Every time I do a LifePlan, I spend several hours going over the major turns in each participants life. Major turns are key events from your past that help you gain perspective on where you’re at and where you’re going. It’s literally a process of sharing the major changes from your life, like moving as a kid or marriage, loss, accepting Christ, etc. It doesn’t have to be something big, heavy and deep but it very well could be.
Typically, we get around 10 to 15 major turns or changes in each LifePlan. Of course this depends on age and experience too. Some people have 10, others have 18. There’s no right or wrong number but a major turn isn’t just a continuation of an event, it’s something that actually changed the direction of your life.
Here’s what I want you to do:
Think back as far as you possibly can and start writing down the major turns in your life. You’re not doing this to re-live stuff or make monsters or victims. It’s about understanding and gaining perspective. Once you’ve written down every major turn up until now, write down what the impact was in your life on every major turn. How did it affect you? Here’s an example from my life:
- Discovering I wouldn’t make the Olympic team – I was shooting for the ’88 Olympics and sponsorships were not allowed. When I discovered that my family couldn’t afford it, I was devastated. Skiing in the Olympics was my biggest dream and goal. I was so angry that I stopped skiing. I started hanging out with an unsavory crowd. I convinced myself not to dream or shoot for anything big because I could get my heart broken. It impacted me by starting a decision making process that messed me up for 10 years. I didn’t want to stick my neck out, hope or dream.
Thankfully, after 10 years, I realized what I was doing to myself by giving up on something I loved. I immediately booked a trip to the mountains, rented skis and raced. I’ve been doing that just about every year since. It’s a love of mine. It’s energizing. I finally realized that I made a decision that didn’t just have to do with skiing. Every time I went to make a big decision, I choose not to do anything I could get hurt over.
I began of process of running every major decision through the filter of “Is this going to let me down?” If so, I’m not going to do it.
I had to change force of habit thinking. When we make decisions based on habits of the past, we loose out on some of the great moments or greatest changes in our lives. We do it because we don’t truly understand the perspective of our past. I didn’t have to look back and be mad or make monsters or victims. I simply had to ask, “How did that impact me?” As I understood that, I realized I’d put a decision making process in place that would affect me for 10 years. To this day, it’s something I have to rule out as a part of my process.
That’s why I want you to do this. Take time this week, schedule it in, and go through your major turns. If you want to dig deeper into gaining perspective on your life, check out LifePlan by inquiring on the page & we will reach out to you with additional information.
Question: How has understanding the past changed your future?