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May 23, 2017

How To Be The Strong Father Your Children Need

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This will change your family tree, your kid’s lives, and the kind of adults they become.

Folks, this content is powerful.

Today we have the brilliant Dr. Meg Meeker with us, who has spent more than thirty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. She is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics and serves on the Advisory Board of the Medical Institute.

She is the bestselling author of several books, including Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. She has appeared on just about every big national show you can thing of. Dr. Meeker and her husband Walter live in Michigan with their four children.

Kids needs their fathers. Wait, kids NEED their fathers, and they need a hero. Dr. Meg Meeker wrote Hero: Being The Strong Father Your Children Need to show married dads, divorced dad, widowed dads and stepdads how to be a hero, a father.

“Whether you know it or not, if you’re a dad, you’re a hero. If you want what is best for your children―if you want what is best for you―you should strive to be a hero father.”

Dr. Meeker’s book is going to show you how.

Go to www.megmeekermd.com and learn more about Dr. Meeker and get your copy of Hero: Becoming The Strong Father Your Children Need, today.

On this episode, you will discover:

  • The casualties of feminism on fathers
  • Our generation’s father crisis
  • How kids see their fathers, and what they need from them
  • What “big” things you need to get right with your kids
  • How carrying around expectations from our fathers affects our adult lives
  • What dads are designed to do, that moms aren’t
  • The must how-to for dads and their teenage daughters
  • How to step up as a dad, when you have a strong-willed spouse
  • How to parent and communicate with your spouse when there’s conflict
  • The questions you never want your grown up kids to ask you, and how to prevent them from asking
  • How to exercise your authority as a parent and spouse, the right way
  • The difference between coaching and leading your children

Listen here:

Question: Which archetype do you most relate to, and how do you navigate?

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Get Hero: Becoming The Strong Father Your Children Need, here: http://bit.ly/2qATTVD

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May 16, 2017

Behind The Scenes With The Poimen Team: Live Events, Culture, and Masterminds

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Today I gave the team the podcast microphones, and I asked them for their thoughts…

I am SO excited to bring some of the team on the show this week. This episode is a special feature behind the scenes episode with a few team members of the Poimen Group! You’ll get to hear their perspective, favorite moments at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event, and what they have to say about culture.

Welcome to the show Joel, our Head Client Coach, Heather, our Director of Operations, Event Coordinator, and Podcast Producer, and Savannah, our Social Media Marketing Manager and Podcast Production Assistant.

On this episode you’ll discover:

  • What it’s really like to work at The Poimen Group
  • The best moments inside of Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event 2018
  • The team’s favorite moments from Next-Level Leadership
  • What a “solving problems” culture looks like
  • Why culture and social movements are wrong about stay at home moms
  • New content coming your way in summer 2017!

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April 28, 2017

The Leadership Gap Between You and Your Greatness

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Confidence is believing you’re able, competence is knowing you’re able.

On today’s show we have Lolly Daskal, who is phenomenal at everything she does, and she is helping CEOs and businesses to accomplish. She is the founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference. Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine, and Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World.

After sending out proposal after proposal for a new book, one publishing house finally asked Lolly, “What have you been training, teaching, and doing successfully the last 3 decades? That’s what we want to hear.”

Then came The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, a powerful system about who we choose to be while we’re leading. For every leadership style we have, there is a gap, and it can cost us in our greatness. With each archetype there is the light and the dark, the greatness and the gap. It’s a system you can learn and teach in teams, a shortcut in language to push each leader to greatness.

Get The Leadership Gap Assessment (a $97 value for FREE) when you pre-order The Leadership Gap Book here: http://bit.ly/2peCLGS

On this episode, you will discover:

  • The 30 year old leadership system that led Lolly to success in executive coaching and leadership
  • Which archetype Lolly coaches me on personally
  • The Re-think model
  • The 7 different leadership archetypes in your business
  • The greatness and the gap for the 7 types of leaders
  • How to use the 7 archetypes on your team
  • Why it’s important to know your archetype
  • How your archetype can give you purpose and a legacy

Listen here:

Question: Which archetype do you most relate to, and how do you navigate?

Resources:

Get The Leadership Gap Assessment (a $97 value for FREE) when you pre-order The Leadership Gap Book here: http://bit.ly/2peCLGS

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April 25, 2017

How To Help Others Rise Strong

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So you messed up…

…what happens when you screw up? When you do something stupid? For those of us that are Christians, what happens when you sin, and how do you solve it?

This is something every person who walks the planet struggles with, we all mess up. But this isn’t about Christianity and laws and rules. The law was given to be a guide. We want people around us that can help us. People that we can trust. Unfortunately, when we turn to others for support we get judgement, self-righteousness, or responses that make us never want to share our problems with another human, again…okay maybe not all of you have had that experience, but some of us have.

