way, and go all the way to the other side and do the same exact thing from a different direction.

If they have a controlling parent they become incredibly lenient, if they have a submissive parent, they become incredibly controlling. Those are just examples, there’s a ton of stuff, a ton of decision-­‐making processes, but it basically still comes down to the same thing.

As long as you don’t understand why those things happen in your life, why those influencers did what they did, why they taught you, why they said, why they lied to you, whatever, it still is virtually impossible to make great decisions on things in your life.

Now that you’ve been through this process, you’ve discovered a lot, you discovered perspective, you discovered the influences in your life, you discovered how to make greater decisions with greater perspective, and you’ve unlocked all of these pieces.

How does it change the way, you’re a mom of two tiny kids, how does it change your perspective, how does it change the way you view your kids, motherhood, all of that?

Freeing, oh my word. I love my kids, I wanted them to feel loved, and it stressed me out to ever feel like what if I’m doing something and they don’t feel loved? That controlled my parenting. Now, I’m just like okay, I do love my kids and I show them that I love them, but it helps me to not be controlled by them.

My darling Josiah, he was already learning how to manipulate mom, but, and it was frustrating because I wanted to make sure that he felt loved but when he would get fussy then it was challenging for me.

I was like, he’s whining, he’s fussy, this isn’t acceptable, but at the same time, I don’t know how to respond to him in a loving, kind way and resolve the situation. Whereas now, I’m just like, bust it out baby.

If that’s the choice you want to make, that’s the choice you can make, but you’re not getting away with what you’re fussing about. Now I’m like okay, you can make your choices and those are your choices and here are those consequences. You can’t control mom any more.

Instead now, you give him options. There are consequences for good, and there are consequences for bad. You can choose, but instead of getting your self worth from parenting, your confidence from parenting, instead you’re looking at more of I need to raise adults instead of kids.

We’ve had a lot of women that have come through the process. Some still had reservations about sharing this information with a guy? What is it going to be like to talk in front of a guy about some of these things?

First of all, there’s no judgment, so I think that’s a huge thing. I think that also I think when you’re willing to be vulnerable and open up and know that you’re not going to be judged, it really, I don’t want to say it doesn’t matter.

I know that hearing that, somebody’s going to be like, yes it does, but in seriousness, it’s going to be so freeing. It’s going to be so worth it to just talk about that, open up, be vulnerable and get through that. There is freedom on the other side.

That, for me, I have been through so much crap in my life, and I’ve experienced so much in life, which is obviously why I do what I do, that judgment is pointless for me in these situations. I always tell people coming in, if I’m getting my needs met by you, I shouldn’t be doing this.

My goal is to help you get all of your needs met and discovery and perspective and all that. I think that’s the thing that I do want everybody to know is that there is no judgment in this process.

There isn’t anything that I’ve heard, and the funny thing is I’ve had people that have tried to, it’s not that they tried to shock me, it’s that they thought, “Okay, I’m going to share this right now, and you’re going to be shocked.” I’ve even had people say that, and it’s like nope, no shock here.

The reason why is every single person has gone through something, some level of something. Some have just gone through so much more, so that there’s no point in judging. The judging is what people do, I say focusing on that surface level, the what. You focus on the what, you judge on the what.

The what is not the problem, the what is the outward expression or inward expression of the struggles from not knowing the why.

What would you say to anyone out there who is sitting there, thinking, “Is this something I should do? Is this something I should experience? Can I feel safe going and doing this and can I trust in the outcome?”

Yes, you can do it. Yes, you should do it! The freedom on the other side of it is so worth it. Not everybody’s going to have the same experiences that I’ve had, and so for me, my freedom was huge and freedom from judgment and a lot of that was even just self-­‐judgment.

That was probably one of the biggest things in my life plan that I gained freedom, and I’m able to go forward and have a better life and make better decisions. I think other people are going to have other things that they’re going to have freedom from, but it is worth it.

Do it!


Folks, hopefully that helps. That is something that we want you to hear, we want you to understand that our goal is to change your life, our goal is to help you find freedom, our goal is to help you live without the lies, live without the judgment.

Stop telling yourself so many lies, and that I think is something that we discover in so many people’s LifePlans, and Marybeth’s as well, is that so many of the lies are ones that come from you. Living without that, living, not telling yourself that junk, is complete freedom.

If you would like more information on  LifePlan, click here and signup today to get more information. All you have to do is fill out the information and Joel Fortner will be the one contacting you.

He will contact you, he will tell you anything you need to hear, give you all the information you need to make a decision to come and do this right now, but make the choice to do it now.

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September 15, 2015

Life After LifePlan – Success Stories Part 1

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We hear a lot about people saying, “We’d like to hear from more people who have experienced some of our events, LifePlan, StratPlan.” We have somebody who has been through both on today’s show.

Brent Van Haren is joining us today to talk about the impact that LifePlan and StratPlan has had on his family and business.

I wanted to talk a lot about LifePlan, but since Brent went through StratPlan as well, I wanted to know  what the experience was like for StratPlan. So I asked.

“That’s a good question. StratPlan was pretty powerful for us in our business. I think I told you afterwards in the first couple of months afterwards that it was by far the most impactful thing that I’ve been a part of in the business.

I’ve been there about 8 years. It has helped change our direction, changed our understanding of who we are. It’s really allowed us to focus on what we need to rather than just what we thought we should.”

