We’re back with another insightful episode of our Personality Styles series.
Today, we’re delving into the dynamic ‘High I’ Personality Style. These people are the life of the party, known for their outgoing, social, adaptable, and enthusiastic nature. But as with any personality, there’s more to the story. They can sometimes struggle with focus and mature listening.
So, what’s in it for you? We’re dishing out valuable tips and real-life examples on how to navigate your interactions with High I individuals. Whether you’re leading a team, working with coworkers, or managing relationships, we’ve got you covered.
But wait, there’s more. We’ll also uncover the common misunderstandings and clashes that High Is might encounter when dealing with other personality styles. And we’ll spill the beans on how immaturity within the High I group can stir the pot and, of course, provide the secret sauce for conflict resolution.
And for our leaders out there, we’ve got something special for you. Learn how to leverage a High I’s strengths to achieve your team goals and boost group cohesion.
We’ll throw in some real-life examples that will make it all crystal clear.
It’s all about understanding and embracing these diverse personality styles to foster harmonious relationships and supercharge your team’s productivity. So, get ready to level up your communication game.
Grace and peace,
Chris LoCurto 0:00
On today's episode, we'll continue to explore the fascinating world of personality styles and its impact on our daily lives. We'll dig into the hi i personality style that is coming up next.
Welcome to the Chris LoCurto show where we discuss leadership and life and discover that business is what you do, not who you are. Welcome to the show, folks, I hope you're having a fabulous day wherever you are. Today we are diving into the world of personality styles within our team. Specifically, we're going to explore the high personality style and its impact on our teamwork dynamics. So let me kind of just explain it briefly about the high personality style. Now, the high personality style is that influencers they're very outgoing people person, the kind of people that love people, high I love people. They are crazy about people who are crazy about being around people who have no problem being the center of attention. They usually have a very upbeat personality style. They're very accepting. They are very encouraging. They're social, they're adaptable. They're very enthusiastic and very outgoing. So when you look at the high personality style, there's somebody who has a lot of charm. They're incredibly expressive. Unlike the S and the C, the eye and the D are very fast-paced, they love things moving at a faster pace, they don't like to sit down, sit around, or wait on things they like to they like to keep things moving. So when you see somebody who is of the high personality style, they're not going to be the person who likes sitting in the back they're not going to be the person who likes you know is going to stay quiet for long you know, the high person is going to be very social. Very very talkative. So and it's funny so my personality style is S I think a 67 I do a lot of verbal processing I will process out loud my wife knows that many times I will process things out loud. And I have a saying for where she's the highest and the highest many times I will say to her process out loud because I want to hear her right now again, I'm a higher s than I am but I want to hear what are your thoughts? What are you thinking speaking out loud talking out loud? That is the high personality style very people focused. very social.
So as we look at some of the potential negatives of the high I will tell you this, the high personality style is the one personality style that cannot stand to hear negative things about themselves. When we do next I'm teeing all this up before I get into the negatives out highs brace yourself. I'm going to hit some things here that you're probably not gonna like but here's what I want you to hear especially your high S. The personality style high S make up 25% of the population and they make up an incredibly small percentage of Next-Level Life attendees. Unfortunately, we will have SS C's DS but S are the ones that are afraid that they're going to come and hear negative things about themselves that they're going to experience rejection that it's going to be overwhelming that they're going to be attacked on stuff there's all this stuff that the hi builds up in their head about their worth being tied to people it is something that holds back the high the let me say the immature Hi I'm I always say maturity is not based on the age it's based on how well you know yourself. If you understand well how you act react give information and receive information that's that's basis for how mature you are when it comes to personality styles. And the more you know yourself and then you understand others your maturity gross right how you lean in their direction and how you set them up for success with communication that's all going to be based on you know your maturity. So an immature Hi, I can't stand to hear negative things. They don't want to hear even the things that I just shared. They don't like that. So let's kind of jump into some of the things that are negative about the hi I was some negative characteristics are lack of listening. And again, I laugh at this because one, I am a high or I usually say I am one. I am 67 S.
