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17 | It’s Okay to be Selfish

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During LifePlan, the topic of being selfish comes up all the time and it’s always an assumed no-no. Healthy selfishness is a vital piece of living a healthy life with boundaries. If you don’t have healthy boundaries in your life, a boundary that says “stop here” or “this is my limit,” you’ll get walked all over.

If you haven’t read Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, buy a copy today!

When you begin to start setting healthy boundaries at home and at work, it changes your life. Be selfish and get rid of junk so you can be the best version of yourself. Take time to unpack your past and get healthy. If you don’t get rid of the baggage in your life, you’ll continue to carry it around and pick up more along the way.

Listen to the podcast here: https://soundcloud.com/chrislocurto/coffee-with-chris-its-okay-to

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16 | Interview with Crystal Paine

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Crystal Paine is the creator of moneysavingmom.com and author of the soon-to-be-released book, Say Goodbye to Survival Mode. On today’s podcast, Crystal and I talk about not quitting and how she turned Money Saving Mom into one of the highest-trafficked personal finance blogs on the web.

Crystal is a true entrepreneur and built her thriving business on a shoe string budget by becoming a self-taught expert on search engine optimization, web development and social media. She shares her insight on Facebook and Pinterest as well as building a virtual team and serving people.

You don’t want to miss this information! https://soundcloud.com/chrislocurto/crystal-paine-interview

Pre-order Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine now and check out my Q&A Series Video, Dinner with Crystal Paine.

Question: What inspired you from this interview?

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15 | You Get What You Give

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This is the gift-giving time of year and there’s no greater blessing in life than to be a giver. Many of you are small business owners, entrepreneurs and team leaders but let me remind you – your business is what you do not who you are. When you make your business your life, you’re missing out on life. You’re sure not able to give of yourself either.

Colossians 3:12 – You must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

There’s only one way to clothe yourself with mercy and kindness and patience and that’s to take care of yourself. I’m not telling you to be selfish, but if you don’t take care of you, you don’t have anything else to give.

As you take time this holiday to step away from work, make sure that you’re scheduling time to replenish, exercise and create balance in your life. Going forward into the new year:

  • How are you going to replenish you?
  • What are the things you need to be doing to be the absolute best you?

When you do these things, you can pour yourself out into other people. You get what you give. Take care of yourself and help those around you be the best they can be.

Merry Christmas!

 

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Discover What Motivates You [Video]

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What do you value in life and at work? Are you passionate about your job? Are you working in your strengths? What do your team members value? Are they in the right seats on the bus?

When you’re committing eight hours of every work day to work, shouldn’t you be doing something you really love? I’ve spent the past decade understanding personality styles and helping people work and communicate in their strengths. Today, I’m releasing a new VALUES Motivators Test to take you and your team even further by discovering what motivates you.

Check out the video and then click the Instant Access button to start your VALUES Test!

For leaders, having a team member in a position where their motivators aren’t utilized can be a huge waste of time, energy, and money. It is vital to have team members operating in their strengths with both their Personality Style and Values!

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12 | Hurt People Hurt People

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I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! For some of you, it’s a fantastic time of year. For others (and quite possibly people on your team), this whole holiday season is difficult.

There are people around you that may be hurting right now and lashing out. In fact, you may be one of those hurt people hurting other people. You can only take responsibility for yourself but take the responsibility. Be aware of those around you and understand that especially during this time of year, emotions are high.

Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/chrislocurto/the-chris-locurto-show-hurt

“When you can’t fix yourself, you’re frustrated with the broken people in your life.” (tweet this)

If you want to dig deeper into the information I shared today, check out my 2-day coaching event on gaining perspective from your past and creating a LifePlan for your future. I also highly recommend Dr. Henry Cloud’s exceptional book:

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Be sure to download the single, “Naughty List,” featured at the end of today’s podcast! Our very own Melissa co-wrote the song and is in a fantastic big band jazz trio called The North Pole Patrol. It’ll definitely get you in the Christmas spirit!

Question: What steps are you going to take to fix YOU?

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You’re No Good To Me!

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If you’re like me, you have a tendency to work your Gluteus Maximus off to make your business the best it can possibly be. If so, then I know how tired you are right now.

