Codependency is often overlooked and misunderstood, so hang with me! It’s easy to think “I don’t struggle with that.”
In this week’s episode of The Chris LoCurto Show, we’re clarifying what codependency is, what it looks like and how to cancel it.
Some episode highlights include…
- Understanding Codependency: what is it exactly?
- Roles in Codependency: who’s the “dependent” and the “taker”
- Characteristics of Codependent People: what do they struggle with
- Manifestation of Codependency: how it shows up in behaviors and relationships
- Psychological and Emotional Factors: how it makes our brain unhealthy
- Effects on Personal Identity and Self-Worth: the power of how we view ourselves
- The Role of Faith: where God comes into play
Let’s dive into learning how to break free from codependency, create healthy boundaries, and take care of ourselves in our relationships and spiritual journey.
- Codependency and its impact on relationships. 0:00
- Chris LoCurto defines codependency as a relationship where one person is dependent on the other for help with an addiction or struggle, with the codependent person needing to be needed in the relationship.
- Codependency can manifest in various forms, such as the taker-giver dynamic, where the addicted person is the taker and the codependent person is the giver, with the codependent person needing to be needed in the relationship.
- Codependency is a struggle to understand one's own worth and value, often manifesting in enabling behaviors towards others.
- Codependent individuals feel the need to constantly check in with others' emotions and avoid conflict, as it brings painful results.
- Codependency and its psychological causes. 5:29
- Codependent relationships often involve lack of healthy boundaries and excessive empathy for the abuser.
- Chris LoCurto struggles with the idea of codependency being solely biological, while acknowledging the potential role of emotions and choices.
- Chris LoCurto believes codependency is psychological, stemming from childhood experiences and trained behaviors.
- Codependency and its psychological effects. 11:49
- Chris LoCurto recognizes psychological roots of codependency, prioritizes setting healthy boundaries.
- Chris LoCurto warns against misdiagnosing codependency, emphasizing the importance of identifying genuine symptoms and seeking help for legitimate situations.
- He highlights common symptoms of codependency, including fear of abandonment, apologizing for others' actions, and a need for constant validation, and encourages listeners to address these issues in their lives.
- Codependency and its signs in relationships. 17:29
- Codependency often involves a fear of abandonment and lack of personal identity, with individuals prioritizing others' worth over their own.
- Chris LoCurto highlights the signs of codependency in a relationship, including putting others on pedestals and neglecting one's own needs.
- He notes that personality styles such as high I and high S can be more prone to codependency, particularly those who struggle with people-pleasing and setting healthy boundaries.
- Toxic relationships and self-awareness. 22:55
- Toxic codependency arises when selfless sacrifices are made for someone who doesn't reciprocate.
- Anxiety and guilt are immense for codependent individuals, with a lifetime of shame and guilt ingrained through conditioning.
- Chris LoCurto: Loss of self, authenticity, and identity recovery requires self-awareness and introspection.
- Self-awareness and worthiness in Christian context. 28:30
- Self-awareness is key to personal growth, but many struggle with it due to past teachings or beliefs.
- Clarity on personal struggles and emotions is key to change.
- God values and loves women equally, despite societal norms.
- Codependency, boundaries, and self-awareness. 35:14
- Chris LoCurto emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in personal relationships.
- Find a coach or guide to help you overcome codependency and set healthy boundaries.
- Chris LoCurto emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and prioritizing well-being in personal relationships and spiritual growth.
Grace and peace,