So I've got a lot of art. But I'm a higher s. So I'm a really good listener, I'm highly altruistic, that's my highest. So listening is not usually a struggle for me. But for the high i, which is their highest they tend to struggle to listen, well. What do I mean by that? Most High is in immaturity and are waiting for you to take a breath, so they can respond to the thing that you're saying. So that they can speak into it from their perspective from something they've experienced? I can tell you, I've done it many times in my life. You know, it's, it's something that if they can speak to you about this thing, or on the subject, or have the answer, then they believe a lot of their worth is tied to that. There are a lot of, and I'm going to say these are negatives because I believe they are negatives, but a lot of high S, their worth is based on whether or not they are approved of Do you approve of me as an individual? Do you, if you approve of me, then we can continue to keep this connection that we have, and we can continue on this relationship. A lot of high S, unfortunately, cannot stand being rejected. A lot of high S, unfortunately, struggle with feeling attacked when the situation and this is you got to hear what I'm saying. The situation appears to have the same pressure as sometime in the past when they were attacked.
So it's not uncommon. I remember at event years and years ago, where I had a high I going through Next-Level Life, and they struggled and attacked me. And I was like, you know, are you okay? And it's like, well, you're attacking me? And I'm like, No, this isn't attacking like, well, you're yelling at me. And I'm like, this isn't? This isn't the volume of yelling at you? Well, you're gonna yell at me. Nope, I have no intention of yelling at you at all. Well, it feels like you're gonna yell at me. And so as this person went through this process, I said, Hey, question for you. When you screwed things up in front of your dad, how did he respond? He'd rip my head off. Okay, does this pressure feel just like that? And they just kind of sat back and were like, Oh, my gosh, yes, it does. It feels like the same thing. Okay. Am I doing the same thing your dad did? Oh, my gosh, no, you're not? Okay, well, then do me a favor, as we walked through this process, don't apply to me things that you experienced with him, until you see me do it. You know, don't dump that on me. If you can challenge my character in this process of what you know about me, then it will help you to not feel the feelings that you're currently feeling like that you're going to be attacked, or you're gonna be yelled out, or you're going to have your head ripped off, right. And so for me, that is probably the basis of the reason why I'm high, I don't generally come to Next-Level Life. And I say, generally, there's plenty of S that have come. But I dare say it's not 25% of the over 500 people that have come through, what's the concern, being attacked, hearing negative things being rejected, all of those things are negatives. When they struggle heavily, that's when you'll see them attack somebody else, that's when you will see that their emotions come out strongly about, you know, feeling like they've lost an incredible amount of worth, you might find that they start to struggle with the need to gossip about a situation, gossip about a person. There's this thing inside where they feel like they are redeeming themselves, you know, not losing as much worth and it becomes a painful difficult thing. Now again, these are as we've gone through every single personality style, we see that there are positives and negatives why are we going through this so that you either as a high or as a leader or as a business owner or as a spouse or as a child, parent? You understand how to understand this personality style and lean in the direction or help them in the process right? What does it look like? Another thing that is both a positive and a negative? High S can be incredibly charming. Now, it can be positive because many times a high I can bring, you know, what appears to be happiness to your day.