Your dad had just gone through LifePlan. What did you experience going through that event? Obviously, the event itself was big and intense. Here you’ve got your dad that’s just a couple of days out of LifePlan. What did you see? What did you experience? What did you notice?

“I think the first thing, my dad’s a high D and raised by a Dutch farmer. Emotions aren’t really worn on the sleeve at any point. The first thing I noticed is just how open, and vulnerable, and then emotional in a really healthy way that he was for the first couple days.

That was really powerful. There was only 72 hours between the LifePlan and the StratPlan. He was still riding high on the LifePlan wave. It was intense, but immediately I realized how much I wanted to attend the LifePlan.”

You came down and did your LifePlan. What was that experience like for you?

“What was it like? It was probably, other than the birth of my daughter, as far as a 48 hour period goes, it was the most powerful 48 hours that I have had in my life. It was just so eye-opening and beneficial for me.

To be honest, it’s been about 10 months, and the longer I am away from it, the more impact it has had. It allowed me to really start to put into place some of the things that I learned.”

What would you say was the most profound thing that you learned in that process?

“There are a lot of things I learned in that process. For me, the thing that was hardest, that we spent 2 hours of you drilling into my head one morning was that I’m not responsible for other people’s well-being.

That was a hard one for me to get my head wrapped around. That took a while. My number one talent that we identified is a happiness transfer agent, conducting people on the happiness train. :-) I was able to acknowledge that that’s a real strength. I had never really looked at it that way.”

A strength because you are talented at it. It’s something that you do great! Pre-LifePlan, would you say that’s where you got self-worth?

“Yeah, it was very much a burden that I put on myself. I felt I had to make other people happy, or bringing them forward, or that it was my responsibility. It’s shaped a lot of areas in my life.”

Are you still able to use that talent now in a different way?

“I get to embrace it for what it is and not feel that it’s my responsibility. I have a brother in the business. I don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to make him happy, or to make him feel a different way. I have an impact on that, but it’s not my responsibility.”

What would happen pre-LifePlan when you were trying to make people happy, or make a person happy and it just wasn’t working? How would you feel and what would tell yourself?

“I don’t have a lot of negatives when you look at the things that put the brakes on, but that would be one of them. I felt like I had to bring someone out. Number 1, sometimes they just don’t want to be.

Number 2, it’s just not healthy how much energy I invest in trying to do that. I can’t say it was a conscious thing, but it was something that would really weigh on me. It created a lot of stress in my life.”

What other things were profound for you in the process?

“I always knew I didn’t have physical boundaries. I didn’t know that I didn’t have emotional boundaries. It ties in with that responsibility, that sense of responsibility that I had for other people’s well-being.  

I had zero boundaries in my life, and it also created a lot of stress. I’m a high D/I personality. My wife is a 99 S/C, polar opposites. My need to just do things that other people ask to make other people happy and to do whatever, created a lot of stress in our relationship.

The understanding and the ability for me to process and say, “Do I want to do something? How is that going to impact my real goals, which are, my family and my spirituality, and the other things in my life? Is this something I have to say yes to?”

It brought stress to your marriage, your relationship because would you say that you were a people-pleaser?

“I had to say, “Yes” to everything. I still struggle with it. It’s something that I’m still working on. I’m able to acknowledge it very quickly if I’ve over-committed and if we have created that stress. I know where it’s coming from. I’m able to fix it quickly.”

As an individual, would you sum it up as health? The greatest change has been your healthier emotionally? Healthier in where you get your self-worth, your self-esteem?

“Absolutely! I feel comfortable with where I get those things. I know quickly now if I’m out of line, if I just need to re-adjust.”

I think that is one of the most powerful things on the other side of LifePlan!

You have the tools to be able to go, “Ah, there it is. All right, back off of that and move forward.” I love that freedom of being able to know what it is and see what it is. Did you come in with reservations?

“There were definitely reservations. I was working myself up the day before and the morning of.  I was praying for honesty, openness, vulnerability, just wanting to make sure that I was just in the right place, that I was honest with myself. I was worried I would dodge some of the harder things if I could.”

What made it safe for you not to do that?

“You say it a lot, but I don’t think people really realize it until they get to know you that there is just zero judgement in the process. There is nothing but openness, and engagement, and sincerity. That made it easy, knowing who you are. Also, the value that I knew would come of it.”

You plugged these things into your life, but you also go back to a business that has recently gone through. Dad’s gone through LifePlan. He’s got big changes in his life.

The company has just gone through a huge event, StratPlan, big changes in the company. How do you see the business coming out of your LifePlan? How do you see it now? How has that helped?

 “It’s a lot easier for me to embrace what I do well and not get trapped in the things that I don’t do well, which has been the previous years, the last 4 years before StratPlan and LifePlan.

I didn’t really realize how much of my role was things that just aren’t natural to me. I wasn’t very effective at them and wasn’t the leader that I wanted to be. The LifePlan really helped me understand what I’m good at; allowed me to embrace it.

It allowed me to focus on more of my strengths rather than some of the things that just don’t come easily to me. Personally, that’s definitely impacted me. As a leader, I meet with all of the people that I lead, 1 on 1 every other week.

They’re like mini 1 1/2 hours sessions of LifePlan now instead of before it was just focus, how are we doing. Now it’s all about the individual because I understand so much clearer now.