How do you find someone who cares, and still loves you through those tough situations? Someone who is a trusted confidant, and wants to see you succeed.

We created a Healthy Accountability List from this episode content to help you find the right people. Print it, or save it to your phone or computer:

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Here’s what you’ll discover on today’s show. Listen here:

  • How to love someone through their stupidity vs. endorsing it
  • Why it’s so hard to share our struggles
  • What James and Paul say about messing up
  • What healthy accountability looks like
  • How to help others rise strong

Question: Have you experienced judgement in accountability and relationships?  Have you had positive experiences?

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April 19, 2017

How to Make Strong Decisions As A Leadership Team

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The conversations and habits that could be holding your leadership team, and business back.

On today’s show, we are discussing how to make quality decisions as a leadership team, and move past the #1 thing that holds leadership teams back from perspective.

Discover how to make stronger decisions in your leadership. Listen here:

  • The killer of good communication
  • The list of questions you need to ask before making any decision
  • Assessing your leadership team

Question: How have you improved communication on your team, or leadership team?

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if you’re ready to go from stress, failure, and lack of confidence in your leadership, to team unity, focus, and successful growth in your business, register for the Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event right now! 

I don’t want you to wait and say, “oh I’ll register later,” because if you wait, you’re going to pay more money. We’re still in the early bird phase, but it’s only going to be for one, more, week. Early Bird ends March 28th at midnight! SO, go ahead, go over to chrislocurto.com, click on the homepage banner, GET registered, and I’ll look forward to seeing you in Nashville at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event. Get my tickets!

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April 13, 2017

5 Ways To Lead Yourself Better

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Are you a leader at work, in your family, or in your social circles?

If you are, you may have learned that to lead others well, the person you must know the best is yourself.

John Maxwell calls it the Mirror Principle because if your self-perception is wrong or distorted, your efforts and decisions will be misguided.

Here are 5 ways to lead yourself better starting today.

1. Act On New Information Immediately

Top performers don’t wait! They act fast on new information they learn!

There’s a big difference between learning something and acting on it.

How many books have you read and not acted on anything, or only a little bit of the information?

Acting quickly on new information helps you retain it for the long-term, and builds competency and confidence.

2. A Vision For Your Life

Just as a leader needs to cast a vision to lead people to, you need to cast a vision for where to lead yourself.

Vision is where you are headed. It’s not a dream, it’s not a goal, it’s the destination you’re moving toward until you have a new destination.

When there’s the absence of a personal vision, your time gets filled with the priorities of others, lack of purpose, and feelings of discontentment.

Cast a vision for where you want to be in life, and what life looks like in every area. Then, set goals and actions to achieve it.

3. Community

God made us to be in community with one another.

The two key aspects of having community are: 1) having people around you to keep you from being isolated in your own thoughts, and 2) having a community of people who are sharing the same experience.

“You are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most.” ~ Jim Rohn

Surround yourself with a Network Of Challenging Minds, which is a group of like-minded individuals who are focused on pushing each other to grow themselves and others in the process in the same area.

4. Accountability

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. ~ Proverbs 15:22 (NIV)

Accountability is taking ownership of one’s situation or circumstances.

Many people look at being held accountable as something that will restrain them and limit their freedom…

I understand that mindset, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

YOU are the one in control of what you’re being held accountable for. If you don’t want to grow or be pushed for success in an area, don’t ask for accountability IN that area.

Great accountability helps you to see mistakes, trouble, and bad decisions before they happen.

When you ask an individual or a group to hold you accountable, you are telling your Root System that you are not going to allow The Lies to hold you back!

5. Grace

It’s something we all need, and it’s not something we give very freely.

Leading with grace requires a relationship with God, the ultimate grace giver.

When we recognize how much grace we’ve been given, it allows us to give it to others.

Grace gives you freedom to: 1) not try to be a perfect leader, 2) not need to know everything, and 3) be okay with failure.

Also, when you consider how you want to be treated in high-pressure situations, it allows you extend grace to others.

I encourage you to take action on these 5 ways to lead yourself better starting today!

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Question: What’s one way you lead yourself to a stronger life? 

 

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April 13, 2017

The Proven Process To Begin Controlling Your Time And Balancing Your Life

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Do you feel stuck in your leadership, and spread too thin?

Let me tell you a story about my friend Magnus.

When Magnus was promoted to Vice President of his company, he basically didn’t know what to do from 8am to 5pm.

He lacked direction in his new leadership role, and didn’t know how to lead well, so he spent every day reacting to fires, solving other people’s problems, and bogged down in an endless list of tasks.

It was pretty chaotic.