It can be, their energy, their excitement, their enthusiasm, absolutely can rub off on you, if you're somebody who chooses it. Now, nobody can make you happy. But many times around high people, some of my favorite people on the planet, some of my best friends are high ice, and I love being with them, I love hanging with them, I love spending time watching their energy watching them, you know, operate in life, it's fabulous write it, I tend to gain some energy from it. Now, the opposite the negative is that High S can be charming. On top of it being a positive, it can also be a negative or somebody is trying to charm you to control their environment to control their situation. So high S will tend to charm you so that they stay in control of whatever's going on. Now, this can be a negative as well, because it can be very wearing. I know that while I can gain energy from a high eye, who's upbeat and enthusiastic and just great and loving life, that very same energy when it's focused on me, when it's focused on my approval, when it's focused on gaining worth from me, when it's focused on not losing worth with me, oh my gosh, it can be exhausting. It can be very difficult for me, even though I'm a 67 I, it can be very tough for me. Because that's not, that's not how I operate. That is not my focus, my focus isn't charming you to gain worth or try me to not lose worth. So for me, it can be very tiring when it's a nonstop process. Or when somebody is just really feeling like they've got to control a room or be the center of attention. So as we talk about the high personality I want, I want you to know, that it's one of my absolute favorite personality styles. I love high ice, probably my favorite personality style combination is a high eye and high C eye being the first and see being the second personality. So that's one of my favorite personality combinations. So if it sounds like I'm just, you know, dog in the eye with this one, I'm talking about myself to an extent. Also, it is something that the positive sides of my S, I think just brings so many people energy, well, except for the high C ICS don't get a lot of energy from high S.
So again, super amazingly enthusiastic. Another thing that we do, I just said super amazingly, so many times the high, I will use exaggerations, what their descriptions of things, you know, you've heard me say on the show 14,000 times the phrase 14,000 times I use, you know that thing right there, that's 40,000 times I've I've run into that same problem. We can be very expressive, we can be you know, we can exaggerate things to an extent. So it's interesting to see that that is something that's a common thing with S, is that over-exaggeration to drive a point home, it's not that the person thinks it's 14,000 times, right? But even with my level of AI, that's something that, you know, I find myself experiencing, and many times, if I feel like the exaggeration could be taken seriously, then I have to back out and go I'm sorry, I don't mean 14,000. What I mean is three times that's happened, right? So things to understand. The high eye super positive, super amazing person fun to be around, fun in leading a project or people or a group, lots of fun, very social, very adaptable to what's going on very enthusiastic. But also the issues that we've talked about, they can take criticism incredibly, personally, in feeling like they're being attacked or feeling like you know that they're even not being heard in a situation.
So important things for us to understand if we're going to lead a high, especially if we are the Hi, how are we gonna leave the personality style? What does it look like in our team? You know, how do we help others to lean in their direction as well? So what are some ways that we can work with the high personality style? Things that you have to think about when it comes to that high personality is what they need to operate well and whatever it is that they're doing, like if you're going to be leading or even if you're working with maybe you're up here working on a project or something and as I go through this if you're the I see you might be going, oh my gosh, I just can't do that. Yes, you can. You want the hi idling in your direction, you can do the same thing, right? If we're going to make people successful and set people up for success, then we have to take the responsibility of leaning in somebody else's direction. Well, they should lead them in direction, too. Yes, totally. Absolutely. I completely agree. But what if they don't? Right? Does that mean you just give up, your goal is a success, right? So if we're gonna communicate with success, and set somebody up for success, then lean in their direction, even if they're not necessarily leaning in yours.
So things to be thinking about, I always say, it is okay to have a couple minutes of just random jovial conversation with a high eye before you get into the deep stuff. Right, the high eye, if they're entering your brainstorming session, or meeting or conversation, they're not walking into that situation going, let's get to the details. I'm ready, let's go. They just don't, they're excited to see you. They may be nervous to see you. But either way, they're, they're coming into that situation operating with emotion. That's where they start, right? And they will probably be there for most of the discussion. I'm not saying they're not going to get to their logic aspect. But there are people, so they'd love to be able to operate this meeting, discussion, whatever it is project. On a very social aspect. I joke about how in the personality styles video that we have, High S are the only people who come to work. And between eight and five, they just want to talk to people, but 501 when everybody's gone, they're like, Okay, I guess I better get some work done. They're like, why would we not just sit and talk to people, they're here, right? I can do the work afterward. And that's joking, but it has a little bit of truth to it, right? So make sure that you're expressing yourself. Make sure that you are you know, being personal make sure that you try I always say, you know, ask him, How was their weekend, how's their dog doing? How was their vacay you know, whatever it is trying to show that you care about them, try to show some interest in them. Try to have a chat, even if it's something that you're struggling with, and you're working on it yourself. But show that you care, don't do it as a you're checking off a task, show them that you care about them. What does it look like to say, you know, what I want to find out about this person's weekend or you know how their mom was doing, I heard that she was struggling in the hospital or something, you know, find out something about them, show them that you care, the worst thing you can do is make it look like you're doing a task and getting to know them. The high I will see that in a heartbeat. Right? And then they're just not going to trust you at that point.