It doesn’t really matter what is happening and how they execute the job if there’s some stuff underneath that we just need to understand and talk about and be open with. It’s really changed how I engage with my team.”

You’re really experiencing how people bring their root system to work every single day?

“It’s amazing once the curtain’s pulled back on that! We really dig a lot deeper with my team members and understand each other.

I am able to share what I struggle with so much easier because I know. That makes a big difference in how open we can be with each other and where we can get as a team.

We have a phenomenal team here. It has had a huge impact. We’ve been focusing on culture as of StratPlan. That was a big thing that came out, is how we communicate, what our culture is. This has really helped be a catalyst for that even more that it would have been.”

Your Dad went through. You went through. Your brother went through. You guys have sent 3 other leaders through. Why and what are you seeing there?

“There’s a different understanding now of each other, a different patience, not just with each other who have been through LifePlan, but just with people. It’s so much easier for me to look past the behaviors because I understand that they come from someplace else.

We’re able to really just engage with each other as people rather than as business acquaintances, or whatever. We just really engage as people. It’s really shaping our company to be a pretty phenomenal place to work.”

Power in team members, and leaders going through. It’s not just one person who’s realized this and is trying to change a culture, but now you have a team of people that are in it together, working to change the culture. Does it make it easier for you to lead?

“The big thing that I think it helps me as a leader is so much of it comes back to understanding myself. It’s so important for me and for really anyone to understand who they are. I am able to engage with others.

It’s changed every aspect of how I lead. There’s just this openness and comfort with me and with others that is just so different than before.”

I want to step back again just a little bit. We’ve talked about you. We’ve talked about the business. We’ve touched a little bit on what it’s like coming home. What’s the experience like now as a husband?

What is the experience like for you? What is life like now for you? How do you see your daughter? What adjustments have you made as a husband? What do you see as a husband? What adjustments and what do you see as a father?

“I was talking to Stacy, my wife, about how I’m trying to be deliberate with Addie, our daughter. I understand I’m not going to do everything right. I’m at least trying to be deliberate in what of my natural behaviors I push on to her, or I encourage or don’t encourage within her.

One of the things that you really helped me see is that I get self-worth by being productive in any given moment, so trying to make sure that at some point I instill a good work ethic in Addie.

The ability to choose and find her self-worth from the right places, from her spirituality and other things, not just from what she thinks other people want to see.”

For anyone who’s out there, there’s a lot of people listening, business owners, leaders, individuals, stay at home moms, that have not gotten around to doing LifePlan. “I’ll get it. I need to, yeah, I need to do that. Ah, I’ll get to it.”

That is one of the things that we hear a lot is people saying, “You know, I know I’ve needed to do this for 2 years.” What would you say to them about getting in?

“My dad has been through LifePlan, my brother. I have been through LifePlan. It changes generations. It’s going to change Addie. She’s going to have more awareness for her children, or the people that are close to her in her life. It has a long lasting impact. I would never have realized these.

There’s just nothing else in my life I ever would have encountered that would’ve helped me see that. To have that big of an impact, is pretty amazing. That’s where some people do have a lot of anxiety, or concern about the experience, about the 2 days that LifePlan is.

I just try to really look at the big picture, 2 days of discomfort, I’ll say, is worth a lifetime of better choices, and better understanding, and better decisions. For me, it’s a no brainer to invest the time, and the money, and the effort, and the discomfort to come out on the other side so different and so aware. It’s amazing.”

Last question. If you could go back to a young Brent Van Haren, what would you tell him?

“I made a lot of decisions when I was young for other people. Still working on that today. I wouldn’t change any of the trajectory of my life because of my amazing wife and daughter.

There are plenty of decisions that I look back on and don’t understand myself. There are just a lot of things that I would’ve changed about me and my need to please others rather than just a passion that isn’t a need to make others happy. A lot stems from that for me.”

That’s one of the best things that you can learn coming through LifePlan, is that the thing that you’ve done that unfortunately you got self-worth from remains the thing that you get to do most likely. It’s from a completely different direction, different purpose.

QUESTION: What is holding you back from LifePlan?

 

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January 13, 2015

The Signs of Emotional Abuse

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The Signs of Emotional Abuse

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Whether you’re an entrepreneur, team member or leader, you’re not just working on the business side of running a company, managing projects, or leading a team. You’re doing life with the people you work with and you have a life that’s interacting with your business. Today we’re talking about emotional abuse and digging into what abuse actually is and how it effects your life.

Have you been emotionally abused? Are you the one doing it and not realizing it? In this episode I’m digging into:

  • The many signs of emotional abuse and how to recognize it
  • The purpose of emotional abuse and what it has in common with the abuser’s root system
  • Understanding the “why” and the lies of emotional abuse
  • Where your self-worth and self-confidence should come from

If you’ve felt this, been ridiculed or shamed, or humiliated, you’re not meant to live that kind of life. That is not what God wants for you. Go to chrislocurto.com/lifeplan, fill out your information, and we’ll get you help as soon as possible.

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January 7, 2015

Ask Chris: Intentional Living

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So many people have not been taught to be intentional or live intentionally. Intentional livings starts by saying, “I don’t want life to just happen to me anymore.” Instead of reacting and letting life happen one day at a time, it’s taking action and choosing to be intentional every day in your career, your marriage, with your children, with God, with your finances…and the list goes on. Intentional living is planning out the life you’re called to live and living it!

