8 Negative People You Should Avoid – The Final 4 Types
On this episode of The Chris LoCurto Show, we’re continuing to discuss the importance of avoiding negative people and we unpack the final 4 types.
It’s so important to understand that this episode isn’t about judging people because everyone has things in their life, and in their Root System that causes them to see the world in a negative way… we all struggle.
You may even see parts of yourself in these 8 negative people.
If you’ve not listened to Part 1, 8 Negative People You Should Avoid, go listen to it. Trust me, it will help you.
Here Are The Final 4 Negative People You Should Avoid:
Here are the final 4 types of negative people:
The Impossible To Please.
They’re impossible to please. You can do 100 different things, different ways, have tons of “attaboys” from people around you that think that what you’ve done is incredible and this person’s just going to think, “Meh, why do you think that you’re so great?”
Now when you get healthier and you actually get your worth from the right place and you learn what tools and all that kind of fun stuff, that’s stuff that just rolls off your back.
But until then, you need to put in some healthy boundaries.
This is the, “I really need you to help me with…” type of person. They do a great job discovering who around them can get things done for them. If you push back, then they will push harder to make you feel guilty.
If somebody is trying to manipulate you in any situation, doesn’t matter what it is, that’s not somebody who’s caring about you. They care about themselves and they try to hurt you in a situation so that they gain from it.
It is vitally important to the judge to look good, so much so that they will do what they can to make you look less than or insignificant compared to them. No matter what you’ve done, they’ve done it better.
The last person is… the Self Critic.
This is probably the worst negative person of all. This is the person inside of you who believes the lies that you were told and has a tendency to tell quite a few lies to you as well.
This negative person must be avoided at all costs. The self critic is the one who believes many lies, and the self critic is the one who tells themselves the lies.
You must avoid this as much as you possibly can. Now, it’s very, very difficult to do. You need to understand why you believe the lies.
Every person who comes through Next-Level Life has a long list of them that they didn’t even realize.
You may tell yourself…
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’ll never be smart enough, attractive enough, or good enough to be at a higher level in my business.”
“I’ll always have to prove myself.”
I’ll never be good enough for a great relationship.”
“I’ll never be worthy to this family member, all the people in my family, or my friends.”
It’s essential to discover where these lies come from in your Root System… what, why, when, and how did all this stuff come about?
All of those things that you tell yourself… all of those lies you tell yourself… those are absolutely self-destructive.
The self critic is the most self-destructive person, because it is you. You can damage you like nobody else can.
The toughest part…
The tough part is putting distance between you and the self critic. You gotta kick that guy or gal to the curb.
The only way you can do that is to discover the truths.
As we talk about through Next-Level Life, the truths are rarely ever the opposite of the lie.
The lie is based on things that are directly correlated to your Root System that we have to discover.
Until you discover those truths, until you discover why you’re lying to yourself or what the lies are, or you know what the surface-level responses are, it’s going to be very difficult for you to get away from negative people like we’ve been discussing.
Most people have aspects of 8 all types of negative people until we get healthier. So if you’re one of the eight, then guess what? You don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing yet.
If you’re somebody being affected by any of the eight, you need to check out Next-Level Life, it’s just that important. It will change the way you see life, period.
It will give you tools to help you to get through life much better than you’ve ever experienced.
Set healthy boundaries and remove the authority that negative people have in your life. Do not let them set your reality. Do not let them tell you how horrible you are.
Come discover the truth about yourself
Boundaries (Excellent book!)