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September 28, 2016

How This Couple Discovered Their Strongest Life, 17 Years Later

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If you’re not getting the things you need, don’t wait…change. How? By choosing to change. You have to make the choice.

Today we are talking with some fantastic people. Mike and Cathy have been through Next-Level Life individually, and had phenomenal experiences. We like to share this, because we get people asking all the time, wanting to know what it’s like, wanting to hear about the process and results from the inside. We love hearing from people who have experienced this event.

They can say it better than I can, because they’re telling their story. It’s a powerful story… Here’s our conversation:

Q: What was life like before your Next-Level Life Events?

Cathy: Life was full of misunderstanding. I did not know how to get perspective on what was happening, how I was reacting, and what the reality of the situation was. There was a lot of confusion. I thought what we did was normal, I told myself,  “It just, is, that’s how it is and how I deal with it.” I didn’t realize I was confused. I was used to seeing the same results…

Mike: It was a lot of anger, hurt, frustration…insecurity. When I tried to grasp for control, and people didn’t understand that I was trying to make things better, I would hurt people in the process. I was a control freak causing damage to my family, that’s not what I wanted to do. It was an insane spiral of me feeling insecure, and grabbing for control.

That’s something we walk through in Next-Level Life, that control is an illusion.  

Q: Why did it take you so long to decide to come through the event?

Mike: Self-worth. I didn’t feel like I was the guy who could be successful with the tools from the process. I wanted to be that guy, but couldn’t see myself that way. My internal conversation was 24/7, and very self-deprecating. The other thing that scared the heck out of me was, I didn’t want to come in and have all my past brought to the surface, stuff that I was unaware of. It was stepping back and trusting you guys when you said, “this isn’t going to uncover things from your childhood that are hidden to you right now…” This event is not about that.

Q: What are some specific things that were holding you back in life? Period.

Mike: I did not realize it until Next-Level Life, but I very much had a victim mentality. I allowed it to drive so many decisions, along with fear, and it paralyzed me. I was my own worst enemy.

Cathy: Being a mom and wife, I realized that I was putting off my own self care so that I could take care of my family. I wasn’t taking care of myself.

…and how did that work out for you?

Let’s say that things are much better now. *laughter* I came through Next-Level Life realizing I have to actively love me, as much as I am pouring into loving others.

Exactly, You must put God first. Put your health second, not your happiness, your health, and then focus on your spouse and others.

Cathy: I can do what God created me to do which is to bless others, without making myself lesser to that service.

Q: How were your Next-Level Life events…?

Mike: I came away with the record of most sheets of paper… *laughter* I have never had anything lay out my life in such clarity. I had issues with family…they trained me a certain way, and I trained my children that way. I vilified people because I was hurt so much, and when I went through Next-Level Life I literally came out with a different perspective, rather than putting someone as the “bad guy,” I understood and felt empathy. Before, it was all anger and wanting justice. It was THE MOST freeing experience. I came away with peace I had never experienced before. I was scared (that word doesn’t do it justice) to do the event, but I needed something else, more. I didn’t have the answers…The answer to why I was where I was.

As soon as I came back I began implementing, changing.

It impacted me like nothing I’ve done in my life before.

I used to manipulate through fear and anger to get people to do what I wanted them to do, the change in me and the change in Cathy has been so substantial, we have one child coming through in a few months and another child coming through Summer of next year. These are adult children that are making the decision to come on their own because they’ve seen the change. You can’t get your kids to do stuff like that if they’re not genuinely seeing the benefit.

They are seeing their dad become a dad.

When I came back, within 3 days of coming home…My son was playing a video game and there was a bug in the game that made it malfunction. He told me that it was his fault…I asked him why. And he kept blaming himself and said it was just easier to blame himself.

Front and center, there was the thought process I had trained in my kid.

Cathy: My Next-Level Life event was powerful, eye-opening. It was a lot of gaining perspective. It wasn’t just gaining perspective, it was shifting perspective. Everything is right there in front of you, and there are things that you are missing, that you’re just not seeing. That baggage you come into adulthood with, the perspective on that can be shifted because you have someone guiding you and walking you through seeing things from a new set of eyes. There was no taking sides. It’s done kindly, lovingly, and strongly. I didn’t feel strong-armed into seeing or feeling a particular way. I was challenged on “is that reality? Or are you just carrying a perspective you came in with?”

Life doesn’t stop happening after the event. You don’t come through Next-level Life and then it’s all roses and there’s nothing to deal with in life. For you guys, you went through some really tough stuff AFTER your events. How did you guys deal with that after your Next Level Life events?

Mike: We left my Next Level Life and within a month we got sidelined by some stuff…If I had not been equipped through Next-Level Life and wanting to set a different path, I really think our family would be broken. I am so grateful for the fact that in Next-Level Life you (the facilitators) are strong, and it’s not like you’re getting your worth from the process, so you can ask those hard questions that friends shy away from. I still remember sitting in the van with Cathy and having a conference call with Joel (a facilitator) after my event, wanting him to side with me, and he said, “Mike…if you do that, you’re going to ruin things.” I was mad I didn’t get the answer I wanted to allow me to be angry. I look back now, and I am so grateful that he took a stand…he didn’t have to. He was confident enough in who he is to say, “Mike, that’s not a decision I would make. It’s yours to make. Here’s what I see…” I respected him enough to process through it and make the right decision. We had much better results than if we had been functioning status quo.

If I had not gone through Next-Level Life, I would not have the tools to get back up and say, “this is not who I have to be or the situation I’m relegated to, I can choose a different path.”

I’ve trained my family in disfunction. I can train them in choosing a different route. It’s not necessarily functional, I’m still learning, but it’s not totally dysfunctional.*laughter*

We’re seeing sides of our kids that are like, “where have you been?” I was so angry before, I hadn’t allowed my kids to be who they were, they were intimidated.

Q: How has it impacted your marriage, and your kids?

Mike: I thought that our marriage was good before. It is great to see my wife feeling alive. You want to see your family successful, and Next-Level Life equips you to free your wife, kids. Cathy and I can have a conversation now, and I value where she’s coming from more, even if I don’t agree, and now she is stronger and voices her opinion, which I’m so glad she does.

Cathy: We’ve hit a different level of partnership, support and friendship in our marriage. There’s just this freedom to be completely who we are since Next-Level Life, without the fear of the other person not understanding. Now I feel completely comfortable and secure asking, “am I missing something? Do I have the wrong perspective?” The event it has not only affected our marriage but how we parent together.

Mike: When we came to Next Level Life, the whole team is working to make us feel more at home. You can make yourself feel right at home.

