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Chris has a heart for changing lives by helping people discover the life and business they really want.
Decades of personal and leadership development experience, as well as running multi-million dollar businesses, has made him an expert in life and business coaching. personality types, and communication styles.
Growing up in a small logging town near Lake Tahoe, California, Chris learned a strong work ethic at home from his full-time working mom. He began his leadership and training career in the corporate world, starting but at E'TRADE.
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Good morning Chris! I have a challenge with trying to understand a personality style of a colleague who acts one with everyone (upbeat and nice) and another way with me (dismissive) it’s been this way since I started and I just don’t know how to break through. I’ve had a conversation with him to ask what I have done to make him act that way, but the answer back is everything is fine. He talks negatively about me to my the colleagues, it’s very much like high school and I am at a complete loss. I’ve never had to deal with this to this degree before. I wish I could ignore it but I have to work with him on the projects I have. Thank you for any advice.
Hi Chris. Thanks for the podcast. From your teaching, our team is reading “Good to Great” by Jim Collins. We’re exploring questions like the following:
1) What are our collective strengths?
2) What are we collectively passionate about?
3) What services are demanded by the market that utilize our strengths and passion?
Please know we appreciate you, your team and your teaching.
I had a quick question regarding personality styles. My wife is a college professor. We enjoy teaming up to support professional educators. Do you feel that the teaching of the DISC profile can help professional educators in high school or college?
I really enjoy the EntreLeadership “One Day” events and your podcasts. How does the DISC profile influence the way you plan your communication and interaction during a “face to face” event? How does it influence your presentation on video or podcasts?
I think your answers will be really helpful to teachers who are flipping their classroom or teaching online.
Thanks for all you do!
Chris, I’d love to hear your thoughts about individuals dealing with “opposite” or “challenging” personality style conflicts that difficult to change. How this might look with the DiSC profile: the high “C” employee who has a high “I” boss, or the “S” spouse with the “D” spouse.
In both cases the C or the S have to navigate an uphill situation.
John: Chris LoCurto may or may not agree based on his experience and expertise, but in my experience there could be a maturation effect on a personality as life experiences happen over time. A person may adjust a tad here and there as life plays out and how it plays out. Someone may become more pronounced in one area and less in another. But for the most part, the change wouldn’t be a large change unless it was over an extremely long period of time.
For a major change, I believe there needs to be a significant emotional event to happen. Something that touches the core of the person and from that something new regarding personality emerges.
Thanks for your reply CJ – I think I was not as clear as I could have been with my question.
When I said “difficult to change,” I was referring to the relationship, as in: I’m not going to change my wife for a new wife, but our personalities are naturally challenging. Or I’m not going to leave my job, but my boss’s personality type is opposite and expects me to be more like him/her.
My questions is more about how the individual can best adapt to other, differing styles’ expectations…especially those who do not have a firm grasp on the value of self awareness.
Jon, I may be able to help a little. I recently coached someone on her relationship with her fiance. She’s a high D and he’s a high S. There communication was really bad and it was causing serious problems that were clearly jeopardizing their future. I got them both to take the DISC and it’s changed everything because they both now UNDERSTAND the other better. When you understand where the other person is coming from and how they’re wired, it leads to higher levels of quality communication and you become more patient with each other. This helps you work through situations better. Hope this helps.
Sure does Joel, thanks for your response. Thankfully, I am not personally in this arrangement, but I do hear about it a lot!
I love this Chris! We just need to be present when we cross paths with others. Sometimes, the best thing we can do to serve people, is by offering a little gratitude or encouragement.
Can a “personality style” change or is some one always stuck with it. I ask this because I suggested to my director we should redo Strength finders again because its been fours since we last did it. And his thoughts were, personalities don’t change, and how course I think they can improve. Would love to hear your thoughts on that! Thanks again for great content!
Chris, We have a small creative team at a non-profit and are ready to invest in building it. What is your recommendation on how to factor personality style profiles into our hiring process? None of us have taken one, do you have a service (paid or free) that you recommend using to have our current team take before we look to add team members? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Brian
What types of things can a leader do about people who discover their personality type, and then begin to use it as a crutch or an excuse for inappropriate behaviors?
I do believe you can love what you do in your journey to doing what you love. For some people, paying the bills come first. Having said that, I’d say it’s not the world’s fault if you’re stuck in a toxic situation. How many times have we complained about poor customer service at a restaurant or an airline? I have a great example of someone who absolutely loves what he does. I’ve shared it many times before. He is the conductor on the commuter train I ride to work. This guy writes poems to announce the train stops, he raps and wears a cowboy hat on Fridays, he announces birthdays on the PA, he knows his passengers by name, he holds doors open for everyone, I could go on and on. How much fun can it be to walk up and down a train, announce stops and check people’s tickets? Vince loves who he serves and loves what he does.
Personality styles question:
I understand the dominant styles and I have been successful in communicating better with people around me since I learned about DISC. However, I find the “immature” versions of the styles very hard to deal with, specifically the high C. What do you recommend to better relate with this person in a business setting?
Chris, I’ve learned first hand that personalty styles are vital to good communication. What resources do you recommend for someone who is looking to grow and mature in this area? Thanks!
Hi, Chris! For your podcast on personality styles, when you are a business of ONE, how do you create balance for yourself? I’m big on I and S, not so much D or C. I am currently looking for an accountability partner for myself/my business to help keep me more goal driven. Any other suggestions? Thanks!
Chris, as a leader in a collaborative environment (a worship team), what are some ways to identify personality types of the team members? How do you create an environment where those personality preferences that comprise your team collaborate well?
I would like to learn to asses personality styles. So tips on how to do that would be great. Maybe a question or 2 that would prompt responses that might indicated personality?
Oh I understand them alright. I teach on the subject myself and if I am around a person long enough I can pick up on which of the the 4 is their primary and secondary personality style. The only challenge that drives me crazy is those high S and C types. I am a high I and D and those analytical over thinkers are the type I need to learn to be patient with as far as helping them along in life. My wife is a S/C and I have a team member in my ministry that is both S/C types. Learning how to work with there “This idea here might not work” mentality is tough. I’m a goal setter, expressive, let’s do this and party while we get this thing done over hear type of guy. Sometimes I got to stop, slow down, or back up to go get the routine freaks! How do you deal with that? lol! My wife I have no choice, but with others, that’s where the issue comes up.