So when it comes to getting into the details of whatever it is you're going to talk about. Understand that another negative about High S is details are usually not their strong point. They can encourage people to go do the biggest project you've ever had. But they will fail to get the details to accomplish it. Why? Because details just aren't their focus. They're just not it's not where they are. It needs to be, it should be. But just make sure that as you're leading them, make sure that you're not giving them too much of the detail at one time. Instead, what I like to do is give it to them in pieces and chunks. And then if I know that the person may be struggling with the details, I'll ask them to repeat back to me. Hey, tell me what it is that I'm asking you to do. Now. The high is gonna go I got it. I got it. Yeah, I'm sure that you do. I want to make sure that I communicated well, and that I'm setting you up for success. What is it that you're hearing me tell you that needs to happen? Or what are the details of this specific situation? Or as I do that, then I find out one of two things, or I might find out both things. Maybe I didn't communicate well enough to the high. That's always a possibility that I'm the fault. I'm the problem. But then it also helps me to find out, are listening. What things did they miss? What things did they not get? And I can probably promise you that there's a really good chance. If you're talking to a high eye, they're not taking down notes. I can't tell you how many times I've said to a high eye and this was me in my early days. I didn't have a pen. And somebody would say Well, hey, here's some direction on this thing. And I'm like, Ah, like, are you gonna write it down? I'm like, I don't have a pen.
Why don't you have a pen? You should be taking this seriously, you should be writing down the details. So it's funny again as an ADA S something that I do a lot of is I have checklists. I am huge on writing down the things I need to do. And then getting to the place I get to cross that off. So it wasn't difficult for me to go, Wow, I'm negatively affecting myself. I need to write this stuff down and make sure that I'm, you know, getting things done very well. So with that being said, it's okay to ask them to repeat stuff back to don't just make sure that you're not overwhelming them with too much stuff that they all of a sudden start to drop. Details write, it's also possible. If you need to do this something I've done many times in the past, No, I shouldn't say many times, something I've done a few times in the past is I've had somebody afterward, email me back, all the things that they heard me say all the things that they need to do, and they need to accomplish. And that helps you to know whether or not they've got all the information, I would say, please use that as a last resort. That's, you know, not treating somebody with dignity if you just start there just to throw it out there. Instead, last resort, I'm talking about somebody you're struggling with, and you're not sure that they're going to accomplish it.
So other ways to work with the high personality style. Allow them in my gosh, to recognize the benefit of the high enthusiasm. Recognize how great it is to have somebody bringing energy to a team. Now, do you want a high to go lead a bunch of high seas? Probably not, it's not gonna work out very well, right? They're just gonna, you know, think they're all full of fluff, right? But it's still great to have a high S energy, going into a project going into, you know, planning something going into brainstorming, just allow that to happen. But also understand, like some things that you know, I will say if I if I'm sitting in a room full of S, or if I know that I've got some immature High S, as I'm going into like a brainstorming session or q&a or something like that. Sometimes what we'll say is, hey, guys, it's not important to have the first answer. It's important to have the best answer, that's our goal is to get the best information, not as a judgment, not as a gain of worth. But how do we all get the best information moving forward? So if they can hear it, it's not the best thing to just have the first answer, because many times the first answer will be high, throwing something out as fast as they can, and then it has absolutely either nothing to do with what you're talking about hurts, it did not help the situation, you can see that a lot, right? But if you'll help them to know, hey, it's the best answer that I'm looking for, I want us to get to the best information so that we can go accomplish this, then you will find that they will maybe verbally process through, you know, what could it look like until they get to a really good answer, which can very well, you know, be a benefit to your brainstorming session, right? Because many times, if they talk through it, they can get through it, they can get to really good information. So allow them to be you know, expressive, allow them to bring enthusiasm to the environment. You know, make sure that you are recognizing them for that enthusiasm, you know that you're helping to point out that they have great energy. And I love the way that you've tackled this, I love the way that you've, you know, your positive attitude towards this thing.