We can both be hesitant and insecure. I realized after the event that people aren’t as focused on us as we think they are. They don’t have to like or approve of us…If they make that decision, that’s their choice. I can’t control what my kids or neighbors think of me. I can control my actions, but that’s as far as it goes.

Whether it’s Next Level Life, Mastermind or Retreat, it’s coming home to family…because you guys don’t hold punches. But not in a competitive or demeaning way, it’s in a genuine manner. It’s so refreshing. It’s so valuable.

Q: How has it impacted the kids?

Mike: We’re talking about 19 year olds that have seen mom and dad pre-Next-Level Life, are now seeing you guys after Next-Level Life, and going, “I want that.” That speaks volumes to what you guys have done, what you have implemented. My daughter was working her heart out to try and do things to help me be more healthy, our family to be more healthy, and I was just shooing it away. I was so hurt (Mike’s Root System) that I couldn’t see what she was doing to appreciate it.

Your previous parenting style, had a decently negative impact on her. It’s not just she now has a dad who listens, but one who apologized, explained and helped her to see what he had done wrong, and is supportive of her now.

Q: On top of this, it has been quite a weight loss process for you.

Mike: Because of where I was emotionally, I just continued in a spiral putting on weight. I am the lowest weight I have been in 3 years…not my mindset has changed, and I can utilize advice.

Not only did you guys have phenomenal event, but you went home and implemented like crazy. That means the world to me. 

Thank you for joining me on the show and giving so much of yourselves for the people that are listening.

Q: If there was one thing you could tell the person that’s out there holding back on coming to the event

Mike:

Can I tell them two?

  1. It is so much better than you can imagine. It’s worth it. You’re worth it. Do it.
  2. I was given advice to follow through with the homework, and as we alluded to, Next-Level Life is like a Next-level, you still grow and continue on from there.

Cathy:

To be encouraged that there will be growth. It will not always be fun, but just the release of realizing who you are, and the personality that you want to have IS THERE. It’s already there, and it’s okay to release it, utilize it, it’s okay to be happy and grow into who you feel like you should’ve been this whole time. It’s scary to remove those masks…there is nothing better you will ever do than to be in the safety of this team and remove those masks.

It’s okay to be happy, and get rid of the junk that holds you back. Recognize where it’s coming from then plug in the tools to work on it, and fix it. When you have the tools, you can deal with and solve the problem, you have the tools to make life better.

The thing is, your life does not get better by waiting around, by someone coming and taking care of it for you. The government is not going to do it, your family is not going to do it. Your life is not going to get better by chance, it’s going to get better by change. To have change, you have to make a choice. 

Learn more about Next-Level Life here.

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September 27, 2016

How This Couple Discovered Their Strongest Life

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If you’re not getting the things you need, don’t wait…change. How? By choosing to change. You have to make the choice.

Today we are talking with some fantastic people. Mike and Cathy have been through Next-Level Life individually, and had phenomenal experiences. We like to share these stories, because we get people asking about Next-Level Life events all the time, wanting to know what it’s like, and wanting to hear about the process and results from the inside. This is Mike and Cathy’s story.

Here’s our conversation:

Q: What was life like before your Next-Level Life Events?

Cathy: Life was full of misunderstanding. I did not know how to get perspective on what was happening, how I was reacting, and what the reality of the situation was. There was a lot of confusion. I thought what we did was normal, I told myself,  “It just, is, that’s how it is and how I deal with it.” I didn’t realize I was confused. I was used to seeing the same results…

Mike: It was a lot of anger, hurt, frustration…insecurity. When I tried to grasp for control, and people didn’t understand that I was trying to make things better, I would hurt people in the process. I was a control freak causing damage to my family, that’s not what I wanted to do. It was an insane spiral of me feeling insecure, and grabbing for control.

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Q: Why did it take you so long to decide to come through the event?

Mike: Self-worth. I didn’t feel like I was the guy who could be successful with the tools from the process. I wanted to be that guy, but couldn’t see myself that way. My internal conversation was 24/7, and very self-deprecating. The other thing that scared the heck out of me was, I didn’t want to come in and have all my past brought to the surface, stuff that I was unaware of. It was stepping back and trusting you guys when you said, “this isn’t going to uncover things from your childhood that are hidden to you right now…” This event is not about that.

Q: What are some specific things that were holding you back in life? Period.

Mike: I did not realize it until Next-Level Life, but I very much had a victim mentality. I allowed it to drive so many decisions, along with fear, and it paralyzed me. I was my own worst enemy.

Cathy: Being a mom and wife, I realized that I was putting off my own self care so that I could take care of my family. I wasn’t taking care of myself.

…and how did that work out for you?

Let’s say that things are much better now. *laughter* I came through Next-Level Life realizing I have to actively love me, as much as I am pouring into loving others. I can do what God created me to do, without making myself lesser to that service.

Q: How were your Next-Level Life events…?

Mike: I came away with the record of most sheets of paper… *laughter* I have never had anything lay out my life in such clarity. I had issues with family…they trained me a certain way, and I trained my children that way. I vilified people because I was hurt so much, and when I went through Next-Level Life I literally came out with a different perspective, rather than putting someone as the “bad guy,” I understood and felt empathy.

It was THE MOST freeing experience.

I came away with peace I had never experienced before. I was scared (that word doesn’t do it justice) to do the event, but I needed something else, more. I didn’t have the answers…The answer to why I was where I was.

As soon as I came back I began implementing, changing.

It impacted me like nothing I’ve done in my life before.

The change in me and the change in Cathy has been so substantial, we have one child coming through in a few months and another child coming through Summer of next year. These are adult children that are making the decision to come on their own because they’ve seen the change. You can’t get your kids to do stuff like that if they’re not genuinely seeing the benefit.

They are seeing their dad become a dad.

Cathy: My Next-Level Life event was powerful, eye-opening. It wasn’t just gaining perspective, it was shifting perspective. Everything is right there in front of you, and there are things that you are missing, that you’re just not seeing. That baggage you come into adulthood with, the perspective on that can be shifted because you have someone guiding you and walking you through seeing things from a new set of eyes. There was no taking sides. It’s done kindly, lovingly, and strongly. I didn’t feel strong-armed into seeing or feeling a particular way. I was challenged on “is that reality? Or are you just carrying a perspective you came in with?”

Life doesn’t stop happening after the event. For you guys, you went through some really tough stuff AFTER your events. How did you guys deal with that after your Next Level Life events?…

To hear the full interview, listen here:

The thing is, your life does not get better by waiting around, by someone coming and taking care of it for you. The government is not going to do it, your family is not going to do it. Your life is not going to get better by chance, it’s going to get better by change. To have change, you have to make a choice. Learn more about Next-Level Life

Discover the life you were meant to live.