There’s no magic pill. There’s no trick. There’s no quick fix right now. It takes hard work.

Write your answers to these questions down, right now:

What’s the first thing that comes to mind that you want to be intentional about? What are the steps it’ll take to get there?

If you don’t have the answers, find someone who does! LifePlan is a great place to start.

In this podcast, Chris will discuss:

  • Being in the moment but being intentional about life
  • Changing your mindset
  • Having a vision, making a plan and setting goals along the way
  • Mapping out what it’s going to take today to make your goals happen
  • How to be successful by living intentionally

We got a lot of comments over the holidays from many of you about starting Michael Hyatts Best Year Ever and just loving it! Tomorrow is the last day to sign up and I absolutely recommend going through this information. It’s the best program I’ve seen for goal setting. I endorse it fully!

Go here to get started: http://bestyearever.me/chrislocurto.

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January 6, 2015

Your LifePlan Questions Answered

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LifePlan Questions Answered

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Welcome to 2015! I hope your year is already rocking and you’ve started living intentionally. Michael Hyatts “Best Year Ever” is still going on for the next few days. What are you waiting for? Get involved by going to http://bestyearever.me/chrislocurto.

Today, Joel is joining me on the podcast and we’re answering your questions on LifePlan. This process is all about discovering the “why.” Why you make decisions the way you’re making them. Why you’re doing what you’re doing now. Why you’re at where you’re at in life. Everyone that comes through has decided to change their life for the better.

In this episode, we’ll be answering:

  • How LifePlan works and what you can expect during the two-day process
  • How we discover your purpose in life and your career through LifePlan
  • What tangible things (documents, playbook, etc.) attendees leave with
  • If spouses can attend LifePlan together
  • How LifePlan will help you

Wether you’re dealing with some serious junk or you just feel stuck in your life, I absolutely believe this process will change your life. It changes the way you live your life.

If we didn’t answer your question today, there are two ways to get those questions answered. Either contact Joel by going to http://chrislocurto.com/lifeplan-sign-up/, or send a voicemail at http://chrislocurto.com/askchris/

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July 28, 2014

5 Ways To Work As Unto The Lord

For years I worked in the logistics industry. It wasn’t something I loved, but I was really good at. On top of that, the nature of the logistics biz kind of drove me nuts. It wasn’t uncommon for me to wake up at 2am, work for a bit to solve an emergency, go back to bed, then head into work to solve other emergencies.

I knew this wasn’t where I wanted to spend the rest of my career. But every time I tried to get out, I felt like God was closing the door. He didn’t want me to leave. I wasn’t being freed up to go on to something else.

Work as unto the Lord

After about a year and a half with a certain company I had a shocking conversation with one of my team members. She was struggling a lot with God. She made it pretty obvious to everyone. In fact she would always say she didn’t believe in God.
One day I asked her why she didn’t believe. She told me a story about her son-in-law and how he had killed her grandson years ago. She went on to say with tears in her eyes, “…there’s no way there could be a god who would allow for something like that to happen”.

We continued talking one-on-one for about two hours and her tears soon turned to joy as she rededicated her life to the Lord. Why did she do that? What happened during that two hour conversation?
Well, she had come to an understanding that while all things may not make sense to us, God still has a plan, and He wants us to put our faith in that plan. Ok, there was a lot more to it than that.

You have to know that God has a reason and a purpose for everything in your life.

Shortly after that conversation the craziest thing happen, I headed back to my office and heard my phone ringing. It was a team member who used to work for me who told me there was a company that wanted to hire me. He asked me if I had a resume I could send over. So I did, and guess what…I was hired in just a few days.
Random coincidence I’m sure!  : )
Not hardly! I wholeheartedly believe God kept me at the previous organization so one day I would have that conversation. Now obviously there were other things that happened while I worked there, both good and bad, but I know that God kept me there for that specific reason.

God loves his children so much that he’s perfectly fine with keeping me in an industry I disliked so that I would have a conversation that guided one of His kids back to Him. Having that perspective kind of makes you feel silly when you catch yourself complaining. And the moment after I talked with her, He moved me on.

So here’s five ways to make sure you are doing your work as unto the Lord.

1. Understand that this is God’s story…not ours.
If you are caught up thinking that this is your story, you couldn’t be further from the truth. This is God’s story, and He’s allowed us to be a part of it. If He wants to use you in a situation so He may change one of His children’s lives, He may do just that.
Doesn’t mean you can’t fight Him on it.
Doesn’t mean you can’t run away.
But if you’re not feeling freed up from a job, there must be a greater reason why God has you there in the first place.

Ask God to bring to fruition whatever it is He is wanting to do with you.

2. God has a plan for you…regardless of your environment.
It’s difficult to work with people who don’t have a lot of integrity. It’s difficult to work with people who create a bad work atmosphere. Maybe there’s gossip or backstabbing. You have to understand that no matter what else is going on in other’s lives, God still has a plan for you.
Here’s Jeremiah 29:11in the Message:

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”

So if that’s true, and you are in a work environment that is not ideal, it doesn’t mean that you stop working hard for God. Just because other people are that way doesn’t mean you mess yourself up in the process and stop doing a great job.