So help them to understand how you feel that you know the aspects of what they're doing that's good or okay. Right? That you feel about that that way that you feel like what they're doing is okay. The worst thing is, if they never get any recognition, then that's when they're going to struggle, right? They're going to receive it as a criticism, they're going to receive it as a rejection. If you shoot down everything that they say, then they will receive that as you attack them. So our goal here is to work with them, it doesn't mean that you can't have side conversations asking them hey, I noticed this happened during that meeting, I noticed this happened in that brainstorming session. How do we fix that? How do we adjust that you could always have those types of conversations, right to help them to get to a place of recognizing, you know, some of the negative things that they're bringing out in meetings? But again, you notice everything here is about a positive attitude, and then making sure that they're getting to the details of whatever the thing is that you want them to do. Right. If they're not getting to the details, then I can promise you somehow, some way, some details are going to fall apart. All right. So what does it look like? You know, that's a lot about in a team situation in a work environment. What about, couples? What about families? What are some tips, you know, you need to understand that the very same things I talked about, if it's your spouse, I'll allow the energy, right allows them to have energy now, does it mean that they control everything? Does it mean that they get to be the center of attention on everything? No, that's where you get to have conversations. with them, Hey baby, I love your energy. I love how much how many good ideas or things, you know, the things she talked about, one of the things I noticed is, and this is how I experienced it. One thing with high S, especially highs do this with everybody, but especially with high Suse the phrase, this is how I experienced this, you know, a high of all people will receive an attack immediately, even if it's not an actual attack. Right, they will, that criticism can feel like, you just gave them a big ol punch right in the throat. So hopefully, if you can use the terminology while and just say, hey, here's what I'm experiencing, I experienced that, that, you know, you spent a lot of time talking through this, but I didn't feel hurt myself, I didn't feel like I got to participate in sharing some information.
So there are things that you can do, as you notice the immaturity side of the high eye, where you can speak into it in a way that if you are leaning in their direction, and you know, maybe a little sandwich, good, negative, good, you know, use good terminology of hey, helped me to understand this, or, Hey, here's what I experienced, you know, if you do these things, then I can have an easier time listening to what you say, as opposed to feeling like you're telling them that they're a terrible person. Right? So what's the goal here? So if you're out there going, well, I don't care. Maybe they weren't terrible. Maybe they were? Maybe they weren't. Right. But our goal isn't whether or not you're right about that. Our goal is how do we get to successful communication. How do we get to leading people really well, I will tell you, when it comes to family, you know, raising our youngest daughter, it is super important because she has a off the chart I and a pretty high D, that we spend time getting down in her level and talking through Hey, babe, let's let's talk through this situation. And you know, she could you could see the eyeroll of oh, great, I must have done something wrong. Hey, let's talk through this. So help me to understand, do you know why? Doing this thing over here is not okay. Do you understand how I received that? Do you understand how I felt when you said such insight, whatever it is, if I will help her to see, I'm not going to pummel her. She's not going to experience you know, getting in trouble. She's going to experience a conversation with a loving dad, who's saying I want you to understand what why this is bad. And then we'll talk about how to fix it. It makes it super easy for her at a very incredibly young age to go, Okay, daddy, let's talk. Okay, daddy, let's talk. Let's talk about that thing. Let's talk about that situation. And knowing that she is a high i And the last thing that she wants us to disappoint me. And the last thing that she wants us to feel like she's in trouble on something, it really helps her if I will lean in her direction, and talk to her in a way that doesn't sound like she's a horrible person. Right? Now, does that mean that that's every situation? No, if she does something bad than she might, she's probably going to get a stern discussion on Hey, that choice is now leading to this consequence, right? But for the most part, if I can lean in her direction, and talk to her about stuff, I mean, for me, I say people are her energy. If people come around with that child lights up, she's ready to go. People are her energy. So if I help her to see that people are her energy, then it can help her to regulate how she responds around people. It can help her not to occupy everybody's and here's the thing. She's