 

 

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April 25, 2016

Delivering Criticism To A High I Personality Style

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On today’s podcast, we are doing something a little bit different. We are taking your call-in questions over the phone.

We are super excited to try this out. Let us know if you enjoy this type of show. We want to know your thoughts so, leave a comment at the bottom of the post.

Now on to our first question!

Question 1: 

One of the individuals that I coach is a great team member, has a ton of potential, and has been really receptive. Something came up last week when we were meeting that totally stumped me.

He’s a high D personality style, has a lot of I as well, so really can be sincere but on the job he’s totally task. As he and I were breaking down kind of what was going on on some of the actions that have happened and the behaviors that he had exhibited recently.

The thing that came out is that he doesn’t care about the individual that he’s working with at the moment. That’s pretty much how he said it and it kind of floored me for a minute.

He and I both have a good relationship. I let him know that I wasn’t judging his comment but I was totally bewildered, I didn’t know what to say. I don’t know where to go.

Here’s what we hit:

  • Adapting your personality style
  • Gaining Self-worth in a role
  • The need for control
  • The role your root system plays in your leadership
  • Fear of failing
  • What questions to ask to guide a team member to self-discovery
  • Delivering constructive criticism to a high I personality style

Question 2:

I’m having a harder time than I used to of taking a breath and making the time to be there with the individual rather than just trying to get through the agenda so I can get to the next thing. I don’t know how to get back to a place of patience and just focusing on the individual.

  • The balance between the task at hand and a teachable moment
  • Perspective when it comes to pressure and stress

 

Don’t forget, we want to hear from you. Do you like the call-in show? Would you like to hear more of them on the show? We’d love to know what you think so be sure to leave a comment below.

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April 12, 2016

7 Ways To Lead A Negative Team Member

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Bad attitudes will ruin your team. I say it all the time, champions want to be around other champions.

Negative team members will poison those around them, and ultimately your champions will leave because of it.

Listen leaders, you’ve got to take action. You have to do something about it, because I can promise you this…allowing one negative team member to chase off two champions is going to implode your team.

if you don’t stop that right now, then what you are allowing the negativity to shape and mold your culture.

These team members are literally forcing culture on you, and the company, or at least that team.

If you are a team leader, it is absolutely shaping your team’s culture. DO NOT allow it. It is dangerous!

Here are 7 things that will help you lead a negative team member:

 

1. You Must Desire To Help The Team Member 

Most people just want to shut the negativity down, shut the person down, and stop the junk. Listen, there’s a reason why this person is being this way.

You have to start off by caring more about them than yourself.

2. Take Them Out Of The Office

Don’t do it where you know it’s going to get people talking. You know that people are going to see that there is this conversation going on, and by the way, it could get heated, they might blow up a little bit.

Take them out of the office.

3. Explain Why You Are Meeting

You have to make a judgement on how important this meeting is. Is this a discussion or is this an emergency meeting. Set the tone. In other words, if it is an emergency…”Hey listen, I wanted to talk to you, but before we get into everything, I need you to understand this is a nine-one-one meeting.

This is something that you have to understand, if we don’t fix this today, if we don’t solve this in this meeting, there’s going to be repercussions, there’s going to be consequences, so I need you to understand what this meeting is all about.”

You have to say up front, so that they have an expectation of what’s going on.

4. Set The Ground Rules 

Set the ground rules. Listen, no being mad, no yelling, no being personally offended if something does come up, then I need you to say something.

5. Gain Perspective

It’s all about perspective. You’ve got to ask tons and tons of questions and plan on following up every question with a why. Ask them questions. Find out what’s going on.

Find out why they felt that way. Find out how they feel about the leadership, and the company.

6. Focus On Understanding

Focus on understanding why they believe the company wouldn’t want them to succeed. Why do you feel that way?Ask them to help you understand why they believe that. Then fill in the information.

The communication will help to remove the fear. It will help to get them feeling good about their position and it will help to have them not have the broken belief system.

7. After All Things…

After you help them to gain perspective, shown them that you care, set their expectations, and after you have helped them to see that the company does want them to succeed or at the very least the leadership over them wants them to succeed…after all of that explain that the negativity has to GO!

If it has been done well and they are on board, then they will go back and bust it.

QUESTION: How have you handled a negative team member? 

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February 9, 2016

How Clear Is Your Decision-Making?

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One of the things that can absolutely destroy your business, long term, is a bad decision-making process.

Some people make decisions because they’re afraid. They’re afraid of something, they’re afraid something’s going to happen, they’re afraid, whatever, fill-in-the-blank.

They make really bad decisions. There are ton of leaders who don’t make decisions because of fear.

There are a bunch of leaders and entrepreneurs that struggle with their identity being what they do or their business. Your business is what you do, it’s not who you are.

It is an element of who you are. It is a piece of who you are, but it is not who you are.

You’re also a son, or a daughter, or a father, or a mother, or a brother. Some of you are followers of Christ, some of you are race car drivers, like me.

Some of you are fill-in-the-blank, whatever it is. This is one piece of who you are.

I also see leaders that are constantly shut down to a force-of-habit thinking, where they only think one way.

“This kind of stuff is never going to work, I’m the only one who can do this, nobody on my team is fast enough to make this happen, if we put this thing in place, it’s going to fail.”

They get stuck in this place of thinking the same thought that they’ve had for years, and wondering why they wake up one day, and they’re in the same exact place because they’ve had the same force-of-habit thinking.

Force-of-habit thinking can absolutely destroy you in your decision-making process, period.

And what about the work-life balance? It’s not equal. They’re not equal parts, but you need to have a balance in your life.

If you’re spending too much time at work, if you’re a workaholic and you’re working 80 hours a week every single week, as if the ox is in the ditch every single time, guess what?

You’re not spending time with your family. Guess what? You’re not spending time getting out into nature, enjoying a vacation, and refueling yourself.

You’re not spending time with friends. You are being isolated.

Here’s some things you can do this week.

Ask yourself the following questions:

DO I HAVE CLEAR, QUALITY PERSPECTIVE?

You have to ask why. Why this, why that, why? Dig, dig, dig. Get as much information. Talk to as many people as you can. Talk to your leaders, talk to your team.

Get great, clear perspective. How much time do you have to gain perspective? Go ballistic. Gather as much information as you can.

WHAT AM I AFRAID OF?

What am I afraid of in making this decision? Where’s my fear here? What is causing me to worry? What is causing me concern? I’m afraid that this is going to impact people negatively.

