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April 22, 2014

Understanding Your Root System [Podcast]

April 22, 2014 | By | 20 Comments">20 Comments

On the last Chris LoCurto Show episode, What You Have In Common With Wine, one of the things I discussed was the root system of grapes and how a strong root system makes a great wine.

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Your life equals your root system.

Your life and your decision-making process comes from your root system. In Next-Level Life, I spend time tying what’s happened in a person’s life to their root system – family, influences, leadership, friends, etc. Whatever has happened in your past shapes the decisions you make today.

You are the sum of your past & your influences.

The way your parents treated you links back to the way their parents treated them and cycles into how you treat your children or family or team. If abuse, either emotional or physical is in your past, a pattern forms. Chances are, if you were abused, you’ll pendulum swing to your children and won’t discipline or will allow your children to control you. This only perpetuates a cycle. Healthy boundaries and healthy control are the key. Finding that center is one of the most important things we can discover.

Even the best parents (with the best intentions) might do something that came from their parents that causes a bad belief system. They might say one specific thing over and over to their child, expecting and hoping that it helps their kid to grow up well or understand, but they way they said it creates a bad belief system in the child. How crazy is that?

When we carry over the bad processes or belief systems, we perpetuate the same exact root system.

Will you ever be perfect? No. The perspective of understanding why you do what you do is vital to going forward. Some of you have to put serious boundaries in your life. Boundaries is a great book (one that I talk about all the time) that goes very in-depth on this issue.

All of these things make up who you are and how you make your decisions. When you understand where they come from, then you can make better decisions.

Question: How does your root system affect your business?

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  • Paulette Brown Webb

    Chris, I believe today is the first I’ve listened to your podcasts. So glad I found you! This was my second one today :) At any rate, I can now see how neglect or maybe a better word, disengagement from my parents has affected my parenting (my children are all grown now) and now the way I run (or should I say neglect & disengage from,) my business & team. My parents loved me, but did not engage much with me. I was the youngest of 6 and only girl and there was 13 years between me & the youngest of my older brothers. Being the only daughter of older parents who had all but given up on ever having a girl, I felt a bit like a trophy. greatly loved, but once all the novelty & fan fair died down I sat on the shelf & most of the time collecting dust. I’ve spent much time thinking and pondering & seeking wisdom, & I have to say this is the first time in my 48 years of life I’ve ever had this analogy cross my mind. Praising God for this new insight and praying for clarity on how to swing the pendulum to the middle to best guide my children, grandchildren & my team hear on out. Thanks! In His grace! Paulette :)

    • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

      Paulette that is so awesome to hear!!! Thank you for sharing that! The crazy thing is, I bet you they never even realized what they were doing, juts like you’re realizing now how you’ve responded. And I’m so glad that you ARE seeing that. We focus heavily on this in our Next-Level Life events to help parents and leaders to discover how their Root System is impacting those they are leading.

      I’m so glad you found the show and hope to hear from you more!

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  • http://lifestoked.com Deacon Bradley

    Great episode Chris! This goes great along with my recent study of my own limiting beliefs (via Tony Robbins works).

    Lots of the stuff you mentioned in the episode was pretty significant aspects of someone’s past. I’m fortunate to say my past has been anything but challenging. I’m sure there’s still some stuff I’m “bringing to work” from my past though.

    • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

      Thank you Deacon! And the great thing about a challenging past, when coupled with information like this, you become a much better version of YOU!

      Thanks for sharing!

  • http://prc.tc Scott de Rozic (Practice)

    Chris – this was a great follow-on to our conversation this morning. Loved the stat about the number of small businesses that are family run and how directly the root system impacts their service and operation. Useful in navigating consumer to business and your business relationships :) An interesting related topic is archetypes – how the same “person” exists in so many people across so many families, not related by blood with different hurts and traumas.

    Thanks on the Boundaries recommendation, I’ve added this to my list once my list becomes reasonable I’ll dive in.

    • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

      So glad to hear you liked it Scott! I can’t wait to hear what you think of the book.

  • http://zechariahnewman.com/ Zechariah Newman

    Awesome post Chris. It is amazing how much the choices we make today area result of our childhood. Roots are so important!

    • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

      Absolutely Zechariah! It’s the biggest thing I deal with in LifePlan. Trying to get people to understand it.

  • Dale Powers

    Thanks for this podcast, Chris. I have a client who is struggling in working under his dad in the family business. A lot of the issues are Gen 1/Gen 2 transition issues, but there is more there. I need to recommend “Boundaries” to him to read. It IS a fabulous book! Thanks for reminding me of it when talking about family businesses. It will be perfect for him. GREAT podcast!

    • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

      Thanks Dale! I was hoping this podcast made sense. It was tough to do in a short amount of time.

      • Dale Powers

        Yes, that is a tough topic for a podcast! I have a friend who takes an entire semester at the University of Tennessee to cover this for his master’s students! But it was a well-done tidbit that may entice people to dig deeper.

        • http://www.ChrisLoCurto.com Chris LoCurto

          That’s fantastic to hear! Thanks Dale