stinking cute as all get out. She's so cute. And everybody wants to hang out with her. But after she's led you into doing 47 things in one day because she's so stinking cute. You're like, Okay, that's enough. I'm good. I'm good. Cuz she's charming, incredibly charming. Right? And she's a great girl. I love her to death. I mean, just my heartbeat. But I still lead people, including my children. The way that I teach, right? I lean in their direction and help them to come to understand they're not a victim to the situation, they're not being attacked. Do you understand what you did? Do you understand? You know, do you agree that this is something that happened? You know, thinking through those, those family dynamics, how do you set the child up for success? What we normally see in so many families is just yelling at the kid for doing something and the kid doesn't understand and just feels like well Mommy's having a bad day that he's having a bad day. So alright, understand and adapt our communication. So some of the biggest misunderstandings and clashes that Hi S have with other person analogies all revolve around the things I've just shared. They, they often feel like they're not heard, they often feel like they're being attacked in a situation, they often feel like, you know that
they're being left out or ignored, right? Because sometimes somebody who has a high eye, if they're taking that center attention, people won't respond to them. Because folks have thought, well, if I just don't even talk, or if I don't recognize them, then I don't have to listen to them talk about something for so long. Well, guess what that does cause them to feel like they're being left out, that does cause them to feel like you know, you don't care about them, they don't matter to you, well, maybe they don't, here's what you have to understand, that's going to create conflict, that's going to lead to conflict instead of, you know, holding back attention, holding back love instead of ignoring them. Instead of, you know, removing them from situations as some level of punishment. Understand that you need to adapt your styles and lean in the direction of helping them to understand what they're doing wrong. You know, what they're struggling with, or what you're experiencing from them if you will adjust this to them, and even possibly do it in a very positive and energetic way. You know, and enthusiastically, hey, you've really done something stupid, and you're in trouble now. Yay. I'm not talking about that. What I am saying is, is that if you can, like a lot of times, if I'm approaching Hi, I for doing something wrong, I'll do it in a different tone. Hey, listen, I need to talk to you about something. And this is, you know, you're going to receive this little tough this is I would not consider this to be a tough conversation. But I know that you're gonna not like that we have to talk about this. But it's something we have to talk about.
So can we talk through the situation that happened over here? And just I want to gain as much perspective from you as I can. I want to understand what you experienced or why you made that decision. But I also want you to do the same with me, is that, okay? Crazy enough, when you have that level of energy, when you have that level of excitement, even in something that's going to be negative, then it's not difficult for the person to go, okay, just settle in, let's see what's going on. Let's make sure you know, we share our information, we're honest with the situation, let's see what this leader or this person has to say. So if you will adapt your personality style to theirs, we talked about on the front side, adapting to leading them on in a positive way or leading them in meetings and stuff, even if you're leading them in something negative, understand how stressful it can be for the hi I try and make adjustments. Don't go in there with Mr. Judgmental S, and you know, your tone and standing over them and all that kind of stuff, that's going to get you somebody who's going to probably push back very hard, or probably somebody who's going to, you know, possibly move into victim mentality. So instead adapt into the ways even if it's something negative, that helps them to receive the negativity. You know, when folks go through when high S do come through next level life, they're blown away. They're blown away at the process, because it's not something that they've experienced before. You know, sometimes high S get treated harshly because they are so out there, they do put themselves out there, they do focus on being center of attention, they do, you know, have the first answer in a brainstorming session. And sometimes they get treated, not so well. So it's great for them to experience a difficult situation difficult, you know, something, a process like next level life, and find out that it's actually very positive for them, that it wasn't as bad as they thought it wasn't as painful as they thought. So other things you can do is emphasize their strengths. This is with any personality style, really. But make sure that you're emphasizing their strengths to them, if you can, and I have had very successful conversations and very mature conversations of talking to a high AI and saying, Hey, here's things I want to talk