Do you have enough perspective on that?

Do you see how it’s going to do it? I’m afraid that this may not work out. Do you have enough information on what it looks like when it does work out and when it doesn’t work out?

What is the basis for that information? Are you assuming that it’s not going to work out? Look at everything that’s causing you to be afraid of making the decision.

FEAR BASED DECISION?

Is somebody pushing me? Is somebody pressuring me? Is a situation pressuring me? What is the thing? Am I making the decision because of fear?

WHAT OPTIONS NEED TO BE REMOVED? 

Start removing things from the table. Things like, “I’m not willing to make this decision if this happens. I’m not willing to make the decision if that happens.”

Those would be elements that you can say, “if this is going to be the outcome, then no is the answer. I’m not going to do this.” Start removing those pieces.

Start removing excuses. “I don’t know if we can get this done in this time frame.” Why not? Is there things holding you up or is this more important than other things?

Start removing those elements. Dig, dig, dig, and pull things off the table.

WHAT IS THE IMPACT?

How is this going to impact my team? How is this going to impact our revenues? Is this going to have a negative effect? Could it be something that if it failed miserably, that could put a huge dent in our finances?

If the answer is yes, yank it off the table, period. If the answer is no, the outcome can be controlled. This is a variable situation.

IS THIS A LONG TERM, SHORT TERM, OR PERMANENT DECISION?

Question is this a long term, a short term, a permanent decision?

WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF WE DON’T MAKE A DECISION?

What happens if we don’t? Is everything going to be okay? Is everything going to be copacetic, same as always? Or is that going to impact us in a negative way?

What if we don’t pull the trigger on this bad boy? Does that, all of a sudden, cut opportunities out from underneath us? Look at that possibility.

WHAT’S THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN?

What’s the worst thing that could possibly happen, and what’s the likelihood of it? Okay, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being not really at all, 10 being yeah, abso-stinking-lutely, how much do you think this has that possibility?

HOW DO I FEEL ABOUT THE DECISION?

How do I feel about this process? What is your gut saying? If you have done all of these things and if you still feel weird in your stomach about making this decision, then pull back.

Do not make the decision. Hold off.

I believe it’s one of a couple of things. It could be God, very possibly. It could be that you are questioning whether or not you did get all the great information, or it could be that you’re questioning whether or not you trust the information.

Usually, it’s either a spiritual gut check or it’s a I don’t think I did my due diligence. As long as you go back and make sure you do your due diligence, and it’s still there, it is my belief, the world according to Chris, that its going to be a spiritual issue. Pull back, don’t do it.

Do this yourself, and what you’ll find is every big decision that you make going forward, whether it be business or life, you will have a new force-of-habit thinking.

Ask these questions to make sure you get to absolute clarity, so you make the strongest decisions possible.

On top of that, you can’t afford to miss the May event. Next-Level Leadership Live Event, for leaders, for entrepreneurs, for anybody who’s leading, period.

 

If you want to go deeper in this area, and other areas, like making stronger decisions and eliminating task saturation to get more time back, check out all of the details about the event!

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After attending this event, you will:

  1. MAKE STRONGER DECISIONS

You’ll learn how to make better decisions, and overcome limiting beliefs and trained behavior you bring to work with you every day so you can become the right leader for your team.

  1. HAVE NEW TOOLS TO SET A PROFOUND & DELIBERATE CULTURE

Learn the secrets I’ve used for years to create a profound and deliberate business culture, where people feel safe and bought into the mission, are able to communicate honestly, serve clients like family, and get a heck of a lot work done, faster.

  1. TACKLE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS FEARLESSLY

Conversations that empower and ignite team members, rather than demoralize them and tank their productivity.

  1. CONTROL YOUR TIME AND TASKS LIKE NEVER BEFORE

Task saturation locks you away in your office too much, stresses you out, and holds you back from spending time with team members and leading well so people work at their best.

  1. OVERCOME FEAR THAT’S STALLING YOUR BUSINESS

Fear leads to bad decisions or not taking action at all, stalling you, your team, your business growth, and customer loyalty and happiness.

  1. UNDERSTAND ANCIENT WISDOM ON INCREASING REVENUE

Rabbi Daniel Lapin, “America’s Rabbi,” head of the American Alliance of Jews and Christians, and author of Business Secrets of the Bible, will share wisdom on ancient Jewish beliefs and practices on business and making money. Lapin is known for his ability to extract life principles from the Bible and communicate them in a practical and entertaining way.

This event is for you if you:

– Want to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and want to make better decisions to become the right leader for your team

– Aren’t happy about your company culture and frustrated with why team members aren’t more productive and don’t seem to care as much as they should about their jobs or the success of the business

– Struggle with team member conflict and stress about having hard conversations

– Find yourself spending all of your time on the crisis of the day and constantly putting out fires and can’t seem to ever tackle your to-do list of important work

– Have a hard time setting direction or making decisions you’re confident your team will accomplish as well as you would

– Have more days where you’re stressed out, overwhelmed, and overworked instead of spending time doing what you want, feeling healthy, and happy

So are you ready to breakthrough your own leadership ceiling and reach your and your team’s potential?

If this sounds familiar, then our Next-Level Leadership Live Event is PERFECT for you.

I’m going to unpack more than 25 years of leadership and business experience growing and running multi-million dollar businesses from scratch.

These are the same strategies and processes I’ve taught to THOUSANDS of entrepreneurs and leaders over the years and to my high-end mastermind clients today.

The Next-Level Leadership Live Event won’t be another live event where you’re given a blank notebook and a pen and the host wings it for 3 days.

I’ve broken down the core methods and strategies I’ve used for over two decades to build unified, loyal, and highly productive teams.

I want to share the wisdom God has blessed me with with as many people as possible because this stuff really works!

If you want to take your leadership to the next level, then I invite you to join me at our upcoming Next-Level Leadership Live Event May 2-4, 2016 in Nashville, Tenn.

Here’s the link if you’re ready to reserve your space:http://chrislocurto.com/next-level-leadership-event/

Act Fast And Save Money!

If you’re ready to take fast action, you’re the exact person we want at this event! Why? Because you’re decisive, and you’re going to plug into this material to get the absolute most out of it!

We want to reward you for that! So, if you act quickly, you can secure one of our guest seats for only $247 (a $650 savings) that we reserve specifically so you can bring a team member, peer, or spouse who also wants to take their leadership to the next level or who plans to support you in your growth.

Secure a seat for them now while the price is the lowest it’s going to be and save $650 off regular ticket pricing. If you split the total price for both seats, you’ll both only pay $422 to attend.