He was doing a heck of a lot of work, but it wasn’t moving the company forward. It was work for the sake of work, but without fruit.

Work came home with him, was with him every night, and consumed his weekends. And he expected his team members to do the same. It was bad for more than just him.

Magnus wasn’t just living to work, he had become his work.

And he was absolutely overwhelmed with no end in sight. Does this sound familiar?

This is an all too common story for so many leaders, entrepreneurs, and business owners.

Task Saturation Destroys Leadership and Teams

If I’m guessing right, you can relate to Magnus’ story.

Task saturation is one of the fastest ways to leadership destruction.

It leads to people drama and conflict that’s exhausting, and team members not being productive as they should be.

So you spend a ton of time doing other people’s work because you don’t trust them to do it, or do it as well as you can. It’s a vicious cycle.

The Leadership Crazy Cycle

It’s so common, I’ve given it a name, The Leadership Crazy Cycle.

It makes you frustrated and overwhelmed, keeps you from growing at the pace you want, has you working all of the time, and growing apart from your family…

Your mantra is, “It’s just easier to do it myself.”

But is it really?

If you’re being honest with yourself, you know the answer is “no.”

Where Magnus Is Today, And You Can Be, Too

You don’t have to settle for living overwhelmed, stressed out, and unhappy.

Today, Magnus spends most of his time working in his strengths as a leader, and was named President of his company in 2015.

They’re growing rapidly and on target with a growth goal of 40% this year (in previous years it was 5-10%), his team is far more focused and productive, and his leadership team has never been more unified.

And…to top it all off, he hardly ever works in the evenings and on weekends anymore so he’s spending more quality time with his wife and boys.

This type of transformation doesn’t happen overnight, but what it takes to get there can be learned in just a few hours.

Here is some coaching on how to get started killing The Leadership Crazy Cycle and balancing your life.

Complete the Love, Hate, Delegate Process:

Step 1: Make a long list of all the tasks that you perform on a daily basis.

Step 2: Separate the list into two shorter lists; things you love to do, and things you hate to do. (Or just don’t like to do)

Step 3: Go through the Hate It list and remove the things that you must do because you’re the only one who should be focused on it, or because your role requires you to do it, and add them back to the Love It list.

Step 4: On the Love It list, remove anything that you shouldn’t be doing because it’s holding you back as a leader, and add it to the Hate It list.

Step 5: When possible, properly delegate everything on the Hate It list.

 

Question: How do you control your time to be more productive? Comment below!

 

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April 11, 2017

How Good Leaders Deal with Gossip, Conflict, and Accountability on Their Teams

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What to do when your leadership team and colleagues…

…gossip, create conflict, play the blame game, struggle with accountability, or just don’t communicate well.

When you’re dealing with gossip…

The leader must recognize it, and know it’s happening. That’s step one. When it comes to dealing with your team members, always try as best as possible to be the greatest example I can to everyone else. That means that I will also not participate in gossip. Gossip is a cancer in your culture.

If the person you’re talking to about something negative cannot solve the problem, then you’re gossiping.

So many team members will gossip when they don’t feel like they have a leader who listens. It does not JUSTIFY the gossip, but it helps you understand why people are doing what they’re doing.

Here’s what you can do if you’re dealing with conflict, gossip, lack of accountability, or the blame game on a leadership team, or with your colleagues. Listen here:

  • Why your team gossips [7:47]
  • The two different styles of gossip [8:17]
  • What Personality Styles have to do with gossip [14:00]
  • How to communicate with leaders about gossip, make it their realization [18:10]
  • What to say to shut down gossip in the moment [21:53]
  • Biblical perspective on gossip [30:05]
  • Doing your work as unto the Lord [31:40]
  • How to communicate about accountability and expectation [34:46]
  • How to get results with your communication [38:18]
  • How to “force” culture [45:35]
  • Creating buy-in [47:10]

Question: How have you dealt with gossip in your culture, or with your team members?

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if you’re ready to go from stress, failure, and lack of confidence in your leadership, to team unity, focus, and successful growth in your business, register for the Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event right now! 

I don’t want you to wait and say, “oh I’ll register later,” because if you wait, you’re going to pay more money. We’re still in the early bird phase, but it’s only going to be for one, more, week. Early Bird ends March 28th at midnight! SO, go ahead, go over to chrislocurto.com, click on the homepage banner, GET registered, and I’ll look forward to seeing you in Nashville at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event. Get my tickets!

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April 4, 2017

How To Overcome Your Fear (And Its Root Cause)

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Fear controls.

Fear can keep you from living a great life, loving well, and changing peoples lives. It’s the thing that says, “you can’t do this,” “you’re not good enough,” “believe what other people have said about who you are,” Fear controls. Fear wants you to lose your strength, not have any courage, believe that you are incapable, that you aren’t worthy…aren’t good enough.

