What does it mean to be emotionally strong?
It means other peoples actions can’t tear you down, impact you negatively, or stress you out.
It means you don’t have problems making decisions and you’re content with life.
It means you’re happy and everything in your world is going well.
Even if there are struggles or problems, you’re able to get through decision-making processes and be strong.
Here are 10 Signs That You’re Not Emotionally Strong.
- If you’re believing the lies people tell you or have told you. If you’re acknowledging the voices that tell you you’re not good enough, whether internal or external, your emotional strength is being attacked. God loves you exactly where you are, He just doesn’t want to keep you there, he wants to make you better. If you’re in the worst time of your life, God loves you, and you’re good enough. Check out this past podcast that dives into the lies we believe – http://chrislocurto.com/the-lies-we-believe-podcast/
- If you’re self-sabotaging. Self-sabotage not only interferes with your goals but makes you your own worst enemy. Sometimes it occurs because of a lack of self-worth or because you’re believing the lies you’re telling yourself or have been told.
- If you’re codependent. Codependency happens when you’re relying on another relationship and that relationship becomes more important than you as an individual. If you’re focusing on taking care of someone in a way that puts you second, you’re codependent. Low self-esteem makes you believe you’re not good enough so you focus on someone else to make them great. They may not even want that attention. In some instances, it becomes manipulation from the person receiving your attention.
- If stress is destroying you emotionally, physically, or spiritually. If you’re down or not creative or not wanting to move forward, you’ve got to get to the root of the stress. What’s causing you to not sleep or feel overwhelmed?
- If you’re not living life and doing what you want. When you’re struggling with emotional strength, your life is not your own. You don’t take trips or take risks. You’re not living life to the fullest. What’s holding you back? What’s keeping you from living your life?
- If you always have to be right. If you’re the type of person who can’t take constructive criticism and insists on being right (even when you’re wrong), this is a place where you’re lacking emotional strength. When someone is leading or guiding you and you’re reply to their advice is “I’ve already done that, tried that, I already know that, etc”, start listening. Evaluate what they’re telling you and ask yourself if they’re trying to help or hurt you with the advice or criticism. If their goal is to tear you down, get them out of your life. If their goal is to help you, listen. Don’t get defensive because you’re struggling or have fear.
- If you’re in denial. If you’re not able to look at yourself and see the areas you’re struggling in, you’re probably in denial. What are you doing wrong? When I realized I wasn’t giving quality communication, I had to be honest with myself and admit it was an area I struggle in. Be honest with YOU!
- If you’re always wanting attention. If you’re always needing to capture someones attention or promising more than you can deliver, you’re probably struggling with proving your value to others. If your focus is getting attention because it means you are important, stop.
- If you’re being a victim. Victim thinking comes in a few forms – either the world is against you or you truly believe everything is your fault. Either side is a sign that emotionally you’re not healthy. You need to be truthful about situations. Being a victim does nothing but destroy you.
- If you’re unable to love or be loved. When you’re unable to love others because people have hurt you, you’re living in fear. You’re unable to put in solid and healthy, emotional boundaries. You have to have boundaries, not walls, that keep people who take advantage of you at a distance. Walls isolate you. Boundaries is a great book (one that I talk about all the time) that goes very in-depth on this issue. When you can’t love yourself and take care of you, no matter what, God never stops loving you. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done, it’s called grace.
If you’re struggling with any of these, it doesn’t have to be that way. I encourage you to check out Next-Level Life, and contact us today to get more information about this life-changing process.