Go here to take advantage of extreme early bird pricing that ends in one week

So go reserve your seat now, and once you’ve moved forward with that decision behind you, you can check out your bonuses, and start planning your trip in May!

If you have any questions, feel free to reply to this email or email my team at info@chrislocurto.com.

Thanks, and I can’t wait to see you in May!

And by the way, here’s what other entrepreneurs and leaders said about this event.

 “Attending Chris’ team events has allowed our organization to exceed every goal we have had” – Bill Fischer, President, Fantom Materials Inc., and Vilimia, Inc

“I always walk away with meaningful knowledge I can apply right away” – Brent Van Haren, COO, SecurAlarm Systems

“For over 4 years, I’ve been benefiting in business and life with CLo’s Live Events.”

– Stephen Scoggins, CEO, Custom Home Exteriors, and Founder, Journey Principles

“The content and experience of the event is fantastic, the friendships – genuine, and the staff is fantastic. If you leave without a sense of energy, renewal, and challenge – you did it wrong.” – Quinn Denning, President, Rapidtek

“The best decision I made was to bring my operations manager. We left the event ON FIRE! Goals are now in place for 2016.” – Josh Gettig, CEO, Mite-E Exterminating and Graystone Environmental

 “Attending a Live Event was one of the best investments I’ve made – it’s not only impacted my business, but me personally as well.” – Mike Forrester, CEO, Kojeta

 “I always leave with huge ideas. Unlike other live events, I leave with actionable ideas that positively impact our culture and bottom line.” – Bo McDonald, Owner, Your Marketing Co.

“You walk away feeling educated, empowered, and motivated to make your goals happen.” – Shauna Watson, Watson Engineering

Go here to learn all about and register for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event

Chris LoCurto

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January 25, 2016

How To Dramatically Transform Your Leadership in 3 Days

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Look, I absolutely get it. You started your business or took on a leadership role because you wanted the RESULTS of having a business and leading.

Results like:

Making good money so you can do what you want in life (i.e. provide for your family, live in a nice house, take vacations when you want, pay for your kid’s college, have solid retirement savings)

Have the time and freedom to live your life on your terms (i.e. take time off to spend with your family, work from home if you want, heck…work WHEN you want and WHERE you want)

Make a difference in the lives of your team, and use your influence to set direction rather than just take orders (i.e. find more fulfillment in teaching and guiding team members to success, more control of your career and work)

It’s the dream, right?

But before you knew it, the amount of work on your plate, the running around like a crazy person putting out fires, people drama on your team, and the stress and overwhelm of it all some days has you asking why you ever decided to start this business or why you ever jumped into leading people.

Does any of this sound familiar?

So, now what? Do you keep struggling through it on your own with quick fixes or Band-Aid solution, or trying to learn from books and podcasts?

Or do you……….Wait for it………join me at our Next-Level Leadership Live Event May 2-4 2016, and let me personally show you how to regain the excitement of running your business and leading your team, overcome people drama, and become a leader that ignites your team to produce more and take ownership of their responsibilities?!!!

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Click here to get all of the details for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event

This is Leadership Training for the personal-growth minded entrepreneur or leader that you won’t find in ANY book. Why? Because I haven’t written it yet!

At this event, you’re going to learn core elements from our Life and Business Success System used with all of our high-end mastermind clients to help them transform their lives, leadership, and businesses.

After attending this event, you will:

  1. MAKE STRONGER DECISIONS

You’ll learn how to make better decisions, and overcome limiting beliefs and trained behavior you bring to work with you every day so you can become the right leader for your team.

  1. HAVE NEW TOOLS TO SET A PROFOUND & DELIBERATE CULTURE

Learn the secrets I’ve used for years to create a profound and deliberate business culture, where people feel safe and bought into the mission, are able to communicate honestly, serve clients like family, and get a heck of a lot work done, faster.

  1. TACKLE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS FEARLESSLY

Conversations that empower and ignite team members, rather than demoralize them and tank their productivity.

  1. CONTROL YOUR TIME AND TASKS LIKE NEVER BEFORE

Task saturation locks you away in your office too much, stresses you out, and holds you back from spending time with team members and leading well so people work at their best.

  1. OVERCOME FEAR THAT’S STALLING YOUR BUSINESS

Fear leads to bad decisions or not taking action at all, stalling you, your team, your business growth, and customer loyalty and happiness.

  1. UNDERSTAND ANCIENT WISDOM ON INCREASING REVENUE

Rabbi Daniel Lapin, “America’s Rabbi,” head of the American Alliance of Jews and Christians, and author of Business Secrets of the Bible, will share wisdom on ancient Jewish beliefs and practices on business and making money. Lapin is known for his ability to extract life principles from the Bible and communicate them in a practical and entertaining way.

This event is for you if you:

– Want to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and want to make better decisions to become the right leader for your team

– Aren’t happy about your company culture and frustrated with why team members aren’t more productive and don’t seem to care as much as they should about their jobs or the success of the business

– Struggle with team member conflict and stress about having hard conversations

– Find yourself spending all of your time on the crisis of the day and constantly putting out fires and can’t seem to ever tackle your to-do list of important work

– Have a hard time setting direction or making decisions you’re confident your team will accomplish as well as you would

– Have more days where you’re stressed out, overwhelmed, and overworked instead of spending time doing what you want, feeling healthy, and happy

So are you ready to breakthrough your own leadership ceiling and reach your and your team’s potential?

If this sounds familiar, then our Next-Level Leadership Live Event is PERFECT for you.

I’m going to unpack more than 25 years of leadership and business experience growing and running multi-million dollar businesses from scratch. These are the same strategies and processes I’ve taught to THOUSANDS of entrepreneurs and leaders over the years and to my high-end mastermind clients today.

The Next-Level Leadership Live Event won’t be another live event where you’re given a blank notebook and a pen and the host wings it for 3 days.

I’ve broken down the core methods and strategies I’ve used for over two decades to build unified, loyal, and highly productive teams.

I want to share the wisdom God has blessed me with with as many people as possible because this stuff really works!

If you want to take your leadership to the next level, then I invite you to join me at our upcoming Next-Level Leadership Live Event May 2-4, 2016 in Nashville, Tenn.

Here’s the link if you’re ready to reserve your space: http://chrislocurto.com/next-level-leadership-event/

Act Fast And Save Money!

If you’re ready to take fast action, you’re the exact person we want at this event! Why? Because you’re decisive, and you’re going to plug into this material to get the absolute most out of it!