Don’t let fear hold you back from the thing that is going to make you stronger! Don’t let it hold you back from being your authentic self, who God created you to be.

Punch it right in the nose.

Understand that, as long as fear controls you, you aren’t YOU.

Discover how to look fear in the face, and overcome the root cause for good. Listen here:

  • What fear is [0:50]
  • How fear immobilizes you, in the most hidden ways [1:13]
  • The paradigm shift that drives out fear [6:19]
  • What fear wants you to believe [12:11]
  • Exercises you can do right now to overcome fear [13:30]

God knew 1,000 years ago you would be right where you are right now, if you’re ready to take the next step and punch fear in the face for good, click here: Next-Level Life.

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Question: How have you faced fear head on?

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Early Bird ends March 28th at midnight! SO, go ahead, go over to chrislocurto.com, click on the homepage banner, GET registered, and I’ll look forward to seeing you in Nashville at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event. Get my tickets!

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March 30, 2017

How To Use Past Experiences To Shape Your Future (And My Personal Story)

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Every decision we make either moves us closer to success in life or farther away from it.

One of the best ways to make stronger decisions for your future is by learning from your past.

When I lead someone through Next-Level Life, we spend several hours going over Core Impacts in their life to see how they got to where they are today.

Core Impacts are key events from your past that help you gain perspective on where you’re at and where you’re going.

Some examples are: moving as a kid, marriage, loss, accepting Christ, etc.

Not all Core Impacts are big and emotionally heavy, but they very well can be. 

Typically, we find around 10 to 15 Core Impacts in each Next-Level Life. Of course this depends on age and experience, too. Some people may have 10, others may have 18.

A Core Impact isn’t just a continuation of an event, it’s something that changed the direction of your life.

Here’s a 2-step exercise called the “Core Impact Identifier” to help you gain perspective on your past, so you can shape your future. 

Step 1: Identify your Core Impacts

Think back as far as you possibly can and write down the Core Impacts in your life. You’re not doing this to re-live stuff or make monsters or victims out of people. It’s about understanding and gaining perspective.

Step 2: Assess the impacts

Once you’ve written down every Core Impact to date, write down the impacts OF the Core Impact in your life. How did it affect you?

Here’s an example from my life:

Discovering I wouldn’t make the Olympic team – I was shooting for the ’88 Olympics and sponsorships were not allowed. When I discovered that my family couldn’t afford it, I was devastated. Skiing in the Olympics was my biggest dream and goal. I was so angry that I stopped skiing. I started hanging out with an unsavory crowd. I convinced myself not to dream or shoot for anything big because I could get my heart broken. It impacted me by starting a decision-making process that messed me up for 10 years. I didn’t want to stick my neck out, hope or dream.

Thankfully, after 10 years, I realized what I was doing to myself by giving up on something I loved. I immediately booked a trip to the mountains, rented skis and raced. I’ve been doing that just about every year since. It’s a love of mine. It’s energizing.

Looking back on my response to the then devastating news, I realized that I made a decision that didn’t just have to do with skiing. After that Core Impact, every time I went to make a big decision, I chose not to do anything I could get hurt over. By doing this, I began the process of running every major decision through the filter of “Is this going to let me down?” If so, I’m not going to do it.

I had to change my force-of-habit thinking.

When we make decisions based on habits of the past, we lose out on some of the great moments or greatest changes in our lives.

We do it because we don’t truly understand the perspective of our past. I didn’t have to look back and be mad or make monsters or victims.

I simply had to ask, “How did that impact me?” As I understood that, I realized I’d put a decision-making process in place that would affect me for 10 years.

That’s why I want you to do this.

Take time this week, schedule it in, and go through your Core Impacts.

What force-of-habit thinking is holding you back? If you want to dig deeper and gain perspective on your life and discover how to move past your Core Impacts and have a stronger life, click here: Next-Level Life.

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March 28, 2017

How to Attract, And Choose The Right Hire For Your Business 

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How to find the right hire, when the candidates are scarce.

On today’s show, we are digging into the hiring process, and how to gain perspective on hiring opportunities, attract the best candidates for the job, and know who the “right” person is.

Discover how to look beyond your current focus to solve hiring issues. Listen here:

  • How to advertise job roles based on DISC personality styles [5:00]
  • How Values Profiles influence the hiring process [7:00]
  • The challenges in hiring millennials [10:40]
  • The mentality that stifles work ethic [10:50]
  • Key pieces to include in your marketing, to find the right hire [12:10]

If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got.

Question: How do you attract your ideal employee in the hiring process?