3. Don’t bring yourself down to the level of others.
When the folks around you are not working their hardest, it can wear you down. If your work ethic slips to the level of those around you, guess what? You make yourself considerably less marketable. I want you to focus on being marketable. That means making yourself even more valuable as if you are going to another company. Ask the question, “How can I make myself even greater in situations where most people don’t care?”.
If you focus on making yourself more marketable to other businesses, when the time is right, not only will God move you on, but you might even get a better position at your current organization.

4. Focus on how you can bless others around you.
How can you be a witness to those around you? If people are struggling or not giving their all, if they are gossiping or backstabbing, you should still be a light. You should still be a witness to them. Not only a witness to a better work ethic, but also for Christ. They should be able to see you live in Christ even if you don’t say it with your mouth.

St. Francis of Assissi said, “Preach the gospel at all times, when necessary, use words.

5. Talk to God.
No matter where you are or what you’re doing, prayer is literally a game changer. Prayer is not about how fancy you can be with your words. If you are using nine dollar words with God…He’s not impressed.  In fact, He wants you to talk to Him as children do. You are His child, and prayer should never stop.

Pray without ceasing. That means you are talking to God all day long. The same way you talk to anyone else around you. So when you’re in a job or industry you don’t like, talk to God and let Him know how you feel. He cares. Ask Him what He wants from you. Ask Him what you’re suppose to do. Ask Him how to be better at what you’re doing. Ask Him for direction, guidance, and even ask Him to bless you. There’s no harm in any of that.

But remember, don’t stop talking to Him just because you’re not happy with where you’re working. The more time you spend with Him, the greater chance He is going to let you in on the incredible plan He has you in.

How have you seen God at work in your life, and the lives of others?

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June 16, 2014

8 Negative People You Should Avoid!

In LifePlan I share with people that we are the sum of our influencers and our past. Good or bad, how we’ve been influenced and how our past has impacted us, shapes our decisions to be who we are today.

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Who are we influenced by? Our Family, friends, teachers, leaders, and co-workers.

For most people, their family makes up the majority of those two areas. We would all love for our family to have an incredible, positive, and loving impact on us. Unfortunately for a lot of folks, their family has had a lasting negative impact.

Keep in mind I said for a lot of folks. Not everyone’s family has had that effect. In fact, I just had a gentleman go through LifePlan who had the greatest loving parents I’ve seen. So yes, there are wonderful loving families out there.

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 If you haven’t received your free copy of my new guide, Avoiding Conflict, then be sure to click here now to get it! It shows you how each of the different personality styles contribute to conflict.

I share with every LifePlan attendee who has had the negative impacts, we don’t make any monsters or any victims, we focus on discovering WHY. Understanding why you are where you are, and why you make the decisions you do, is the most powerful part of becoming your strongest self ever.

Until you go through LifePlan and discover for yourself how to best deal with any situation, you need set up healthy boundaries between you and those who are constantly bringing you down.

Do you have any of these people in your life:

  • The naysayer – This is the person who constantly says what ever you propose to do will not work. They have every reason and excuse in the book why you will fail at pretty much everything you try.
  • The know-it-all – No matter how much you know from experience, learning, or God-given wisdom, the know-it-all always makes you feel like you’re an idiot, and none of your thoughts or ideas have merit.
  • The drama queen – I do believe the old saying that misery loves company. Some will go out of their way to stir up as much drama as possible and suck others in. They tend to focus on folks whose heart cares for others, and tends to be too big to consciously protect themselves.
  • The taker – This person is always interested in what you can do for them. They are quite often a victim, and always turning the focus back on to them and what they are dealing with. If you are struggling with something, they will tend to tell you that it’s not that big of a deal, and you she see what they are having to deal with.
  • The impossible to please – Some people refuse to give a kind word to anything you do. If you have something that you are proud of, they will find 700 reasons why it’s not good enough. In turn, you hear every time that it is YOU who are not good enough.
  • The Manipulator – “I really need you to help me with…” is a common sentence used by the manipulator. They do a great job discovering who around them they can get to do things for them. If you push back, they will push harder to make you feel guilty.
  • The Judge – It is vitally important to The Judge to look good. So much so, they will do what they can to make you look less-than or insignificant. No matter what you’ve done, they’ve done it better.
  • The Self Critic – This is probably the worst negative person of all! This is the person inside of you who believes the lies that you are told, and has a tendency to tell quite a few lies to you as well. This negative person must be avoided at all costs!

The truth is we see these people in what we call friends, co-workers, leaders, etc.

Understand this – ALL people need a LifePlan! Everyone on the list above most likely doesn’t understand why they do what they do. Even if they have an idea, they don’t know how to deal with it. If you didn’t listen to Understanding Your Root System on the podcast, it will help to explain more.

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I’m not asking you to kick people out of your life, (although some people you might need to) I’m asking you to set healthy Boundaries and remove the authority the negative people have in your life.

Question: What advice do you have to keep negative people away?

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May 20, 2014

The LifePlan Episode [Podcast]

Recently I asked who you would like to hear on the podcast and so many of you asked to hear from past LifePlan attendees, so today is the day! Stephen Scoggins and April Browning are joining me on the podcast to talk about their LifePlan experiences.

They unpack what it means to go through a LifePlan, and give you the ins and outs of this phenomenal 2-day process.