We want to reward you for that! So, if you act quickly, you can secure one of our guest seats for only $247 (a $650 savings) that we reserve specifically so you can bring a team member, peer, or spouse who also wants to take their leadership to the next level or who plans to support you in your growth.

Secure a seat for them now while the price is the lowest it’s going to be and save $650 off regular ticket pricing. If you split the total price for both seats, you’ll both only pay $422 to attend.

Go here to take advantage of extreme early bird pricing that ends in two weeks

So go reserve your seat now, and once you’ve moved forward with that decision behind you, you can check out your bonuses, and start planning your trip in May!

If you have any questions, feel free to reply to this email or email my team at info@chrislocurto.com.

Thanks, and I can’t wait to see you in May!

And by the way, here’s what other entrepreneurs and leaders said about this event.

 “Attending Chris’ team events has allowed our organization to exceed every goal we have had” – Bill Fischer, President, Fantom Materials Inc., and Vilimia, Inc

“I always walk away with meaningful knowledge I can apply right away” – Brent Van Haren, COO, SecurAlarm Systems

“For over 4 years, I’ve been benefiting in business and life with CLo’s Live Events.”

– Stephen Scoggins, CEO, Custom Home Exteriors, and Founder, Journey Principles

“The content and experience of the event is fantastic, the friendships – genuine, and the staff is fantastic. If you leave without a sense of energy, renewal, and challenge – you did it wrong.” – Quinn Denning, President, Rapidtek

“The best decision I made was to bring my operations manager. We left the event ON FIRE! Goals are now in place for 2016.” – Josh Gettig, CEO, Mite-E Exterminating and Graystone Environmental

 “Attending a Live Event was one of the best investments I’ve made – it’s not only impacted my business, but me personally as well.” – Mike Forrester, CEO, Kojeta

 “I always leave with huge ideas. Unlike other live events, I leave with actionable ideas that positively impact our culture and bottom line.” – Bo McDonald, Owner, Your Marketing Co.

“You walk away feeling educated, empowered, and motivated to make your goals happen.” – Shauna Watson, Watson Engineering

Go here to learn all about and register for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event

Chris LoCurto

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October 5, 2015

Life After LifePlan – Part 2

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If you listened to part 1 of our Life After LifePlan podcast episode, then you are in for a treat on today’s podcast! Don’t worry if you haven’t had a chance to listen to it. You can always go back and listen to it here.

Also, be sure to grab today’s download and find out if your relationships are toxic or healthy. download-buttonIf you have listened to me long enough, then you have probably heard me talk about Marybeth a gajillion times. For those of you who don’t know, Marybeth was my personal assistant for six years. And when I say personal assistant, I mean she pretty much ran my life!

Marybeth recently went through her LifePlan, and had some amazing revelations that we wanted to share with you guys.

It’s taken a while to get in here for the LifePlan. Why did it take so long to come in?

Well, there were a couple reasons. First was just baby land, which is where I lived.I have been busy. Our youngest is now  almost 18 months. 

The other reason really kind of went away, because I was getting to the point where I’m like I just really want to come in and do this. After Joel did his LifePlan, and we talked so much about some of the stuff.

I was just, I don’t know if intimidated is the right word, but it’s you, we have this relationship. We’ve had this great relationship, great friendship for 11 years now. You are an incredibly safe person for me to be around, and I can share anything with you, but there are still these things about me and those deep dark places…

To have a really good LifePlan, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and open up and share things. That’s still hard to do, or at least I imagined it was going to be hard to do.

Amazingly when life plan came around, it was not nearly so, but I was ready for the tears, ready for the, “this is going to be so dramatic”. It wasn’t. I was hesitant because I had these things inside that I just didn’t want to talk about and I didn’t want to be vulnerable about.

This is the toughest thing for me because I’ve had close friends that have come through. It’s tough because of two things: one, I know you so well. There’s very little hiding, because I know a person so well, but the great thing about that is there is no judgment, it’s a free place to be.

It’s all about how great do I want my life to be on the other side of this as opposed to what can I hold back on. I’ve had a lot of close friends that have come through that it’s been tough, because I know more about them.

I’m able to get to those places that are a little bit more painful that also turn out to be insanely freeing. I also have to shift into I can’t be friend mode. I have to be here to walk you through this process and guide you through it. It’s difficult.

Going into it, like you just shared, probably the thing that held you back, other than the schedule was having to be vulnerable. Once you got in here, what was that like? What did that turn into?

It was easy. It really was. You ease into it, and so even though I think I was coming in with my guard up a little bit, I was like, “I really do want to do this, and I just need to just put my guard down”.

At the same time there’s this discomfort. Then we’re just talking and we ease into LifePlan. It’s not a big deal, and as long as I’m willing to be honest with you, we are able to talk about some things that were challenging.

Let’s dig into a little bit of that if you’re ready to get vulnerable again, for all the people that are listening. There are so many people going through what you’ve gone through and experiencing this and thinking, “Gosh, I want to change my life, I need change in my life but I’m afraid to go get change.”

As you’ve gone through the process, obviously we always say the first day is the emotional day. We’re not going to lay you down on the couch and talk to you like a psychiatrist. We do go through very intense, emotional stuff, but our goal is not to sit there and live in it.

Our goal is to get to the information, pull it forward and not show the “what”. That’s where so many people focus is they focus on is the “what”. We blow past the what to the why.

We go heavy into the root system and find out the “why”. Why did that happen. Why did these people do this. Why did I experience this in life. Why have I felt this way forever?

Let me ask you, what was the greatest revelation that you’ve received going through LifePlan?

Without a doubt, it was the truths and the lies, and really I would say the lies. I had a belief system filled with a lot of lies. I would say probably my biggest one that overarched everything was that perfection, or at least very near perfection, was where I needed to be.

If I didn’t make it then I was a complete failure. There was no middle ground. There was no grace. It was just I’m either perfect or I’m a failure, and if I’m a failure, I’m therefore not lovable, I’m not valuable, I’m not worthy.

I filtered so much information through those lies and it ended up taking over my life in a sense.

Did that lead to freedom by knowing that?

Yeah, it’s crazy! I’m not a failure.

There were certain aspects that you looked at and said, “This is happening, I’m a failure,” or, “Because I’m feeling this, I’m a failure.”

I would say overall that was just how I viewed anything. In things with my relationship with Joel, it would be like if I did something or said something, or I didn’t meet these expectations I had in my head of like, “Well, Joel’s coming home and dinner should be ready and the house should be clean,” like I’m a ’50s housewife or something.

Seriously, I had these expectations in my head, and I would feel frustrated and then it would turn from frustration into failure pretty quickly.