Resources:

if you’re ready to go from stress, failure, and lack of confidence in your leadership, to team unity, focus, and successful growth in your business, register for the Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event right now! 

I don’t want you to wait and say, “oh I’ll register later,” because if you wait, you’re going to pay more money. We’re still in the early bird phase, but it’s only going to be for one, more, week. Early Bird ends March 28th at midnight! SO, go ahead, go over to chrislocurto.com, click on the homepage banner, GET registered, and I’ll look forward to seeing you in Nashville at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event. Get my tickets!

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March 21, 2017

How To Deal With A Passive Aggressive Leader, and Stop People Pleasing

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How To Deal With A Passive Aggressive Leader, and Stop People Pleasing.

On today’s show, we are taking questions from our listeners on how to deal with a passive aggressive leader, and people pleasing.

Passive aggressive behavior is the opposite of gaining perspective, and having healthy, upfront communication.

When you’re dealing with passive aggressive people…

The key is why. Why are they being passive aggressive? There is something going on with that person, something they’re experiencing. Maybe they’re struggling with something involving you!!

Here’s what you can do if you’re on the receiving end, or feeling passive aggressive. Listen here:

  • Why people are passive aggressive [4:25]
  • How to have the conversation [6:00]
  • How to prevent passive aggressive conflict [9:00]
  • What personality styles have to do with conflict [13:00]

On our second listener question, I answer how to stop people pleasing, and what it has to do with your Root System. Our caller asks how to stop people pleasing, and his breakthrough from 10 Signs You’re A People Pleaser.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • The steps to take to create healthy relationships [20:45]
  • Signs you’re a people pleaser [20:10]
  • Difference between walls and boundaries [23:20]

Question: How have you dealt with a passive aggressive leader, or learned to stop people pleasing?

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if you’re ready to go from stress, failure, and lack of confidence in your leadership, to team unity, focus, and successful growth in your business, register for the Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event right now! 

I don’t want you to wait and say, “oh I’ll register later,” because if you wait, you’re going to pay more money. We’re still in the early bird phase, but it’s only going to be for one, more, week. Early Bird ends March 28th at midnight! SO, go ahead, go over to chrislocurto.com, click on the homepage banner, GET registered, and I’ll look forward to seeing you in Nashville at Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event. Get my tickets!

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March 14, 2017

The Powerful, Repeatable Sales Process Critical To Your Leadership

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“When your business is who you are, every bit of you is tied up in the emotional decision-making process. It affects every part of your life.”

TODAY we are talking about sales and leadership. We’re talking about the fear of, “can I trust someone else with the revenue responsibility of this business?” I’ve been SO looking forward to this episode, and we’re going to cover what you can do right now in your business and role.

In this episode we walk through high-level sales strategy, and the nitty gritty details. Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • The #1 reason customers leave
  • How to build relationships and conquer objections in sales
  • What emotional buy lines in sales are, and how to use them
  • How to ask the right questions, and know when to close
  • How to determine if you have the right mindset for sales
  • Why selling doesn’t have to produce anxiety and stress
  • The fears holding back your business growth
  • What holds businesses back in sales, that has little to do with sales
  • Why 85% of business owners are stuck in their job
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March 7, 2017

The Little Things That Create the Vast Gap Between First and Second Place

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“However your family turns out, whatever happens with your business, your organization, or your team…at the end of it all, whether you have produced a disaster or a masterpiece, it will have been created one small brushstroke at a time. So sweat the small stuff. Seriously.

Today I have on the show my good friend Andy Andrews. Andy is a bestselling novelist, speaker, and consultant for the world’s largest organizations. He has spoken at the request of four different United States presidents. Andy is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers, including The Traveler’s Gift and The Noticer.

We dive into why people are so offended all of the time, the difference between the “the truth” and “what sounds true,” the little things that create the vast gap between first and second place, and challenging conventional wisdom.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • The cure for a society that has become constantly offended by something or someone
  • How to use the question “Why?” to multiply the success of any endeavor (and the exact moments at which you should ask it)
  • How to identify the smallest details that ensure the greatest success
  • I ask, “If you could go back in time, what would you tell a young Andy?”
  • How to gain ground in the huge wide world that is beyond you
  • How to know what you don’t know

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March 2, 2017

5 Steps To Overcome Guardedness and Live More Authentically

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Are you fully open or vulnerable with your family or friends?

If you’re not, guess what? You’re pretty darn normal, and there are reasons for that.

But have you ever worked on figuring out why you’re not more open, and what holds you back?

Oftentimes, people blame the other person in the relationship.

Perhaps you’ve thought or said something like…

“I’d be more open, if they’d be.”

“If they treated me better, I’d open up.”

“Anytime I try to be open, they respond in a way I don’t like…they try to fix it, tell me to get over it, or I end up hurt.”

