8 Negative People You Should Avoid
The Final Four
On this episode of The Chris LoCurto Show, we’re talking about how to avoid negative people. Everybody has something in their life, and in their Root System that causes them to see the world in a negative way… we all struggle. You may even see parts of yourself in these 8 negative people.
If you’ve not listened to Part 1, 8 Negative People You Should Avoid, go listen to it. Trust me, it will help you.
Here Are The Final 4 Negative People You Should Avoid:
More On How To Avoid Negative People…
The Impossible To Please.
They’re impossible to please. You can do 100 different things, different ways, have tons of attaboys from people around you that think that what you’ve done is incredible and this person’s just going to think, “Meh, you, why do you think that you’re so great?”
Now when you get healthier and you actually get your worth from the right place and you learn what tools and all that kind of fun stuff, that’s stuff that just rolls off your back.
But until then, when, you know, again, like we say, we need to put in some healthy boundaries.
The Manipulator.
This is the, “I really need you to help me with…” type of person.They do a great job discovering who around them can get things done for them. If you push back, then they will push harder to make you feel guilty. If somebody is trying to manipulate you in any situation, doesn’t matter what it is, that’s not somebody who’s caring about you, that somebody is caring about themselves and choosing to try and hurt you in a situation so that they gain from it.
The Judge.
It is vitally important to the judge to look good, so much so that they will do what they can to make you look less than or insignificant compared to them. No matter what you’ve done, they’ve done it better.
The last person is… the Self Critic.
This is probably the worst negative person of all. This is the person inside of you who believes the lies that you were told and has a tendency to tell quite a few lies to you as well. This negative person must be avoided at all costs. It is the one who always tells you, and a lot of the lies may have come from the previous seven people. If you had any of the seven negative that the characteristics that we talked about, then there’s a good chance that they convinced you or highly suggested, that you believe lies about you, but the self critic is the one who believes the lies and the self critic is the one who tells themselves the lies.
You must avoid this as much as you possibly can. Now, it’s very, very difficult to do. You need to understand why you believe the lies. You need to understand what we call surface level responses. Every person who comes through Next-Level Life has a long list of them that they didn’t even realize. They have Root Systems that we discover… what, why, when, and how did all this stuff come about?
“I’m not good enough; I’ll never be smart enough. Attractive enough. Good enough to be at a higher level in my business.
I’ll always have to prove myself to so and so.
I’ll never be good enough for a great relationship, I’ll never be worthy to this person, this family member, all the people in my family, my friends.”
All of those things that you tell yourself… all of those lies you tell yourself… those are absolutely self-destructive.
The self critic is the most damaging person to you of all, because it is you. You can damage you like nobody else can.
The toughest part…
The tough part is putting distance between you and the self critic. You gotta kick that guy or gal to the curb.
The only way you can do that is to discover the truths. As we talk about through Next-Level Life, the truths are rarely ever the opposite of the lie. The lie is based on things that are directly correlated to your Root System that we have to discover. Until you discover those truths, until you discover why you’re lying to yourself or what the lies are, or you know what the surface level responses are, it’s going to be very difficult for you to get away from negative people like this,
So if you’re one of any of the eight …and we all are. We all have aspects of all of this until we get healthier, right? So if you’re one of the eight, then guess what? You don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing.
Take Action!
If you’re somebody being affected by any of the eight, get your butt here because you need the Next-Level Life, it’s just that important. It will change the way you see life, period. It will give you tools to help you to get through life way better than you’ve ever experienced. Set healthy boundaries and remove the authority that negative people have in your life. Do not let them set your reality. Do not let them tell you how horrible you are.
Come discover the truth about yourself.
Resources:
Boundaries (Excellent book!)
10 Warning Signs of Toxic People
Understanding Your Root System