Especially if it was like okay, that was the day that some business stuff didn’t go well with piano, and that was the day that the kids were just crazy, but they were probably kind of crazy because I was trying to focus on some piano stuff.

Then the house didn’t get done, and it’s like everything would compound, and then at the end of the day I would be like, “Oh for the love of all that is good and right.” I would just become such a frustrated person, and it was all because my perspective was just jacked up.

I think the craziest thing, now, is I think I judged myself more than anybody else judged me, but I would just assume other people were judging me.

It’s funny, we were actually talking earlier, Joel would make these comments from time to time. For example, and I can share this, I know, but we were having breakfast the other morning and he chose not to have a waffle because he just didn’t want the calories, so he says.

Meanwhile, I had just eaten a waffle, and so pre‐LifePlan, when he would make a comment like that, I would be like, “My husband thinks I’m fat. He thinks I make bad choices about food, he thinks he’s so much better.” All Joel was thinking is, “I think I’d rather have eggs this morning.”

It has nothing to do with me, but because I have all these lies that I’m filtering what is said through these lies. I would take it completely different than how it was meant.

Is it also possible because somewhere back in your past is somebody who would judge you or somebody who would tell you things about yourself? You line that up, you get this training in your brain and these things that are lies from somebody else, it becomes a broken belief system, and you’re stuck with it.

How freeing is that on the other side to realize, and what’s the process? When you hear that now, what’s the process that you go through in your brain?

It’s funny, because it came up because he made a comment like that after LifePlan, and I just started laughing. I think he was confused for a minute maybe, but I was like, “Okay, so pre-­‐LifePlan,” and I love that he’s gone through this and that the facilitates this, because he totally understands.

I’m like, “Pre-­‐LifePlan, when you would say things like this, and this is what I would hear. You, I did not like in those moments.” It was so funny, because he’s like, “Wow, I was just talking about this about me,” he’s like, “I had no idea.”

It’s so difficult until you know, and Joel is phenomenal at doing this, and he does an incredible job of walking people through this, but until you pull that out, even a guy who lives and breathes this stuff, until you know it doesn’t matter.

I tell spouses all the time when they come through, like if a spouse sits in on somebody else’s LifePlan. I say, “I don’t care how many times you tell them,” because they’ll say to me, “I told them that a thousand times,” I’m like, “Did it work?” No, of course not, because you’re telling them the what.

It doesn’t matter how many times you tell them the what, if they still don’t understand the why, it doesn’t matter. It’s so difficult to go, “How come I can’t guide this person to freedom”? It’s because we’re only focusing on the what.

Now that you’ve dug down and you discovered the why, it changes everything. With that, let me ask you this, what is the most empowering thing that you learned through LifePlan?

Gaining perspective on what has caused me to become this way and what influences have been in my life and how I’ve gotten to this point of believing the things that I do.

With that perspective, I can say, “okay, well I’m not this horrible person for believing these things; this is just how I was trained to be.” Now going forward, I know this and I can choose to view things differently. You can’t just choose to see things differently when you don’t know. 

I needed LifePlan; I needed to really dig down to the why, to my root system to get that perspective.

The important thing to understand is, people say, “Well why can’t you just change?” I hear that all the time. “Why do you need to understand your root system, why can’t you just change your decision? You can make any decision you want.” You literally make your decisions based on what you know.

Based on training, based on information, based on influence. Here’s what I see almost every single time. I see people, and since you’re a music teacher, I see people grow up one way, have influence one way, and do a pendulum swing to the other side and say I am not going to be that way, and go all the way to the other side and do the same exact thing from a different direction.

If they have a controlling parent they become incredibly lenient, if they have a submissive parent, they become incredibly controlling. Those are just examples, there’s a ton of stuff, a ton of decision-­‐making processes, but it basically still comes down to the same thing.

As long as you don’t understand why those things happen in your life, why those influencers did what they did, why they taught you, why they said, why they lied to you, whatever, it still is virtually impossible to make great decisions on things in your life.

Now that you’ve been through this process, you’ve discovered a lot, you discovered perspective, you discovered the influences in your life, you discovered how to make greater decisions with greater perspective, and you’ve unlocked all of these pieces.

How does it change the way, you’re a mom of two tiny kids, how does it change your perspective, how does it change the way you view your kids, motherhood, all of that?

Freeing, oh my word. I love my kids, I wanted them to feel loved, and it stressed me out to ever feel like what if I’m doing something and they don’t feel loved? That controlled my parenting. Now, I’m just like okay, I do love my kids and I show them that I love them, but it helps me to not be controlled by them.

My darling Josiah, he was already learning how to manipulate mom, but, and it was frustrating because I wanted to make sure that he felt loved but when he would get fussy then it was challenging for me.

I was like, he’s whining, he’s fussy, this isn’t acceptable, but at the same time, I don’t know how to respond to him in a loving, kind way and resolve the situation. Whereas now, I’m just like, bust it out baby.

If that’s the choice you want to make, that’s the choice you can make, but you’re not getting away with what you’re fussing about. Now I’m like okay, you can make your choices and those are your choices and here are those consequences. You can’t control mom any more.

Instead now, you give him options. There are consequences for good, and there are consequences for bad. You can choose, but instead of getting your self worth from parenting, your confidence from parenting, instead you’re looking at more of I need to raise adults instead of kids.

We’ve had a lot of women that have come through the process. Some still had reservations about sharing this information with a guy? What is it going to be like to talk in front of a guy about some of these things?

First of all, there’s no judgment, so I think that’s a huge thing. I think that also I think when you’re willing to be vulnerable and open up and know that you’re not going to be judged, it really, I don’t want to say it doesn’t matter.

I know that hearing that, somebody’s going to be like, yes it does, but in seriousness, it’s going to be so freeing. It’s going to be so worth it to just talk about that, open up, be vulnerable and get through that. There is freedom on the other side.

That, for me, I have been through so much crap in my life, and I’ve experienced so much in life, which is obviously why I do what I do, that judgment is pointless for me in these situations. I always tell people coming in, if I’m getting my needs met by you, I shouldn’t be doing this.

My goal is to help you get all of your needs met and discovery and perspective and all that. I think that’s the thing that I do want everybody to know is that there is no judgment in this process.

There isn’t anything that I’ve heard, and the funny thing is I’ve had people that have tried to, it’s not that they tried to shock me, it’s that they thought, “Okay, I’m going to share this right now, and you’re going to be shocked.” I’ve even had people say that, and it’s like nope, no shock here.

The reason why is every single person has gone through something, some level of something. Some have just gone through so much more, so that there’s no point in judging. The judging is what people do, I say focusing on that surface level, the what. You focus on the what, you judge on the what.