If you’re guilty of any of these, brace yourself because here comes the painful part.

Do you see how there’s no personal ownership or responsibility in any of these statements?

When we take a victim stance or blame someone else, we eliminate any chance of changing the situation, and we stay stuck in it.

We put it all on the other person, and because we “can’t change them” or “they just won’t change,” we build up walls and become guarded to protect ourselves.

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And when we guard, other people will, too, and now we have two people cycling against each other, instead of pouring into each other.

This destroys relationships.

Here are 5 steps to overcome guardedness and live more authentically and free. 

1. Pray for God to change you, and the relationship. 

I firmly believe that God changes us from the inside out, and heals relationships, especially when we’re diligent and ask for His help.

Pray for His peace and help, and surrender it to Him.

2. Start with you.

Diligence starts with learning to be more open, and discovering all of the pieces in your Root System that are causing you to guard and protect.

This is something we go super deep into in every Next-Level Life event, and is truly the key to any type of life change that lasts.

For right now though, it’s critical to understand personal responsibility is where to begin.

3.  Gain perspective from the other person to understand more. 

Ask questions to understand why they respond to you like they do, and ask questions to learn how you contribute to their guardedness.

Now here’s the thing. It’s super important to not be defensive or frustrated when they share.

Responses like these also come from your Root System, and until you’re able to overcome them, do your best to manage them.

Caution: If you’re talking to a very toxic person (i.e. controlling, abusive, very negative and judgmental), this step will be very difficult because the other person won’t be healthy enough to have a conversation like this.

If that’s the case, healthy boundaries are a must, as well as pouring into your relationship with God.

4. Be honest about how you feel. 

Right now you may be thinking, “But wait a second, Chris, this takes being vulnerable! I can’t do this step!”

You’re right, it does mean being open and vulnerable, but note that it’s not step 1 or 2.

If steps 2 and 3 go well, you’ll feel more open to share because you’ll have better perspective about why they respond like they do, and how you influence them.

Perspective provides understanding, and understanding is power.

5. Love them. 

When we understand each other better, we respond with more patience, acceptance, and grace, and judgement and frustration get sidelined.

That’s when our more authentic self comes out, and we can be more free to love well.

Love is the key. Love will end two people cycling against each other because when the other person feels loved, over time, they’ll love you better.

And when you both feel loved, unified, and trusting, you have little reason to guard and protect.

Depending on what’s going on today in your relationships, this step may feel like the last thing you want to do, but in relationships, someone must go first to change things.

Someone must lead toward healing, and remain committed to reversing the cycle of guardedness.

With God’s help, you can do this!

Question: Has guardedness held you back from having greater relationships? Comment below!

If you’d like to learn how Next-Level Life could benefit your life, click here. 

 

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February 21, 2017

4 Examples Of Everyday Leadership In Action

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Your growth as a leader starts right now, and requires you to show up everyday. 

Today we are talking about how leaders are dealing with mistakes from team members, failure, personality styles, and values every day.  We have three VERY special guests on the show today. Our clients and friends are giving their perspective as CEOs, Presidents, and entrepreneurs on walking out next-level leadership.

This episode is all about our clients who have been with us for years, giving you the unscripted answers and stories on how they’re leading their team members to success. We dive into:

  • How to lead by personality style
  • Vulnerability in leadership
  • How to handle team member mistakes
  • Addressing failure and its impacts in business
  • Leading and hiring based on values and motivators

To hear about greater performance using personality styles, listen here:

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To hear about handling team member mistakes, listen here:

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To hear about their experiences with vulnerability on their leadership team, listen here:

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To hear about dealing with failure, listen here:

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Learn what these leaders are implementing everyday in their business, making DNA in their culture. Register for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event here: chrislocurto.com/events

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February 7, 2017

A Huge Life Change Takes Perspective, Not Magic

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Can people change?

People weigh in on this topic in everyday conversation, and so many conclude people can’t… To grow, to have a stronger life, change must happen. It is absolutely up to you to change yourself if you want a better, stronger life.

It’s not easy. Getting great perspective on life isn’t easy either.

So many friends and family member have well meaning advice…but true perspective is what allows people to change. It is what brings freedom. Our guest today shares how she worked past her habits and feeling like she was never going to get it right. Here’s how to gain phenomenal perspective on challenges in life, and learn what is keeping you from her authentic self. Listen here:

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Was there any nervousness coming in?

I had a huge bundle of nerves coming into my Next-Level Life event. I was absolutely afraid of judgement, afraid of what was going to come out of it, am I going to be told that I’m doing everything wrong? As soon as I walked in the door I could not have felt more welcome, more at ease. immediately all the nerves went away. I experience absolutely no judgement – I felt free to share things I have never shared before with anyone in my life. It was so freeing to put everything out on the table.