“LifePlan for me was putting things in proper perspective. Putting things in a perspective to take your past, your present, your future – blend them together, have a clear path…” – Stephen Scoggins

 

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In this episode, Stephen and April will talk about:

  • What made them decide to go through LifePlan
  • The most powerful part of the process
  • Who LifePlan is for and who they’d recommend going through the process
  • How it’s impacted their relationships with family, friends and team members
  • Why Stephen is sending his team through LifePlan
  • How understanding personality styles factors into the LifePlan
  • The toughest, best and worst part of LifePlan
  • Life post LifePlan – weeks and months after the event

“If you have any questions within yourself, any doubts, if you’re not 100% certain on the direction your life is headed, I think LifePlan is for you.” – April Browning

If you’re interested in learning more about the process or to schedule a LifePlan, fill out the contact form and we will be in touch with you shortly!

Question: What else do you want to know about LifePlan?

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May 5, 2014

From Dysfunctional To Thriving

Here’s a great post by Lily Kreitinger. Lily specializes in helping leadership effectively train team members. Follow Lily at LilyKreitinger.com

I was born and raised in a dysfunctional family.

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I knew this had greatly impacted my life in more ways than I even realized, and trying to better understand myself, I read the book “Living the Life You Were Meant to Live”.

While it was helpful, something was missing. I was still stuck. I needed more and realized I couldn’t get what I needed on my own.

On April 14, 2014, I took the plunge and started the LifePlan process with my friend and coach Chris LoCurto. To say it has been life-changing is a complete understatement. The two biggest learning outcomes of this experience have been:

1) I was born an raised in a dysfunctional family. I learned this from looking at my root system. (Learn about it here – Understanding Your Root System) One of my biggest discoveries was that my dad was an alcoholic. We never saw it like that and never talked about it in those terms.

My mom was abused emotionally, physically and mentally as a child. They were both adults physically but not emotionally or spiritually throughout their 36 years of marriage, which ended with my dad’s death from cancer at the age of 59.

They taught me to love God, but never taught us how much God loves me. They couldn’t because they didn’t know either. I never had a real relationship with the living God until now.

2) It’s incredible what 20 hours can do! Over the course of two days, I was able to find the answer to this question: “Why do I exist?” The answer moved me to tears (the whole process did). I, Lily Kreitinger, exist to “Live in relationship with God, love, lead and witness to His people and change lives.”

While I’m not yet at a place of understanding about my parents, I do have a very different perspective of who they really were: God’s beloved children, deeply hurt by others, broken and alone. No one taught them how to be great parents.

No one taught them how loved they were. Now I can honor my dad’s memory and begin to heal the relationship with my mom. My mom is like a broken little girl in an adult body. I have learned that I will honor my parents as they follow Christ and that boundaries are necessary and not disrespectful.

I can now start to heal and grow in my marriage. For ten years, my husband tried to help me see how toxic the relationship with my parents was and until I understood the impact of the root system, I was unable to listen.

If you have read about LifePlan and are considering it, be prepared for a 180-degree turn in your life. You and the ones you love the most are worth it. Your Father is waiting for you in the Upper Room, with open arms.

If you would like to learn more about my experience with Chris, please feel free to contact me on Twitter @lilykreitinger.

Question: What are your takeaways? 

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February 25, 2014

How Your Past Can Change Your Future [Podcast]

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Every time I do a LifePlan, I spend several hours going over the major turns in each participants life. Major turns are key events from your past that help you gain perspective on where you’re at and where you’re going. It’s literally a process of sharing the major changes from your life, like moving as a kid or marriage, loss, accepting Christ, etc. It doesn’t have to be something big, heavy and deep but it very well could be.

Typically, we get around 10 to 15 major turns or changes in each LifePlan. Of course this depends on age and experience too. Some people have 10, others have 18. There’s no right or wrong number but a major turn isn’t just a continuation of an event, it’s something that actually changed the direction of your life.

Here’s what I want you to do:

Think back as far as you possibly can and start writing down the major turns in your life. You’re not doing this to re-live stuff or make monsters or victims. It’s about understanding and gaining perspective. Once you’ve written down every major turn up until now, write down what the impact was in your life on every major turn. How did it affect you? Here’s an example from my life:

  • Discovering I wouldn’t make the Olympic team – I was shooting for the ’88 Olympics and sponsorships were not allowed. When I discovered that my family couldn’t afford it, I was devastated. Skiing in the Olympics was my biggest dream and goal. I was so angry that I stopped skiing. I started hanging out with an unsavory crowd. I convinced myself not to dream or shoot for anything big because I could get my heart broken. It impacted me by starting a decision making process that messed me up for 10 years. I didn’t want to stick my neck out, hope or dream.

Thankfully, after 10 years, I realized what I was doing to myself by giving up on something I loved. I immediately booked a trip to the mountains, rented skis and raced. I’ve been doing that just about every year since. It’s a love of mine. It’s energizing. I finally realized that I made a decision that didn’t just have to do with skiing. Every time I went to make a big decision, I choose not to do anything I could get hurt over.

I began of process of running every major decision through the filter of “Is this going to let me down?” If so, I’m not going to do it.

I had to change force of habit thinking. When we make decisions based on habits of the past, we loose out on some of the great moments or greatest changes in our lives. We do it because we don’t truly understand the perspective of our past. I didn’t have to look back and be mad or make monsters or victims. I simply had to ask, “How did that impact me?” As I understood that, I realized I’d put a decision making process in place that would affect me for 10 years. To this day, it’s something I have to rule out as a part of my process.