The what is not the problem, the what is the outward expression or inward expression of the struggles from not knowing the why.

What would you say to anyone out there who is sitting there, thinking, “Is this something I should do? Is this something I should experience? Can I feel safe going and doing this and can I trust in the outcome?”

Yes, you can do it. Yes, you should do it! The freedom on the other side of it is so worth it. Not everybody’s going to have the same experiences that I’ve had, and so for me, my freedom was huge and freedom from judgment and a lot of that was even just self-­‐judgment.

That was probably one of the biggest things in my life plan that I gained freedom, and I’m able to go forward and have a better life and make better decisions. I think other people are going to have other things that they’re going to have freedom from, but it is worth it.

Do it!


Folks, hopefully that helps. That is something that we want you to hear, we want you to understand that our goal is to change your life, our goal is to help you find freedom, our goal is to help you live without the lies, live without the judgment.

Stop telling yourself so many lies, and that I think is something that we discover in so many people’s LifePlans, and Marybeth’s as well, is that so many of the lies are ones that come from you. Living without that, living, not telling yourself that junk, is complete freedom.

If you would like more information on  LifePlan, click here and signup today to get more information. All you have to do is fill out the information and Joel Fortner will be the one contacting you.

He will contact you, he will tell you anything you need to hear, give you all the information you need to make a decision to come and do this right now, but make the choice to do it now.

Chris LoCurto

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September 1, 2015

How To Worry No More with Bruce Van Horn

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Joining us on the show today, we have Bruce Van Horn, who is just a phenomenal, phenomenal guy. Bruce and I go back a ways. I’ve got to tell you that one of the things I love about Bruce is just his incredible happiness and positivity.

He has written the book, Worry No More, which is The 4 Steps to Stop Worrying and Start Living, and as a gift to our listeners and readers, he is giving away the first 4 chapters to the book!

worrynomoreThe opening of the book is a dedication to his boys. It reads:

“Because you deserve the best of me that I seek to become the fullest expression of who I was created to be. I love you, Dad.”

Bruce has had lots and lots of cause to worry in his life. February 17th of 2014, 9:22 in the morning, he put his youngest on school bus and had just started to eat breakfast.

“I was expecting my doctor to call me with the biopsy results, but he assured me that everything was just going to be fine. The phone rang. I looked at the caller ID and in that instant; I knew exactly what he was going to tell me.

I knew that eating breakfast that morning was going to be the last normal thing I would do for a very long time. Sure enough he called and he said, “Bruce, I just have no idea how to tell you this. It all came back bad. You’ve got stage 4 prostate cancer.” Then the wheels just start rolling and life didn’t assume normalcy for a long time after that”.

I’ll never forget the day that Bruce texted me. He had just found out. Knowing what he went through, the terrible pain and process that he had to go through, and yet his faith remained so very strong. His story is powerful and encouraging, so let’s dive in to some of the questions that I asked him.

WHAT IS WORRY?

Worry is using your imagination to create images of what you do not want to see, and/or events that you do not want to occur. It becomes paralyzing. It is like watching a movie. You’re creating, scripting, directing, and casting a movie in which you’re a victim.

WHEN DOES WORRY BECOME YOUR DOMINANT THOUGHT PROCESS? 

There are so many things we worry about that we have absolutely no control over. There are certain things though that we worry about that we do have control over.

Stressing over it keeps you focused on the negative outcome and it paralyzes you from taking the action that you can take.

When you freak, you freeze and your brain stops functioning. You stop thinking about reality. You stop thinking about what are my options. You stop thinking of ways to get out of it

WHAT IS E + R = O?

There’s the event. Usually, we have no control over the event. We’re stuck in traffic. The outcome is going to be when I ultimately do get to work. Am I going to be all stressed out and angry or am I going to be happy and peaceful?

The difference between stuck in traffic and what happens at work is my response to it, the story that I tell myself. I had been telling myself a story in which I was a victim which left me powerless.

When I learned that I was not only capable of crafting a response, a story that I tell myself but that the response is 100 percent my responsibility not anybody else’s, WOW, empowering!

I can’t point the finger anywhere other than at me. That’s E + R = O.

Step 1: WATCH A DIFFERENT MOVIE

Step one is literally watch a different movie. Many of us just live our lives unaware that we can indeed control our thoughts.

You have that 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, and researchers have discovered that approximately 75 percent of those are negative.

Step 2: MOVE TO A DIFFERENT STATE

Packing up our belongings and moving a couple hundred miles away might remove us from the source of what we think is some of our worry. That’s not the moving to a different state that I mean. I’m talking about physical and mental state management.

Our bodies have control over our emotions. When we’re happy, our bodies move in a certain way. We are expansive. We take up more space.

If you will move your body the way you would be moving your body, if you were happy, amazingly, you start to become happy.

Step 3: GIVE YOURSELF THE PRESENT

When we’re worried, we are thinking about the future. When we’re thinking about the future, we are not living in the present.

The only thing that is absolutely guaranteed in this life is that God only gives us right now, this very second. The only time in which you have any power to do anything about the future is right now.

Practicing mindfulness. Living in the moment. Catching yourself thinking about the future and reminding yourself.

This is why scripture says, “Tomorrow has enough worries of its own.” Live today.

Step 4: REST IN P’S

The P’s are perspective, plan, purpose, perfection, and peace. Ultimately, if we can understand that the life that we are experiencing right now we are only able to experience within our own thought process, then we can realize that there may be another perspective, another way.

This idea of perspective and the fact that our lives follow a plan and that plan has a purpose. There’s meaning to the things that happened in our lives.

I don’t believe there any coincidences because if things can happen randomly and outside of God’s control, then that leaves God being pretty weak. Where does omnipotent go?

Trusting that there is a plan and that there’s a purpose and that the creator of this plan and purpose is perfect means whatever is happening in your life is perfect. It doesn’t mean it’s pleasant.

If you can wrap your brain around perspective, plan, purpose and perfection, it can’t help but bring peace into your life and that’s ultimately what we want from our worry is peace.

Conclusion:

We live in this paradox and trying to find peace in that paradox. We are 100 percent responsible for our lives as far as the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, and the way we respond to certain event in our lives.

We do not usually get to choose the path we get to walk down, but we get to choose how we walk it.

The concept of “it’s your imagination”, we don’t go there. We don’t think, I’m imagining something that has not happened yet. I’m imagining something that could be negative that I don’t want to see in the future; worry equals imagination.

Again, click the link below to get the first 4 chapters of the book “Worry No More”.

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Question: What things are you imagining that are causing you to worry?

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