I felt completely safe. That is the perfect word for it. I feel like I could share absolutely anything and we could look at the why. I felt like it was better than home.

What have you discovered when looking at other people after your Next-Level Life event?

As I’ve been launched into my Next-Level Life, it’s been entirely different. I’ve had huge life challenges come my way. I could feel my old habits there, they didn’t go away, but I was able to stop and assess the situation and really think about why was I feeling this way. Sometimes all it takes is two seconds to look at what’s going on, and it changes the outcome drastically. I feel like every day I get closer to that authentic version of me.

There is the authentic version of us, and then the one that we put on for others – the one that lives believing lies about us and others.

I was an “I” person going into the event, everything was focused around me. My focus has completely changed. Coming out of the process, I start every day a completely different way. The action plan I have has made a change in how I approach things … I can manage things now, because I’m not focused on me all the time – I’m changing the way I live my life.

What were the biggest revelations?

An hour into my event….we had the salvation conversation. It tied into every other piece of my event: truths, lies, my focus in life…all of it.

When tough times happened before, how did you respond? How do you respond to tough times now?

Before, I had a terrible habit of folding into myself. When tough times happened I thought that the world was against me, my problem solving was useless, I wasted huge amounts of time feeling bad about myself, I felt like I was never going to get it right…

Afterwards it is an absolute 180. When the tough times come, I actually hold onto that joy that I experienced during the event. The challenge in front of me is just that, a challenge. I can overcome, and I will be stronger for it. That has been my experience since my event.

“Life is not hard stuff and you get happy in between, life is joy and celebration, and having a focus. The challenges are just part of the trip.”

Facing things that are negative about yourself are never easy. I’m a high I (DISC Profile) so I’m scared of judgement, it was tough to take a look at the things I’m doing. It was hard to see how selfish I was being. If you had asked me that, I would never have seen it but realizing that, now I can change it.

There’s nothing in life that compares to being able to change.

It’s so easy to look at someone and say, “look, there’s so selfish…” and judge them. That selfishness is just what we call the “surface-level response.” Many many many times it is an act of protection. Being selfish is an act of trying to find worth, feel better about you because of things that have happened in your past. We’re all selfish at times, we all choose to be selfish and have selfish tendencies. It’s important to look at why we behave that way. 

How did you discover where you were getting your worth?

I was 100% getting my worth from other people. I would look to someone else to tell me I was okay, I needed someone else to tell me I was “good” to feel “good.” During the event, I found my worth is in God and I found that God loves me. I don’t need to find worth in anyone else. That shift has made the biggest difference in my life.

What is the most empowering thing you learned?

It was at the very very end, you sate me down and said, “so we’ve laid out this plan, what is going to get in your way?” I thought and thought, and the only thing that is going to keep me from my authentic self and all we discovered…is me. That in itself is empowering, that no one else has control over what happens in my life.

I’m the only thing in my way, I CAN do anything.

We look at suffering as a bad thing. We think that if we suffer, we need to get out of it as soon as possible…How do you see suffering now?

I didn’t like it, I wanted life to be roses and rainbows. I’ve gone through challenging things and now I’m so grateful for them. I anticipate going through more, I want to become that richer, deeper, more experienced person.

Life is short. Why would you want to live it in a way where you know you can be better? Take the next step. I wouldn’t want to hold off one more minute thinking about the way I was living then compared to living now.

Here’s what you can do this week:

Learn more about Next-Level Life, or talk to us and see if it’s going to be an incredible fit for YOU.

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January 31, 2017

What Toxic Culture Looks Like, And How To Avoid It

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Terrible customer service can be incredibly frustrating. This week we had a taste of it at the office. Here’s why it matters in your leadership…

Today we are talking about customer service. Here’s the phone call we experienced at our office this week, listen here:

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It takes a lot to get me upset… this phone call did it pretty quick.

For me, caring more about money, making a sale, than serving God’s kids is a spiritual issue.

There comes a time in your role as a leader where you have to take responsibility for your company’s actions. Don’t be surprised if you lose business when you treat the actual business…like business! Instead, you have to treat your customers like they are actually the ones contributing to your 401K. Treat your customers like they’re the ones who are putting the food on your table.

Yes, there are times that the customer is wrong. I believe that. The customer might not always be right, but the customer should be honored. To continually mistreat customers and then wonder why you’re losing business, is ridiculous.

After listening to the phone call, do you see the culture that’s inside of this business? For me, culture comes down to two things: actions and attitudes. What you teach, what you lead, the integrity you teach…it becomes DNA in a business.