I can tell you that after doing an incredible amount of events back-to-back, I’M TIRED! If there is one thing I have come to understand, it’s that I can’t continuously give out, without recharging ME.

If I don’t have energy to give to you, I’m no good to you. And the truth is, if you don’t have the energy to give to me, you’re no good to me either!

That’s why I decided to take a few days and go back home to do…wait for it…nothing! Yep. I finished my last event in a run of events, and flew straight to Tahoe.

I got into Reno, walked off the plane, got my bags, headed out the doors, and took one HUGE breath. I can’t tell you how incredible it is for me to fill my lungs up with that air. And it was even better when I got to Tahoe.

Over the next few days, I enjoyed coffee at the Coffee Bar in Truckee, had a killer workout, took a stretching class to try and work out some of my insanely tight muscles, had some incredible meals, and spent the rest of the time starting at the beauty in front of me.

And I praised God for sending me snow. Okay, maybe it wasn’t JUST for me, but I received it BIG time. I also answered an extremely small amount of emails or texts (sorry team!). Which is why I now have 500 to go through.

And while I believe I need more than just two days of this, I feel more rejuvenated than I have in a long time.

Why am I telling you about this trip? Because I’m pretty sure most of you are overdue for a trip just like this. Or doing something that regenerates YOU.

It’s the old bank analogy right? You can only take withdrawals if you have plenty of deposits. If you’re not putting deposits in your bank, you’re no good to me, your customers, your team, and mostly your family.

So it’s time! I want you to write down the top four things that absolutely regenerate you right now. Then I want you to pull out your calendar and book some of those things!

For me, spending time in Tahoe is on the top of my list, then alone time doing something relaxing, and cooking up a storm.

If I get some of those in, I can be a much better me. If not, I’m just a drained and empty version of the guy who’s supposed to be helping people.

Don’t be that person! It seems selfish to take time for you, but I promise, everyone around you will be much happier that you did.

Question: What refuels you? 

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You Are Good Enough [Video]

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We finished up the Q&A Series a couple weeks ago and today we’re starting a new video series straight from your feedback on the reader survey! Thank you for the incredible questions, comments and ideas!

Do you ever struggle with the feeling that you haven’t achieved enough or accomplished enough? It’s not a question of “Am I good enough?” it’s an absolute feeling of “I am not good enough.” Clear it out of your mind. The truth is, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!

Take a few minutes and make three columns on a sheet of paper:

1st column: Write down every person or situation that has made you feel like you aren’t good enough. This will help you gain perspective on where the feelings came from. We’re not making monsters or victims.

2nd column: Write down everything you’ve achieved or accomplished in life. This is difficult. Take time to discover what these things are. We’re terrible at celebrating our victories.

3rd column: Write down a list of people that you’ve possibly made feel like they aren’t good enough. We’ve all done it. Pick out a few people that you’re going to talk to this week and let them know that they are good enough.

If you can never be satisfied with what you have achieved, you’ll never be satisfied with what you do achieve.

Today, come to a place of understanding that you are good enough!

Question: How have you affirmed or encouraged people on your team?

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They Should Teach This In School!

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In today’s post I answer a question from a podcast listener about personality styles!

Hi Chris. Thanks for the podcast. From your teaching, our team is reading “Good to Great” by Jim Collins. We’re exploring questions like the following:

  1. What are our collective strengths?
  2. What are we collectively passionate about?
  3. What services are demanded by the market that utilize our strengths and passion?

Please know we appreciate you, your team, and your teaching.

I had a quick question regarding personality styles. My wife is a college professor. We enjoy teaming up to support professional educators. Do you feel that the teaching of the DISC profile can help professional educators in high school or college?

Thanks for all you do! – Michael Prosario

Great question, Michael! First let me say Good to Great is VITAL for team wins and business growth! So good choice with that one.

As for understanding DISC helping teachers…

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3 | Do What You Love

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Todays Coffee With Chris podcast is all about doing what you love. If you’re not happy in your job or in life, make a change!

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Next week, we’re focusing the blog, podcast and video lesson on understanding personality styles. I want to hear from you! Comment below with your questions, challenges, solutions or stories and you just might be on my next podcast episode!

Question: What challenges, questions or comments do you have about understanding personality styles?

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