That’s why I want you to do this. Take time this week, schedule it in, and go through your major turns. If you want to dig deeper into gaining perspective on your life, check out LifePlan by inquiring on the page & we will reach out to you with additional information.

Question: How has understanding the past changed your future?

 

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February 10, 2014

If Your Actions Inspire…

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John Quincy Adams, leadership quote

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader.”
John Quincy Adams

The sixth president of the United States summed up the entire essence of leadership pretty well. When we aren’t inspiring people to dream, learn, do and become more, we’re not leading.

The entire goal of this blog is to do just that. I want to release content every week that helps you discover how to find the life and business you really want. What will help you dream more, learn more, do more and become the best version of yourself and your business? What will help you inspire your team to do the same?

We’re starting a new video series and your question might be answered! Ask anything you want to know in these categories by commenting below:

Question: What would you ask in a coaching session, LifePlan, Strategic Planning event or what do you want to know about personality styles?

 

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January 7, 2014

It’s Okay to be Selfish [Podcast]

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During LifePlan, the topic of being selfish comes up all the time and it’s always an assumed no-no. Healthy selfishness is a vital piece of living a healthy life with boundaries. If you don’t have healthy boundaries in your life, a boundary that says “stop here” or “this is my limit,” you’ll get walked all over.

If you haven’t read Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, buy a copy today!

When you begin to start setting healthy boundaries at home and at work, it changes your life. Be selfish and get rid of junk so you can be the best version of yourself. Take time to unpack your past and get healthy. If you don’t get rid of the baggage in your life, you’ll continue to carry it around and pick up more along the way.

Take time to get healthy. Take time to get coached on how to do that. If you’re interested in LifePlan, check out the Work With Me page above for additional information.

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Question: What’s the most selfish thing you’ve done that’s helped you to be better?

 

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December 3, 2013

Hurt People Hurt People [Podcast]

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I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! For some of you, it’s a fantastic time of year. For others (and quite possibly people on your team), this whole holiday season is difficult.

There are people around you that may be hurting right now and lashing out. In fact, you may be one of those hurt people hurting other people. You can only take responsibility for yourself but take the responsibility. Be aware of those around you and understand that especially during this time of year, emotions are high.

“When you can’t fix yourself, you’re frustrated with the broken people in your life.” (tweet this)

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If you want to dig deeper into the information I shared today, check out my 2-day coaching event on gaining perspective from your past and creating a LifePlan for your future. I also highly recommend Dr. Henry Cloud’s exceptional book:

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Be sure to download the single, “Naughty List,” featured at the end of today’s podcast! Our very own Melissa co-wrote the song and is in a fantastic big band jazz trio called The North Pole Patrol. It’ll definitely get you in the Christmas spirit!

Question: What steps are you going to take to fix YOU?

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November 21, 2013

You Are Good Enough [Video]

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We finished up the Q&A Series a couple weeks ago and today we’re starting a new video lesson series straight from your feedback on the reader survey! Thank you for the incredible questions, comments and ideas!

Do you ever struggle with the feeling that you just haven’t achieved enough or accomplished enough? It’s not a question of “Am I good enough?” it’s an absolute feeling of “I am not good enough.” Clear it out of your mind. The truth is, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!

Take a few minutes and make three columns on a sheet of paper:

  • 1st column: Write down every person or situation that has made you feel like you aren’t good enough. This will help you gain perspective on where the feelings came from. We’re not making monsters or victims.
  • 2nd column: Write down everything you’ve achieved or accomplished in life. This is difficult. Take time to discover what these things are. We’re terrible at celebrating our victories.
  • 3rd column: Write down a list of people that you’ve possibly made feel like they aren’t good enough. We’ve all done it. Pick out a few people that you’re going to talk to this week and let them know that they are good enough.

“If you can never be satisfied with what you have achieved, you’ll never be satisfied with what you do achieve.” – Chris LoCurto Tweet

Today, come to a place of understanding that you are good enough! If you’d like to dig deeper into discovering your purpose in life and finding perspective in your past, check out the LifePlan page under Work With Me.

Question: How have you affirmed or encouraged people on your team?

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July 15, 2013

The Poimen Group Announcement

It’s been almost six months since I started my business. After 12 amazing years with Dave Ramsey, countless hours leading, teaching and coaching leaders and entrepreneurs, I felt God calling me to leave. It was the most difficult decision I’ve ever made but over the past few months, I’ve built my own business to do what I love – coach business and entrepreneurs and develop leaders.

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Along the way, I talked to someone very special about naming my business. She gave me the word “Poimen.”  Which, if I’m being serious, sounded lame. But then she sent me the definition.

Poimen (pronounced poy-mane’) is the Greek word in the Bible for:

A herdsman, especially a shepherd. The tasks of a Near Eastern shepherd were – to watch for enemies trying to attack the sheep – to defend the sheep from attackers – to heal the wounded and sick sheep – to find and save lost or trapped sheep – to love them, sharing their lives, and so earning their trust.

It was so powerful and a word that many have since told me is me. I sat on it awhile, and even asked some of the #CLoTribe if they had any ideas. And as God does it, a couple of people said that I remind them of the word “Poimen.” Yes Virginia, God really does care about the little things.