You have to ask yourself this question: “Is money worth having this kind of culture, DNA, in your business?”

If you want to be successful in creating a phenomenal culture… you must define it.

Here’s what you can do this week:

  1. Write down what you want your culture to look like. Define it! What actions do you want when it comes to: working, clients and customer service, team members, leadership? Integrity? Culture?
  2. Ask yourself the questions first, then bring others in and see their feedback. Ask if you measure up as a business to what you wrote down.
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January 24, 2017

The 3 Skills Successful Entrepreneurs Share

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“The three skills entrepreneurs and leader need to master: productivity, discipline, and focus.”

Serving entrepreneurs with free, valuable and consistent content. When I hear these words, I think of my friend John Lee Dumas, host of the EOFire podcast. John is on the podcast and today we’re talking about what makes entrepreneurs and leaders successful… what sets them apart.

In this episode we walk through how to get to success through mastering productivity, discipline, and focus. Here’s what you’ll discover:

  • The Pomodoro technique
  • “How to win tomorrow, today”
  • The importance of having a vision for your time to utilize it
  • What’s in the Mastery Journal for you
  • A framework for new habits that WILL work
  • How to get an accountability partner that won’t let you fail
  • Masters in Training

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January 17, 2017

3 Lies Leaders Believe

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“Today we are talking about 3 lies leaders tell themselves daily…”

If you’re anything like me, these are things I’ve struggled with in the past…so many leaders get caught up in these lies. We’ll cover three of the biggest lies many leaders tell themselves, why, and what you can do about it TODAY in your leadership.

     1. “Leading people is like leading me”

Do you tend to hire people with personality styles that match up to you?

If you’re hiring just like you, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Each personality style brings incredible strengths to a team, and you’re missing out if everyone on your team is just like you!

On the other hand, if you have different personality styles on the team then I am going to guess that you may struggle with leading them according to their personality styles.

As a leader, it can be so frustrating to not understand why your team isn’t doing what you’re asking of them…or continually falling short in an area or role. If you find yourself in this place as a leader, stop and ask, “how am I leading them to success? Am I leading them based on their personality style? Is what I’m asking them going against their personality style?”

Asking the right questions is crucial, and I’ll dive into all the specifics of this lesson at the Next-Level Leadership Live Event.

Leading well, is leading your team in the way they receive information. If you need a crash course on Personality Styles, get the tools you need here.

If you want a successful team, you must lead them based on their personality style, not how you want to be led.

     2. “How I act and react, is how my team acts and reacts”

Many leaders believe everyone should respond to a situation the way they do. In leading, you must act and react in a way that is beneficial to them. Communication looks very different for high D’s than it does for high S’s. Your team needs to hear information in a way that will move them forward…sometimes for high D’s, it’s a two-by-four over the head.

You can’t just sit back and ask, “why are they not where I need them to be?” You have to be asking the question, “is this exactly the role they need to be in?” Put a plan together to make your team member successful, and they will get to where you need them to be.

     3. “How I hear and understand things as a leader, is how my team hears things.”

Years ago, I had an event coordinator working for me that was fantastic. Why? Because she thought the way I did. I just knew if I gave her information, she would make it happen. So I promoted her, and brought in another person to fill her role. I would say to my new hire, “hey, go do this thing.” She would leave and come back asking, “What exactly is it you wanted me to do?” She would go out again and then come back…”So, what did you want me to do?”

I could not understand why it was such a challenge. To figure out what was going on, I decided to go with this team member and see where the issue was happening.

I quickly found out, I was the problem.

I kept trying to lead her the same way as I did her predecessor. I kept assuming she would be able to do exactly as I was asking without giving any information…and that was my mistake. I went back and poured through her DISC profile, and saw everything I was doing to set her up for failure. I was expecting her to be the same, and not leading her in her strengths. She needed far more details. I also quickly figured out that her predecessor would always get it done, but with a trail of destruction in her wake. Highly detailed personalities need to be led in a completely different way.

The keys are understanding how each individual hears things, understands concepts, acts, reacts, and how they need to be led in their personality style. There are no hacks to this. You need to learn how to lead each person individually. It will make you a better leader.

To take this content a step further and apply it to your leadership and business everyday…learn the tools you need to lead your team confidently, scale your business the right way, and get out from under your daily tasks to become the strongest leader for you team, register for the Next-Level Leadership Live Event.

Here’s something you can do today, RIGHT now

Think about someone on your team that you’re struggling to lead…

  1. Sit down with their personality profile.
  2. Read through all the information and see if it leans in the direction of the role you have them in.
  3. See how they see leaders, projects, how they approach you.

And lastly…ask yourself, “what have I not led them well in?”

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If you need a crash course on Personality Styles, get the tools you need here.

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