No, You Can’t Have That!

No, You Can’t Have That!

Image by celine nadeau via Flickr

I……am a control freak, when it comes to doing the finances at home. But I have a really good excuse for it! 😉 It comes from a bad situation I was in where I lost everything I had due to trusting someone else with my money. I was young and ignorant…and trusting, and it cost me years of heartache. And because of that, I have had this….thing, where I have to be in control of the finances, knowing where every penny is at all times. That’s not bad is it?

The problem came in when I got married. Now we had two people who did the finances, but one wouldn’t give it up. (If you’re still with me, you know which of us that was.) This became a point of contention because she liked doing the finances. But we were able to come to an agreement. I would do the finances as long as we had two things: a budget committee meeting, and I would bring to that meeting a print out summary of the finances/investments/bank statements, that way she could see exactly where everything was, and have a really good feel for where we were going.

Now, the later of the two is pretty self-explanatory. But if you don’t know what a budget committee meeting is, it’s when the one spouse prepares the budget before the next month begins and presents it to the other spouse. This gives the other spouse the opportunity to inspect it to see if it lines up with what was previously discussed, as well as give input on things left out. I.e., their mother’s birthday is that month and they’ll need to buy a present. There will be a field trip for the kids at school that will cost money. This may mean that some things need to be adjusted if the suggestions add more mullah than is available. If you’re budget is already tight, you might have to not go out to dinner to pay for your mother-in-law’s Snuggie.

Most importantly, you have to come together at the end of each month and plan what’s going to happen next month. It’s called being grownups. And, if one of you is a control freak in the area of finances, this give your spouse the comfort of knowing that everything is in place and is all right.


Stop going through your day at 50%. It's time to give your life what it really needs. Learn the ins and outs of how to live a more successful life by learning how to become the best version of YOU! 


Schedule a FREE call today to find out more about how you can achieve your Next-Level Life! 


What if you could live with greater purpose and happiness? With the help of Chris LoCurto, you can begin that journey. Our Next-Level Life Event is a two day, one-on-one experience, where you will find greater peace of mind, get answers to what holds you back, find emotional freedom, and learn to organize and balance around the life mission God has for you. It's literally a process of discovery.

Check Our Podcast


Are you getting the ROI you want for your life? Are the dividends great or just ok? Start making investments in yourself and see the results. Sign up for our weekly insights that guide you to success.

Posted in ,

Meet Chris LoCurto


Chris has a heart for changing lives by helping people discover the life and business they really want.

Decades of personal and leadership development experience, as well as running multi-million dollar businesses, has made him an expert in life and business coaching. personality types, and communication styles.

Growing up in a small logging town near Lake Tahoe, California, Chris learned a strong work ethic at home from his full-time working mom. He began his leadership and training career in the corporate world, starting but at E'TRADE.

1 thought on “No, You Can’t Have That!”

  1. I’m a lot like that. I’m “young” but have always been scared of letting other people handle or have anything to do with my money. I’ve worked so hard on saving up everything I have and am protective of it.
    I’m glad you posted this, because I’ve met a wonderful, Christian, man that I’ve been dating for quite a while. It’s gotten me to thinking about, a few years from now of course, marriage. It’s going to be a struggle letting him help with the money. But I really like the solution you posted 🙂 thank you and God bless!

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *