467 | What Does Your Best Life Look Like?

Chris LoCurto 0:00
You're familiar with the concept of living your best life, right? Well, what does that even mean? And what does that look like for you? That is coming up next?

Welcome to the Chris LoCurto show where we discuss leadership and life and discover that business is what you do, not who you are. Welcome to the show, folks, I hope you're having a fabulous day, wherever you are. On today's show, we're talking about your best life, the life you are meant to live that life that's waiting for you to uncover and discover that life that you haven't had time for yet. Now, caveat, as we go into this whole episode, please understand that this is not some crazy hope message that's meant to get you super excited, and everything is just going to fall in place for you, right? That's pretty much how we see a lot of messages out there. Like think about this, have you ever had that thought, oh, gosh, this, this thing I'm about to do, this is going to make all the difference, you know, whether it's, it's going to transform my life, it's going to make me a better person, it's going to help me to overcome obstacles, addictions, that's how marketing works, right? That our product or service is going to improve your life, it's going to improve you etc. And when we hear stuff like that, if the marketing works really well, then it kicks something inside of us, that causes us to think I probably am not living my best life.

So maybe it's the new book that I've picked up that's going to help out or, or the seminar or conference that I went to that's going to change my life and make it my best life or, or the relationship that I feel really lucky to have, that's definitely going to now I'm going to be worthy and everything's going to be great. Or man, if I just have the right surgery that's gonna make me look and feel better. That's, that's going to change my life or, or if I get the right car that helps me feel like I'm in control. And everybody is just, you know, admiring me at the stoplight. Here's the problem. At its core, what we want is a real, authentic, unstuck, life that's lived to its fullest potential. Let me say that again. At its core, what we really, really want is a real, authentic unstuck life, that we live to the fullest. Think about it. Now, what you may be experiencing right now may not be exactly that. Maybe right now what you're experiencing is that you are trying to gain worth in one of those areas of your life. convincing yourself if you just get worthy from this relationship, if you just get worthy. If you feel worth from a new car, a surgery a you know, whatever it is, that's going to finally make you worthy. The problem is, it's not the thing that makes your life lived to the fullest is it? So, as we go through this episode, my caveat is this. It is my belief that seeking man in seeking worth in man is never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever going to cause you to live this real, authentic unstuck life to the fullest. What we'll do it? Well, I'm gonna tell you on the front side. And so if you're a believer, this is going to be great for you. If you're not a believer, then believe it or not the stuff I teach you is still going to help you out very much. So it is my belief that it is your job to seek God's will for your life. What is the purpose that He has for you? And we'll get into some pieces as we go along. But what is the purpose that He has for you? If you are fulfilling that, and you are doing it in the right ways, with the right tools with the right mindset. Now you're living a real authentic and unstuck life. Up next. What does your best life look like and how to start actualizing right up to this freedom.

Unknown Speaker 4:28
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Speaker 2 4:32
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Unknown Speaker 4:49
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Speaker 2 4:55
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Chris LoCurto 5:03
I want you to ask yourself a question. Could you hear the sense of hope and freedom and their voice is just that, I want you to know, that could be you. Look, it's easy to get trapped in old habits, negative thought patterns and unhealthy relationships, it's gonna take some work. But yes, there is hope for you. If you want to experience the same kind of life transformation, this same kind of self awareness and freedom that they have, or maybe you're just curious what the process would look like for you, then head on over to Chrislocurto.com/nextlevellife.

In The War of Art, the book War of Art, Steven Pressfield writes, "most of us have two lives, the life we live, and the unlived life within us that unlived life is your best life that's waiting for you". So what if you could paint a picture of what that unlived life looks like? What would it look like? What are those things that you would want to see what if you could see the you that you were meant to be? What if you had a picture or a mirror that reflected a detailed image of that better person? What would that person look like? Would they have fewer defects? Would they have fewer distractions? Will they have fewer deficits, fewer hang ups, fewer obstacles that they have to overcome? What they have fewer anchors to the past, things that are holding them back. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to visualize for a moment, what you would look like, if you are that better version of you. Because the truth is, it's absolutely possible. Again, please, please hear me, you've followed me for any decent amount of time, you know that the stuff we teach is not about hype. It's not about hyping people up it's not about a magic pill, the stuff we teach, it's tough, the stuff we teach is difficult. So if you want a better version of you, guess what? It's gonna take some, it's gonna take some work, what's the first thing you have to do? You have to take a look at what needs to change in your life. So use your God given imagination, every one of us has this imagination to inform your present actions, right? The present actions of your future reality. So let me say that another way.

Use your imagination of what it's going to take to discover what's currently holding you back from being the person that you want to be. Imagine that you without the things that keep tripping you up. The things that keep causing problems, the things that keep creating issues that you have to overcome. Imagine you without those things, take account make a plan. What does it look like? begin plotting a course to your future you by using the things that you see in yourself that need to change today? Folks, nobody listening to this show is going there's nothing holding me back in life. Right? In fact, most people right now, if I, if I assume correctly, are saying yeah, it's all me that's holding me back. Great, what specific things? What do you need to do to stop putting off the changes that overcome those things? What do you need to do to get the help that you need so that you get the right tools? What do you need to do to gain great perspective? Not just have your own perspective? Just your perspective? Let me say it that way, or the perspective of people who probably aren't healthy? What would it take to get healthy perspective of things that you need to change? This is a great start. This is where you want to begin. But living a great life is more than just overcoming faults and flaws. There's so much more to it right? But let's start by saying, if this is a better version of me, and here's where I am right now, what are the things in my life right now that are holding me back? Is it bad relationships? Is it fear of adjusting things that I need to adjust? Is it fear of leaving an unhealthy environment? Is it fear of leaving unhealthy relationships? Is it whatever it is? Is it my decision to continuously self sabotage myself? Whatever those things are, take a look at where you currently are. And ask yourself what needs to change to become that vision that I see of me, that's a better version of me.

Number two. You have to ask yourself the question, How has God made you use your specific wiring to unravel what God intended when He created you. So once we start uncovering the things that are keeping us stuck in life, we've got to examine our uniqueness. So here's the key thought here, the more you uncover and understand you, and I'm talking about really digging in, really diving in, really taking a hard look inside of yourself and saying, Who am I, the more you'll be able to actualize your purpose.

If you're a believer, and you're looking inside, and you're seeing the God that is in you than the more, you will be able to identify your true identity, which is not in you, it's not in the self, it's not in the ego, it's in him, the more that the unlived life inside of you will start to be revealed, who can you be, if you can see who God created you to be, then you can start actualizing those very things. So here's the deal, every single one of us is unique, right? God made us all different. So I may not know your unique story. But here's what I do know. I do know that you have a God who has a plan and a purpose for you. I do know that inside of you, with the very authentic, real unstuck version of you, is somebody who has purpose. I know that if we clear away the things holding you back and discover the true authentic you, not these magic pills that are out there, not these, you just gotta believe, and you just gotta hope messages. I'm saying digging in and seeing how God wired you, then we find a reason for your life, our reason for living, when we can get to those authentic pieces, when we can discover how God has created us. And again, there's a lot of tools to this. But I want you to work on it. I want you to try to get to that place. Who am I? Who am I authentically if I was unstuck, what would I look like? If we can do those things? Then we can start walking in those ways. What's the biggest fear? What do we discover next level life all the time as we begin the process. Most people are not walking out the true life that God called for them the true way that God made them because of their fear of you probably just said it, man. Their fear of man's opinion, their fear of people, their fear of how people are going to respond, the fear of people if they're going to put in healthy boundaries, make decisions that are numb, please do not hear me say this. I'm in no way saying you should operate in victim mentality that's just going to self sabotage the daylights out of you. I am in no way saying you should go be selfish. That is not what this message is. Because if you discover how God made you and how God wired you believe it or not, not a single person has been made by God wired by God to be selfish and self centered. We are not to focus on us, right? What we find is our purpose of fulfilling the purpose that he's created. He's already put a whole bunch of stuff in us, that wires us in specific ways for us to go execute the very purpose he put in us. There is no doubt I'm a teacher. There is no doubt as I teach everything that we do here as I teach the Bible as I teach, just in helping people in, in marriage counseling and whatever else. There's no doubt that God wired me up to teach. Well, the question is, and praise God, he showed me this in my mid 20s, am I going to make my teaching about me? Or am I going to make my teaching about him? If it's about me, it will always be to draw people to me. If it's about him, it's always going to be a tough message that points people right past me, straight on to him. So up next, the highest achievement in this process won't be living your best life. But something very different. We'll dig into that when we come back right after this.

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So number three, number three, if you're gonna live your best life, is how can you serve God? Use your search for your best life as a form of worship, to the very one who made you. So here's the key thought here. Mankind is not an end in itself, the chief aim of mankind, believe it or not. And you've probably heard this, but we probably don't really get this a lot of time. How do we know that because we don't see a lot of people doing it. The chief aim of mankind is to glorify God. Taking all of our creative energies and worshiping the one who gave them to us, is part of living our best lives. Let me say that again, when we take the creative energies that God already put in us, and we use those specific energies to worship God, that is part of living our best life. As we go through our Bible study, we do a Bible study on Tuesday nights. And one of the things that I often will say to our Ecclesia is, Hey, folks, everybody here is wired, with gifts and talents from God, seek, look inside, dig, pray, find out what those gifts and talents are and bring those to the group to the community. There is no hierarchy and the body of Christ. Although we see it all the time, in churches, and all over the place where we see this hierarchy. That is not what he set up. Every one of you, every one of us has gifts and talents of God. And if we're not utilizing them, it's because we come from bad teaching that only some special person has that. Right? Only some special pastor or some special singer in a in a worship band or something like those are the ones that actually truly have the talents and gifts from God. That is absolutely false. God, in every believer has imprinted implanted himself. And he has gifts and talents for every single one of us. The question is, what does he put on you? What's inside of you that you can use to start worshiping Him? And what we say here is by serving other people, how do you take the gifts and talents that he's putting you in worship God, by serving others with those very gifts and talents? So something that is important for us to understand is that who were living, who we're being right now may not be the very authentic being that God created inside of us. Most every single person that we see has this chasm between who they authentically are and who they're living out. So what are the things that can't tell you who you really are, and what you're really meant to do? Let's take a look your circumstances, they can't tell you who you really are in what you're meant to do. Your past experiences, they can't tell you who you are, they don't define who you are. Now, however, there is one great benefit to your past experiences. It does tend to guide and direct us if we use those past experiences, to make better decisions that will help us in better decision making. But it still doesn't tell you who you really are and what you're meant to do. And your failures or successes. The great thing about failure is if we actually learn from our failures, then we learn to make better decisions. What's the great thing about successes, it points out how much better it is to learn from our failures, right? There is a great line in a movie that we just absolutely love. It's called a good year, where this uncle is telling his nephew that he should celebrate his losses the same way he celebrates his victories. A man learns nothing from winning. But he learns a lot from losing. One of those things is how much greater it is to win. So think about it if we use those failures, and we learn instead of hide from them instead of be ashamed of them. If we learn from our failures. Then it teaches us how to make better decisions. However, even all of that still doesn't tell us who we really are and what we're meant to do. The only thing that can tell you who you are, is the One who created you. The only one who can give you worse, and actual, actual literal words. I mean, like, literally something that lasts longer than five minutes, is the One who created you. So how can you begin today, using your time, your talents, your resources, your God given wiring, to give back to the one who's given us everything.

It starts with taking a really hard look at who you are, what you've been through what you've experienced, what you're doing, right, what you're doing wrong, discovering all those things that are holding you back from being the person that he wants you to be. Believe it or not, your best life isn't this ridiculous idea of being a person who's on a pedestal, a person who is admired by people, a person who's famous, your best life is not found in any of those things. If you know anybody famous, if you know, anybody who has been put on a platform, put on a stage lifted up, then I can guarantee you this, if you sit down and have an authentic conversation with them, what you will discover is, that's not their best life, it sure seemed like it would be, it sure seemed like it would make them super happy. But that's not the best life. And what they keep seeking over and over and over again, is more fame. More praise and applause. Because what they've had is not enough. Instead, if you will focus on the things that you've been through, and the things that are holding you back, and the failures and successes in life, and then take a hard look at who God wired you to be. And ask yourself, What does God want me to look like? What does my father who was a loving father, who desires the best for me, and the best isn't always what I think is the best. It's what he thinks is the best. What does he want my life to look like? And since he is my father, how much does he want me to follow His ways, not this ridiculous message that says he doesn't want me to follow his wife at all? How much does he want me to do the things that make him happy, instead of the things that make me happy, if I will focus on what's holding me back from being the best version that He created me to be. And I will start putting those things in place. And I will use it to worship him. And I will use those gifts and talents and authentic self to serve others. That's when I start to live my best life. Along the way. This is a long journey. Ask anyone who's been through next level life, there's a lot to this. It is a long journey. So here's what I want you to do. Rejoice in the journey. We here in America are the kind of people who are always looking for that destination so we can get to that destination. And once we get to the destination, then it's the if then if I get to that destination, then I'll be happy. Rejoice in the journey. Find joy in finding out who you really are. Find joy in getting unstuck in life. Find joy in finding your authentic self. Do these things. And then use all of that to worship God and also worship Him by serving others. Well, folks, I hope this has helped you today. As always, we want you to take this information, change your leadership, change your business, change your life, and join us on the next episode.