We are all the sum of what’s happened in the past and the influence we’ve allowed in, and that’s what is called the Root System.
Your life choices, and your decision-making process comes from your Root System.
On the episode of The Chris LoCurto Show, What You Have In Common With Wine, I discussed the root system of grapes, and how a strong root system makes a great wine.
In Next-Level Life, I spend hours tying what’s happened in a person’s life to their Root System – what’s happened in their past and the influence they’ve allowed in from influencers (family, leadership, friends, etc.) to discover how and why they make decisions the way they do today.
When you understand why you make the decisions like you do, you can learn to make better decisions going forward in life.
You are the sum of your past & your influences.
Boiling it all down, so much of what we do today comes from modeling and training from key influencers like parents.
The way your parents treated you links back to the way their parents treated them, and cycles into how you treat your children or family or team today.
If abuse is in your background, either emotional or physical, a pattern forms. Chances are, if you were abused, you’ll pendulum swing to your children, and won’t discipline or will allow your children to control you. This only perpetuates a negative cycle in your family.
Healthy boundaries and healthy control are the key. Finding that center is one of the most important things you can discover.
Even the best parents (with the best intentions) might do something that came from their parents that causes bad self-perception or decision-making in you.
They might say one specific thing over and over to their child, expecting and hoping that it helps their kid to grow up well or understand, but the way they said it creates bad self-perception or decision-making in the child.
How crazy is that?
When we carry over the bad processes or belief systems, we perpetuate the same Root System into our children.
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