about preparing them, you know, letting them know what's coming, letting them know you're not in trouble, you're not getting getting attacked. You know, you're you're not gonna get your head ripped off. Here's what I want to talk about, you know, then it allows me to speak to their strengths. Man, when you have great energy, it's just, it's fun. It's fun and a meeting. It's fun and a project. You're very encouraging. Speak to all the positive things. My baby girl is just so stinking encouraging all the time. But sometimes, you know, some most of the time it's genuine. It's incredibly genuine and then sometimes it's trying to win daddy over. Sometimes it's trying to to get extra attention, right? So it's okay to recognize that that gift that talent is a positive. But it's also if you do it well, it's also possible for you to have a discussion and point out to them how that affects things in a negative way. Hey, when it looks like you're spending time trying to have all the answers, or have the right answers, or have the first answers, then, you know, if those answers aren't great, or they're not usable, then it looks like you're just speaking up just to speak up. Does that make sense? What I'm talking about? Have you ever understood or recognize that part of yourself. So just as a small example, I'm not saying it in a mean way, right? I'm not, you know, ripping somebody's head off. I'm instead pointing out, Hey, here's something that is a positive about you. But it also can be something that's negative. So make sure that as you are helping the high, I be a team member, we want the enthusiasm of the high eye, we want the strengths, all the strength that I hit on the front side of this, we want those things experienced in a team dynamic. But we may have to just like every other personality style, work through some of the negative aspects to get those, you know, get the strengths polished up and work on the negatives, so that we can get that same enthusiasm in the areas that we want them, but also in a way where they're considering other people. So very important for you to do. All right. What about self reflection and personal growth? Well, if you are a high i, then I want you to think about your high personality style. I want you to think about the things we've talked about right now. I want you to think about how you know if what you're experiencing and listening to this is Oh, my gosh, Chris Is so insensitive, and I can't believe it. Well, then there's already the problem right there. Right? If you're able to listen to this, I'm a 67. I and I agree with everything I'm saying. It's not difficult for me to agree with all of this. It's not hard at all. Why? Because I've I'm also a very high s. So I'm very introspective. I have no problem looking at myself going Oh, wow. Did I just you know, did I just speak up? Before I had a good answer. Did I? Was I just being the center of attention for Senator retention's sake? Oh my gosh, okay. Knock it off. Let's fix this, right? So if you're going to grow, the first thing you have to do is be very aware. If you haven't done your personality profiles, oh, for the love, get it, get it done, be able to look through it. Now, I will tell you the Hi, I will disagree with a decent amount like probably about 10% or more of their personality profile. And then I'll always say did you show it to your spouse? And they'll be like, Yes, I sure did. And I'll be like, what did your spouse say like? Well, they agreed with at all? Yes, of course, they did. Because it's true. And they experienced that with you daily.
So yes, it's okay to understand that that's true. It's okay to recognize those things about yourself, it's important to do so, you know, we talked about it all the time as the importance of personality styles, the importance of communication. If your team does not know how to communicate well together, then it's going to be the thing that holds all this back. If your team cannot lean in each other's directions and understand and communicate and set each other up for success, then it's going to be the thing that holds us back. So make sure you go to Crystal crystal.com/store and get the disk products, make sure you get at least to the disk, I highly suggest that disk plus that has the values, make sure that you watch the video with your team that is powerful. It's great. It's very funny. And it allows them to have great conversations afterwards and start leaning in each other's directions. So if you can, as a high I reflect on this, it's important for you. So think about this, what is the struggle high I that we lose worth when we feel rejected, that we lose worth when we feel attacked, that we lose worth when we feel ignored? Okay, well, what if we can come to understand why those things happen? Why they exist, it doesn't mean that any of those are good. But I think what you'll discover is the bulk of the time. It's not really in existence. You're not being attacked, you're not being rejected. You're not being ignored the bulk of it. I'm not saying it doesn't happen. There's some very immature other personality styles that do that. But the bulk of the time, it's the pain that we've experienced from those situations that cause us to believe it's going to happen, or it's happening right now.
