Stop the Madness: Declare a No-Complaining Zone

I always find it interesting when people complain about others, and then do the same exact thing. After I was saved, I read through the Bible for a year. For the first time, I understood some of it. Before that, it was just Greek to me.

As I went through Exodus, I found myself saying to God, Dude, what was up with your people? Look at them complaining in the wilderness about a lack of food and saying at least there were pots of meat back in captivity. True, there were pots of meat…BUT THEY WERE SLAVES, those dorks! Geez God, what’s up with them?

That’s about the time I felt God saying to me, You do the same thing, only with different issues. You’re no different. Oh crud! I do, don’t I? That was a turning point for me. I started trying to apply the scripture of Matthew 7:3-5

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Sometimes in leadership, or just plain life, we find it very easy to complain about other people. I can’t believe so and so isn’t getting that stuff done! Then, when you ask that person to do something, it’s always, Oh, I don’t have time to do that. How about when someone complains about another person not having a good system for running things? If it’s that bad, why haven’t you come up with a better plan?

I have a friend who every once in a while complains about the people she works with. The funny thing is that I’ve seen her do the same exact stuff for years. I gently remind her of a similar situation when she acted the same, and she looks at me like I’m crazy. Oh well.

We might not be able to fix all of those around us, but we certainly can start with the plank in our own eyes. Before you start to complain about someone else, ask yourself if you do the same thing. In fact, how about just not complaining at all? It will make your day a lot better.

Question: Do you find yourself slipping into the easy habit of complaining?

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Chris has a heart for changing lives by helping people discover the life and business they really want.

Decades of personal and leadership development experience, as well as running multi-million dollar businesses, has made him an expert in life and business coaching. personality types, and communication styles.

Growing up in a small logging town near Lake Tahoe, California, Chris learned a strong work ethic at home from his full-time working mom. He began his leadership and training career in the corporate world, starting but at E'TRADE.

23 thoughts on “Stop the Madness: Declare a No-Complaining Zone”

  1. The articulation by a complainer has always bothered me no matter the level of the person involved. Leaders, peers, or other team members. And I do hear it at all levels.

    One thing I do think many leaders need to take caution of is when they brush aside legitimate observations as petty complaints and even demonize those who have the “audacity” articulate them.

    There are the 2% critics who are crazies. Then there are people who articulate legitimate observations that are real but deemed pesky or to address the observations require them to modify what appears to be a successful path.

    1. If these are being brought to a leader/supervisor, they are not complaints, but rather observations. To me, a “complaint” goes amongst peers (or to anyone else who is not in a position to do something about it).

      As Chris said, a leader who takes criticism and then demonizes the one who gave it is, himself, nothing but a complainer.

      Also, keep in mind that many complaints sound very intelligent and articulate. If, however, they are shared among those who cannot affect an outcome, they are still merely complaints.

  2. It’s certainly easy to be a complainer in this society. It’s easier to be complainer then to be a problem solver. I’ve been trying to work on this issue in my life on a personal level. I would rather develop a heart of gratitude over being a complainer.

    1. You’re most likely a high detail person. With that, you tend see things some people can’t. And if you’re sounding like a complainer, it’s probably because you’re hitting the issue and not the solution to someone who’s not a patient person. If all of this sounds correct, try going to that person with a concern that you have a solution to. When you do that, they will begin to love you for it. Or at least like you more. 🙂

  3. Confession…….i do complain sometimes, not all the times, just a tiny, tiny bit sometimes, okay once or twice:), but it’s so much easier to complain than to try and fix whatever the issue is, and it feels so good to be getting it off my chest since a “problem” solved is a problem halved (or something like that) and “explaining” how unfair the individual is, and it’s an easy subject to get into (nobody will accuse me of not making conversation…….you get the drift.

    We come up with all kinds of excuses, but what i’ve learnt is to ask the complainer (Even if it’s me – harsh but stops me in my tracks) the following questions:-
    1) What have you achieved in the past by complaining? (Especially for repeat offenders).
    2) What’s the goal of the complaint? What’s the expected outcome?
    3) If it just to pass time – my answer is ‘go read a book’ or do something else with your life.

    If it’s really a genuine issue go address it with the individual in question, and move on. Kind of harsh, but works, expecially since complaining can and does lead to gossip in the workplace, which i want no part of.

  4. True Chris! The word of God repetitively reminds us of the dangers of complaining, murmuring and complaining:

    (1 Peter 2:1) “rid yourselves of all ……slander of every kind.”
    (James 4:11) “Brothers, do not slander one another.”
    (Colossians 3:8 ) “now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: …..slander, and filthy language from your lips. ”

    It is very tempting to gossip and complain about others. But, we need to control our tongues wisely.

  5. And the answer to your question is “YES, YES, YES” – sometimes I can get into that evil mode of “complaining” – not good! And to tell the truth, when I do – I know almost instantly that I should stop – shut up – physically clamp my hand over my mouth.

    The scripture (Matt. 7:3-5) you reference is a good one for me to print out – keep handy and refer to often. Thanks for reminding me, Chris (and Holy Spirit!)

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