I shared it with the folks helping me build the business and they were all excited. Therefore, let me introduce you to the company name –

The Poimen Group

My heart is to grow leaders, entrepreneurs, team members and businesses to be better than they have ever been. I want to change the popular opinion that leadership is about the leader. Instead, real leadership is about serving others.

If you’ve been with me awhile you know one of my sayings:

As a leader, it’s your job to make your team successful, not the other way around.

And with that, I want to introduce some of the incredible people who have come onboard to help me get this thing going. First off, I need to recognize two guys who really helped me get started and headed in the right direction and continue to help push this machine along:

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Lance Osborne worked with me for many years and was the Director of our Simulcast Department. On top of having been a great leader for me, he’s also been an incredible friend. While he has a full-time job, and an amazing family, he’s found the time to help me get The Poimen Group off of the ground. Even going so far as to travel across the country to produce a video shoot that I’ll be featuring on the blog soon.

KeithKeith Cook has been a friend for almost 20 years. Keith, who also has a full-time job, and a family almost as big as Lance’s, has found personal time to come along side me to help get my online presence moving in the right direction (which is pretty much like speaking Chinese to me.) He’s been instrumental in getting the pieces together needed to make the change.

Melissa

Melissa Czech worked with me in my marketing department and was known as my “commander”. Not only is she very talented at marketing, but she also knows how to get things done! She has come on board to focus on marketing, content, social media, and pretty much everything else to make this business all it can be. Melissa is helping me to give direction to The Poimen Group.

Brian

Brian Alex has been a personal friend for many years and he just happens to be the father of my beautiful god-daughters. Even though he is days away from moving his family to Sicily to be missionaries, he has been helping me to get administrative systems in place, and will continue to help from across the seas.

Chris LoCurto, Leadership, Business, Strategic PlanningJoel Fortner is not only a friend, father to my godson, and contributor to ChrisLoCurto.com, he’s also married to one of my favorite people on the planet, my former personal assistant, Marybeth. Not only did he steal her away from me (I’m still bitter), but he’s also come on board to help with the sales side of the business. I’m excited to have his years of expertise.

Brock

Brock Fuller is a young entrepreneur at heart with a passion for business. We have named him “Brock the Intern.” He’s come on board to learn about building businesses and helping leaders and entrepreneurs succeed. Along with having the entrepreneurial fire, Brock brings a TON of great ideas and talent to the table.

The final team member is you, the #CLoTribe. You have been instrumental in me focusing on the talents that God has given me to help His children succeed. If it wasn’t for you, there wouldn’t be a ChrisLoCurto.com. You make it an absolute joy to do what I do.

I can guarantee that the people who’ve been through the StratOp & LifePlan events we’ve been doing, are grateful you exist as well. They are enjoying incredible business AND personal change!

Well, there you have it folks. I wish I had the space to write everything I would like to about these amazing people. If you made it this far in the post, I’m honored!

Now, I want to hear from YOU! What do you think of the new name, team, and all that’s going on at ChrisLoCurto.com? 

 

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June 24, 2013

Do You Know What God Has For You?

In the next week and a half I have three LifePlan’s that I will be conducting here at my house. I can truly say my LifePlan absolutely changed my life!

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It gave me clarity in areas that I hadn’t had in a very long time…if ever. The great Tom Patterson put it this way –

“God has a plan for your life.
In creating who you are, God
simultaneously built into your life
what you’re to do. When you
discover His intent — and fully
embrace His design, His plan, His
master-thought for you — you will
be able to live the life you were
meant to live.”

Doing my LifePlan not only helped me to discover my purpose in life, but it also helped me to eliminate the “options” of things I COULD do in life.

Once I knew the direction I was supposed to go in, going that way wasn’t difficult at all. In fact, God has blessed it immensely!

A client asked me some questions about it just the other day. Here’s a part of what I sent him:

If we only did your LifePlan to see if it was time for you to change vocations, we would be doing you a disservice. LifePlan isn’t about job change.

It’s about gaining full perspective of your life by going through a lot of what’s happened and pointing out all the God moments or patterns.

We discuss what’s right, wrong, confused, and missing with your life. For me I discovered how with certain people in my life I have given up my authority; some of those people were leaders, some were people who were very close to me.

Because of that, I have caused myself to acquiesce at times that God wanted me to power through and be the man He created me to be. Now that I know that, I have been considerably stronger and choosing to not give up my authority. Instead, I’ve found myself being a ton more effective because of it.

From that we derive what your TRUE talents and heart is. (We discussed those at coffee and how important they are.) Where are you strong so you can focus on those areas instead of any other unneeded areas.

I think this is vital for your CURRENT role. If you stay right where you are, I think you need to refocus your leadership and talents so you operate in YOUR full capacity.

This points us in the direction of the Life Dashboard. We discover your gas and brake pedals. What are the things that drive you to be the best you that you can be. And what causes you to come to a complete stop.

Trust me when I say, this is very surprising when it’s completed. With it you are able to go forward working on the gas pedal, and managing the brake pedal.

We also spend some time discovering what refreshes you. I didn’t realize how important this was until I realized the things in my life that HAD refreshed me.

And now it is VITAL that I do these things so that I can be the best husband, leader, influencer, friend, and most importantly, Christ follower. 

These are just a few of the incredible things that come from doing a LifePlan. Are you ready for yours? If so, click here.

Question: How important is it for you to do what God has for you?