So if you are going to grow, that's the first thing you have to have self awareness, you have to have time reflecting on it. You know, situations where you're right, it did happen, but also recognizing all the times that it actually didn't, but you believed that it did. Another thing you need to do is ask yourself, How can you communicate better for better results? When it comes to work when it comes to family, when it comes to community, whatever it is, what are some things that you can choose to adjust to make sure that you're setting other people up for success in communication? Also, one of the biggest things you need to recognize is, when is it time that we need to shift from social mode to task mode? Listen, there's times where you have to go from people to task, right? Even though the people are in the tasks, it doesn't mean that we get to socialize every aspect of this thing, right? Let's get to work. Let's get things done. Another important thing, please recognize you don't do well with details, do what it takes to solve that, do what it takes to make sure that you're covering your butt with the details, make sure that you don't just tell people you got it. You know, one of the biggest mistakes I can make as somebody who has led many S, is that they want to please me, and so they want to take as many things off of my plate as possible. And if I see No, I haven't done this in decades, because I learned it early on. But if I see that you're taking things off my plate, man, I want to give you more you keep asking for more, I'm gonna keep giving you more. But when you've overwhelmed yourself and things start to fail, guess who you're going to blame? Me? Well, you gave me all of these things, you'll throw me under the bus because you took on more than you can handle. And as a leader, I should have made sure that you didn't take on more than you can handle. It's important for you as a high to recognize your worth isn't in pleasing other people I know you believe it is. But it's just not a leader is going to be way way more pleased with you. If you accomplish a project with excellence, then if you do three projects in the same amount of time. And there's no excellence. Trust me on this, this is super important. On top of all of these things, what are suitable paths and job roles for hire as well? If it has people involved, it's probably a great place for them to be, if it has high levels of detail, I'm going to say it's probably not the best, I'm never gonna put a high eye over my accounting. It's just not not important. It's, it's just not the best decision for me to make because I need details and I need solid numbers doesn't mean that they can't do it doesn't mean that they can't have fun at it. But I guarantee at the end of the day, I don't want to be doing numbers. Same way every day, all day, five days a week, five years into it, they just don't want to do it. So take a look at places where they can utilize that energy, that enthusiasm.
With all of this, let me speak to how many leaders are frustrated because they don't have the time and tools like this to lead well. Your days get filled up with fires people drama with meetings that are simply a waste of time, and you never seem to get what's important. And what moves the business forward. Reading books and listening to podcasts aren't helping, and not much about your work life is changing for the better. The thing is, most leaders do not know how to implement what they've learned, assuming it was good information to start with. Now, this podcast is right. This is why we created the Next-Level Leadership Live Event. So if you feel frustrated or stuck about work these days, go to ChrisLoCurt.com/events. That's ChrisLoCurto.com/events. registration opens December 1 with $500 off every ticket you buy. But that's for a short time, here's the great thing, you're going to learn the lessons that we practice daily in our business, which are only taught at this event, or inside one of our coaching programs. On top of that, you're gonna have hours of workshop time to work these things out with access to our coaches right then in there. So go to ChrisLoCurto .com/events. Before this limited-time offer slips away, folks, I want you to remember that understanding and embracing each personality can lead to more harmonious relationships and more productive teams. You're empowering your team to handle conflicts more effectively. And obviously, nurture collaboration incredibly well in the environment in the work environment. So this is the important key, understand, be aware, and start implementing these aspects. Now. We would love to hear from you. We'd love to hear your stories and insights so please feel free to share them with us at podcast at ChrisLoCurto.com. Well, that's all the time we have for today. I hope this information has helped you out. I love you. Hi guys. I know there's a lot of negative in here, but don't forget all the positive, right? So just remember that as always take this information, change your leadership, change your business, change your life, and join us on the next episode
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